Pretend you're swallowing a big piece of meat.

Flowersforyourchocolateprettyplease · 2026-05-01T16:23:31+00:00

Have been to the hospital for a Gastroscopy. Consultant came to have a chat before the procedure, just him and I in the little room. He explained what would be happening and said " as the tube goes down, pretend you're swallowing a big piece of meat". I was nervous about the procedure and once it was done, I was chatting to a male friend and mentioned the comment above. Friend says to report him as that's unacceptable language from a professional and thinks it was a sexual innuendo. Also thinks it would have been inappropriate to a vegan or someone with eating issues. YABU : It was an innocent remark. YANBU: Dirty minded consultant.

ShesRunningOutTheDoor · 07/05/2026 09:26

@MarriedTwiceOneGrownUpDaughter i really hope you are being sarcastic.
he is a clinician trying to help a patient by using simple layman’s language. Most of us have had to swallow a dry lump of meat (no euphemism here) in our lives. So it’s a simple relatable instruction.
if you are not being sarcastic you seem q unhinged and of need of a good lie down

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Flowersforyourchocolateprettyplease · 06/05/2026 07:46

MarriedTwiceOneGrownUpDaughter · 05/05/2026 10:05

OP: I think it was a waste of your time posting this on Mumsnet (unless you're studying psychology, as I am, in which case it's an excellent case study into gaslighting, group behavioural dynamics, victim-blaming and how misogyny is enabled by women). Moving forward, you need to report this creep. I wouldn't waste time going to the medical council; it could take years to investigate and meanwhile he could do much worse - the gross sexual innuendo is pervy enough, the fact that he's speaking like this to a random patient with obviously no fear of being reprimanded by his seniors is actually more disturbing: he feels invincible, untouchable (ironically). What is he doing in secret if this is how he speaks openly? What might he do to a very vulnerable patient? Report him in confidence (it's called a Protected Disclosure and there's no risk that you'll be sued, or punished by his colleagues - even if they're enabling him / turning a blind eye, they will quickly distance themselves from him once they know he's under investigation). Go to the police. Just tell them what he said to you, a female patient.

Thank you for taking time, you'll have lots of material just from this post 😅.

People with little comprehension,
Rude people,
Angry people,
People who think they're clever whilst showing their ignorance.
People who think I'm being U, yet posting nonsensical responses.
People who think they're contributing an original take.
People who can't answer a simple question.

Quite on the nose about the misogyny by women too.

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OonaStubbs · 05/05/2026 21:53

How else could he have explained what it feels like, in laymans terms?

Ladygodalmighty · 05/05/2026 15:10

Speechless! ❄️🤪

KoiTetra · 05/05/2026 11:21

Did the consultant give you a wink and a nudge nudge as he said it? No... then your friend is being a twat and the consultant was doing his job and trying to be helpful!

Lets stop trying to twist and turn everything into a drama before people are scared to open their mouths (sorry can I say that or is it an innuendo!).

Boomer55 · 05/05/2026 11:19

Your friend sounds a bit batshit. Not everything is about sex. 🙄

TenThousandSpoons · 05/05/2026 11:01

I’m with your friend. A big piece of meat is an innuendo and I wouldn’t want a dr to say this to me or my daughter.

Thehandinthecookiejar · 05/05/2026 10:53

Think it’s your friend who has the dirty mind 😂

Squirrel60 · 05/05/2026 10:52

You ARE being unreasonable. I've never had a Gastro, have no idea of what happens, but it sounds like the doctor was just telling you how it would feel when the tube goes down your throat. I'd much rather he tells me that, out straight, instead of not saying anything at all, which is what has happened when I'd had to have tubes up my nose, medics not explained what it feels like and just basically shoved them up there, it's soddin' awful!

Your friend is the one who is wrong and was the one sexualizing it. Blame him, not the doctor!

MarriedTwiceOneGrownUpDaughter · 05/05/2026 10:05

OP: I think it was a waste of your time posting this on Mumsnet (unless you're studying psychology, as I am, in which case it's an excellent case study into gaslighting, group behavioural dynamics, victim-blaming and how misogyny is enabled by women). Moving forward, you need to report this creep. I wouldn't waste time going to the medical council; it could take years to investigate and meanwhile he could do much worse - the gross sexual innuendo is pervy enough, the fact that he's speaking like this to a random patient with obviously no fear of being reprimanded by his seniors is actually more disturbing: he feels invincible, untouchable (ironically). What is he doing in secret if this is how he speaks openly? What might he do to a very vulnerable patient? Report him in confidence (it's called a Protected Disclosure and there's no risk that you'll be sued, or punished by his colleagues - even if they're enabling him / turning a blind eye, they will quickly distance themselves from him once they know he's under investigation). Go to the police. Just tell them what he said to you, a female patient.

