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To think my dd is very young to be pregnant

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Nantobeb777 · 01/05/2026 20:02

Just 23

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ItsJustMeMyself · 05/05/2026 20:23

I think any age for a first time pregnancy would make me nervous for my DD.

23 is perfectly fine.

We worry as mums, though. So, I understand. I'm on the wrong side of 40 and my DM treats me like I'm 18 for life.

LindorDoubleChoc · 05/05/2026 20:22

Sorry too late to edit - the GP were 18 and 23 when they became parents, not GP.

LindorDoubleChoc · 05/05/2026 19:55

(disguising sex for privacy) I've just found out that a young person in my family is going to become a parent in 2026. They were born in 2003 (same year as my son who is still at University) and will be 23 when the baby is born. Their parents had them when they were 33 and 37. Everyone in the family including one set of GP who were 18 and 23 when they became GP absolutely definitely think they are young to be a parent. But perhaps in this young adults's case it's a lot to do with their general maturity as a person.

BunnyLake · 05/05/2026 08:05

FriendshipDynamic · 02/05/2026 07:54

IMO the fact people are leaving it so late to have children now is leading to a grandparentless generation. We’re changing the dynamic of family and society.

soon it will be rare for people in their 40’s and 50’s to still have extended family and even parents, and that’s not a good thing.

I agree. I had my children late and I’m very aware that they won’t have the same family dynamics I had when I was say, 40. I still had my parents, my aunts and uncles in their 60s (never had gp). By the time mine are 40 everyone is either going to be decrepid or dead.

BunnyLake · 05/05/2026 07:58

Cherrytree86 · 02/05/2026 15:34

So long as she’s doesn’t live with you and can support herself it’s ok

Do you mean kick her out? What do you mean by ‘so long?’

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Nantobeb777 · 04/05/2026 22:04

Cherrytree86 · 02/05/2026 15:34

So long as she’s doesn’t live with you and can support herself it’s ok

She does

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Cherrytree86 · 02/05/2026 15:34

So long as she’s doesn’t live with you and can support herself it’s ok

FedUpOfThisGCSEmalarkey · 02/05/2026 15:08

OP isn’t coming back, people.

myglowupera · 02/05/2026 14:05

YABVU. I had two by the time I was 23 and I was beyond happy.

I really hope you haven’t told her she’s too young and you keep your thoughts to yourself. You have no right to put doubts in to her head.

ZoeCM · 02/05/2026 13:36

Look at all the women who are taking ethically dubious routes to parenthood (surrogacy, donor eggs) because they waited until too late to have children. And if anyone points out the ethical concerns, they try to shut the discussion down by playing the "you don't understand the pain of infertility" card, as though there's no way they could possibly have known that fertility declines with age.

Your daughter is taking responsibility for her own fertility and having a baby at the healthiest point to do so. Good for her.

Scarlettpixie · 02/05/2026 12:59

What are you worried about? I don't think 23 is too young. I wanted a baby at 23. Had it happened it would have been fine. As it was I was 34. Also fine.

Calliopespa · 02/05/2026 12:34

HereAndNo · 02/05/2026 09:06

I know. It’s just stupid. They are probably the kind of parents who think that because their kids are adults on their18th birthdays, they can kick them out.

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Yes, either that or I sometimes wonder if they are very young and resent having their own parents point things out when they are plainly taking poor decisions. disagree.

Girlwithavibe · 02/05/2026 09:28

I was 23 and turned 24 10 days after having my 1st child .
I am 50 this year and he will be 26. ! It's a fabulous age to have a baby lots of energy and still young to enjoy them as adults / friends socialising !
Plus she is at her most fertile and healthy age to have a baby !

Myli1 · 02/05/2026 09:08

Absolutely not! I thought you were going to say she’s 15 or something! 23 is a perfect age IMO, old enough to cope mentally and emotionally and still young enough to be at peak physical fitness.

HereAndNo · 02/05/2026 09:06

Calliopespa · 01/05/2026 22:16

In fact it's none of your business.

Why do people say this kind of thing?

It's really normal to take an interest in one's children and worry about their decisions.

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I know. It’s just stupid. They are probably the kind of parents who think that because their kids are adults on their18th birthdays, they can kick them out.

HereAndNo · 02/05/2026 08:57

I would hate my daughter to be pregnant at 23. I think it’s unlikely, with her being at university and hearing about her hopes and dreams for the next few years.

RS1987 · 02/05/2026 08:01

I think 23 is a lovely age to have a baby. If I had had my first 10 years earlier I think I’d have ended up having 3 or 4. I wouldn’t change a thing about my life, don’t get me wrong, but there are more than one way to do things.

FriendshipDynamic · 02/05/2026 07:54

IMO the fact people are leaving it so late to have children now is leading to a grandparentless generation. We’re changing the dynamic of family and society.

soon it will be rare for people in their 40’s and 50’s to still have extended family and even parents, and that’s not a good thing.

HoppingPavlova · 02/05/2026 07:54

Yep, I think it’s too young. I’d be disappointed if my child as I can’t imagine how they would be well set up at 23yo. I have kids older than that, uni educated, well paying professional jobs, mainly have their shit together but they are nowhere near being set up enough to consider kids.

GoldMoon · 02/05/2026 07:44

I was 21 & 25 . I also think it depends on how mature and where you are in life etc that matters .

Wecanbeheroes26 · 02/05/2026 07:33

Yep. But to each their own.

Gibstub · 02/05/2026 07:24

Great age to be pregnant. Fertility starts going backwards at 25.

FedUpOfThisGCSEmalarkey · 02/05/2026 07:20

231 responses and OP, unsurprisingly, has not been back.

BlueMum16 · 02/05/2026 07:12

Has she got her shit together? Job? Partner? Home?

If so, I don't see age being a factor.

Joeythehurler · 02/05/2026 07:10

Yes she is. I’d be depressed if she is. It’s early to have such a huge life changing event.