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Is this fair?

214 replies

notgivinga · 01/05/2026 14:15

One of my nieces was getting married later in the summer, but last week it was all called off.
she had a hen party booked abroad and everyone going has paid nearly £300 as a deposit which has now obviously been lost.
she has now written in the group that she is so sorry but they all need to pay a cancellation fee of just under £100.
Do you think this fair. Just as an aside the wedding is off as she was texting other men.
BTW it’s not me going but my daughter

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Sidebeforeself · 01/05/2026 14:22

AlohaOptima · 01/05/2026 14:21

I would still go and have a girls holiday instead. Not fair to pay another £100

But surely if you went that would cost you even more in spending money?!

I wouldn’t go and I would tell her she’s got to cover the costs herself

AnneLovesGilbert · 01/05/2026 14:21

Cheeky mare. Obviously no, she torpedoed her wedding and expects other people to pay extra not to go to her hen do?! Her ex has had a lucky escape.

AlohaOptima · 01/05/2026 14:21

I would still go and have a girls holiday instead. Not fair to pay another £100

LadyDanburysHat · 01/05/2026 14:20

Asking the hens to pay is outrageous, either they go ahead with it, or she covers the costs.

Upsetbetty · 01/05/2026 14:20

No I wouldn’t pay that! Her fault it’s cancelled tbh.

nutsfornuts · 01/05/2026 14:19

Given she's going to be saving a chunk on the wedding I would expect the bride to pay that.

Aloesue · 01/05/2026 14:19

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ihearyoucalling · 01/05/2026 14:19

They should just go rather than pay £400 not to go ...

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5128gap · 01/05/2026 14:18

Purplewarrior · 01/05/2026 14:17

No. I would not pay. Why can’t the hens go anyway and just enjoy it as a holiday? It would be different if Bride to Be was the injured party.

I was thinking this. Any reason why those who want to go can't?

HeadingforaHundred · 01/05/2026 14:18

How many are going? Do you think it would be financially viable for the bride to cover it herself?

Hecatee · 01/05/2026 14:17

No chance would I be paying that.

Purplewarrior · 01/05/2026 14:17

No. I would not pay. Why can’t the hens go anyway and just enjoy it as a holiday? It would be different if Bride to Be was the injured party.

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 01/05/2026 14:16

Oooh, tricky.

but no, not fair.