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AIBU to not have had a night away from my children?

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Moreroardinosaur · 01/05/2026 19:28

The reason I’m asking is because a colleague is away for the weekend. She came back to work in January after having a baby, so her DD is around 16/17 months now. She also mentioned she had a weekend away in February.

My DS is now five and I have a two year old as well. I’ve yet to have a night away as DD still doesn’t sleep through and I’m not sure DH would wake up / be able to sort her (she can be a bit funny overnight.) Is it just me?

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Elizabeta · 01/05/2026 19:35

It’s fine if you don’t want time away. But it’s very, very odd that the children’s own father can’t be trusted to look after them (whether that’s because of anxiety from you or incompetence from him)

Fizbosshoes · 01/05/2026 19:33

YANBU if you don't think that would work for you.
Colleague is not being unreasonable if she left her child with someone that cared for them, to have a night or w/e away.
There isnt a right or wrong answer.

Fwiw, i went away for a week when DC were 4 and 1, and the 4 year old didnt sleep through the night.

oldestmumaintheworld · 01/05/2026 19:33

What do you want? A medal! Don't be a martyr.

Fraughtmum · 01/05/2026 19:33

Why doesnt DH get up?

Covidwoes · 01/05/2026 19:32

I had my first night away when DD was 7 months. DH was more than capable. We have 2 DDs now, and I have been away when they were similar ages to yours. Your DH needs to get a grip!

Plummagic · 01/05/2026 19:32

Perhaps it's time you did then. I'm sure your DH would cope.

ShetlandishMum · 01/05/2026 19:30

I had gone crazy if dh couldn't do a night without me. I haven't been a lot away but once in a while.