MoonWoman69 · 04/05/2026 21:59

🙄

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Flowersforyourchocolateprettyplease · 04/05/2026 21:26

MoonWoman69 · 04/05/2026 12:43

I was awake during mine, just had numbing spray in my throat. Wasn't a problem at all once they'd got the camera down past my gag reflex. It's not exactly open heart surgery without anaesthetic is it?! 🙄

So because it was ok for you, everyone else who's said it wasn't is wrong?

People have different pain/discomfort thresholds.

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MoonWoman69 · 04/05/2026 19:54

@Additup I watched all of mine too, up and down! And weirdly, I've seen the inside of my mates womb! All cobwebby, it was weird! Only because she wanted me there, so that she could break my hand, as she wouldn't have an anaesthetic! She was having fertility investigations. And as I wasn't at the business end, I was seated with the screen in front of me! So I saw my godson when he was the size of half a baked bean, because it turned out she was actually pregnant. I told her what I'd seen afterwards, the consultant never mentioned it at the time. And I said I reckoned she was pregnant! Turned out she was!

Additup · 04/05/2026 19:03

MoonWoman69 · 04/05/2026 12:43

I was awake during mine, just had numbing spray in my throat. Wasn't a problem at all once they'd got the camera down past my gag reflex. It's not exactly open heart surgery without anaesthetic is it?! 🙄

Me too, its fine as long as you stay calm. In fact I actually worked in the department where I had mine and was done before the list started by my colleagues. It was displayed on a big tv screen so I've actually seen inside my own stomach 😅

I've also seen my own cervix, but that's another story 😁

OP, your friend is an idiot and you need to have a serious word with yourself for listening to them.

MoonWoman69 · 04/05/2026 12:43

I was awake during mine, just had numbing spray in my throat. Wasn't a problem at all once they'd got the camera down past my gag reflex. It's not exactly open heart surgery without anaesthetic is it?! 🙄

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Flowersforyourchocolateprettyplease · 04/05/2026 10:00

Statsquestion1 · 01/05/2026 19:00

Hang on….you were awake??!!

Awake as thought it was a light procedure, lesson learnt as it wasn't.

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Flowersforyourchocolateprettyplease · 04/05/2026 09:56

MoonWoman69 · 03/05/2026 12:47

Absolute best reply on here! 🤣🤣🤣

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Birds of a feather.

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Flowersforyourchocolateprettyplease · 03/05/2026 16:16

MarriedTwiceOneGrownUpDaughter · 03/05/2026 12:40

Are people here deliberately pretending not to understand, to gaslight the OP? No wonder women are afraid to report sexual harassment or even confide in other women.

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True, agree or disagree, there are ways to put one's point across without insults.

I remember at 16 being told by a male doctor to always be vigilant when being seen alone by a male doctor.
He could have been advising innocently, but according to some on here, he must have a dirty mind if that's what he thinks of other doctors.

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Flowersforyourchocolateprettyplease · 03/05/2026 16:09

AJLOAL · 03/05/2026 11:01

A lot of responses, including OP's focus on the anaesthetic offered not to medical professionals language. 🙄
Such wokeism.

The post was about the language, moved on to anaesthetic which I commented on.

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AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 03/05/2026 14:24

"Digestive, suggestive. Nudge, nudge, wink, wink, know what I mean?"

Or as someone once put it: everything's either concave or -vex, so whatever you dream will be something with sex. (I think this may be one of Piet Hein's Grooks.)

MoonWoman69 · 03/05/2026 12:48

MarriedTwiceOneGrownUpDaughter · 03/05/2026 12:40

Are people here deliberately pretending not to understand, to gaslight the OP? No wonder women are afraid to report sexual harassment or even confide in other women.

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And the most ridiculous response! Are you the OPs weirdo mate?!

MoonWoman69 · 03/05/2026 12:47

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Absolute best reply on here! 🤣🤣🤣

MarriedTwiceOneGrownUpDaughter · 03/05/2026 12:40

Are people here deliberately pretending not to understand, to gaslight the OP? No wonder women are afraid to report sexual harassment or even confide in other women.

LienekeS · 03/05/2026 11:44

Your friend is totally ridiculous. I worked in that department and yes that is what is being said. People like her are a huge problem in today’s society.

AJLOAL · 03/05/2026 11:01

A lot of responses, including OP's focus on the anaesthetic offered not to medical professionals language. 🙄
Such wokeism.