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Those who have phonecalls on public transport on loudspeaker.

62 replies

JJkate · 01/05/2026 10:08

A direct question to those who do this. Can you please explain to me why?

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JJkate · 02/05/2026 08:05

There are definitely some people who seem to enjoy it. Almost like it's a performance.

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JJkate · 02/05/2026 08:03

@EnjoythemoneyJane so they just don't care or really don't realise. People are mad.

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Fizbosshoes · 02/05/2026 08:00

I feel annoyed by it daily on my commute. Even talking loudly not on speaker phone im surprised at what info people dont mind other people listening to! (Personal, medical, credit card numbers etc)
On another thread, several people said their phone was broken and this was the only option.
I hate talking on the phone on the train, I'll only answer if its work related or kids school.

EnjoythemoneyJane · 02/05/2026 07:59

JJkate · 01/05/2026 15:46

I'm dying to hear from someone to please explain why they do it? Even on face time you can wear headphones. Why do you listen to music or have phones calls on loudspeaker? Please tell me?

This exact thread ran about 10 days ago.

The people who answered your question fell into two camps - predictably, there were the entitled, aggressive ‘I’ll do what I want and what’s it to you?’ twats, but there were also those who seemed genuinely baffled that this was seen as antisocial. They apparently had no idea it pisses other passengers off, and my guess is they’re probably younger and have grown up with this being the norm.

My favourite deterrent story on that thread was the bloke who just joined in with a stranger’s loud telephone conversation, saying he thought it was fair as the caller was obviously including everyone else in the carriage in the chat!

Bubblewrapart · 02/05/2026 07:39

PlumPuddingandGravy · 01/05/2026 11:12

To be fair, it’s quite a useful way of identifying who’s an arsehole and who isn’t.

Bring back the laughing emoji!!!

Kimura · 02/05/2026 07:38

I have a pair of very expensive noise-cancelling headphones, sometimes on trains I just switch them on with no music. Great for crying children, teenagers playing music, adults on speakerphone and occasionally missing my stop 😭

stillhiding1990 · 02/05/2026 07:36

IwouldifIcouldreachit · 02/05/2026 07:27

My DD is Deaf and uses BSL. On occasion - because I don't want to get beaten up - i have interpreted the loud conversation for her. It's amazing how long it takes someone to realise you are signing about them. Twice I've been called out on it , but mostly people do have the grace to lower their voice. (The first time: "You copying what I'm saying??" Me: "No!" (which I then very obviously interpreted). The second time, " No, I'm Deaf, I can't hear you." which they seemed to accept...)

Why would you get beaten up? You sign their conversation to your daughter? Why?

Seymour5 · 02/05/2026 07:36

An idiot was playing some sort of ‘music’ on the tram recently, very loudly. I just happened to have a recording of a pipe band on my phone, bagpipes are not to everyone’s taste! Some of the other older passengers were chuckling. He switched his off pretty quickly, and peace reigned again. I really dislike the selfishness that seems to have become the norm for so many.

Winnieis · 02/05/2026 07:31

I was on a busy bus once with someone booking a restaurant table on loud speaker. They then gave their full credit card details out loud to reserve it. Which was then repeated back out loud by the restaurant. Honestly people are absolutely stupid at times.

IwouldifIcouldreachit · 02/05/2026 07:27

My DD is Deaf and uses BSL. On occasion - because I don't want to get beaten up - i have interpreted the loud conversation for her. It's amazing how long it takes someone to realise you are signing about them. Twice I've been called out on it , but mostly people do have the grace to lower their voice. (The first time: "You copying what I'm saying??" Me: "No!" (which I then very obviously interpreted). The second time, " No, I'm Deaf, I can't hear you." which they seemed to accept...)

Okbyethen · 02/05/2026 07:24

I just assume the cretins who do this must be pretty thick.
They're obviously too dumb to realise how irritating they're being.

JJkate · 02/05/2026 07:13

oldestmumaintheworld · 02/05/2026 05:54

The answer might be 'they've seen it on TV/movies and think it's cool'. This suggests that they are irredeemably stupid.
My tactic (because I'm old and don't care) is to lean over and say " I don't think you realise but everyone can hear your conversation." My children hate me when I do and I know it's a bit of a dick move but it works.

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paradisecircus · 02/05/2026 07:04

Can't stand this, and I like the fact nobody has come on here to say they think it's fine. I like taking calls on loudspeaker rather than with the phone to my ear, but in private fgs, not public. Another similar bugbear (again, usually on trains!) is when people are messaging so allow their phone to constantly beep. You are literally sitting there looking at your phone; you can see the messages coming in - put it on silent.

ChopstickNovice · 02/05/2026 07:00

It's unbelievably irritating.
I once asked someone to please turn their music down and got told unceremoniously to "fuck right off." So that pretty much confirmed me to me that they were awful.

Bjorkdidit · 02/05/2026 06:52

The woman on the train last week said, in a confident voice 'could you turn that down. Please. You're annoying everyone'.

oldestmumaintheworld · 02/05/2026 06:13

Foughties you're a genius. I now have an alternative opening. 'Sorry, don't you know how to use your phone, can I help?' That's so mean but very tempting.

Foughties · 02/05/2026 05:58

Yeah I think it started on reality tv where the cameras would need to hear both sides of the conversation. So people started mimicking it thinking it was cool, plus people being so self absorbed. Its now just a thing. Awful. How embarrassing not to know how to use a phone.

oldestmumaintheworld · 02/05/2026 05:54

The answer might be 'they've seen it on TV/movies and think it's cool'. This suggests that they are irredeemably stupid.
My tactic (because I'm old and don't care) is to lean over and say " I don't think you realise but everyone can hear your conversation." My children hate me when I do and I know it's a bit of a dick move but it works.

JMSA · 02/05/2026 05:14

fashionqueen0123 · 01/05/2026 21:44

A girl was doing this on a train I was on, only about 3 of us in the carriage. I couldn’t understand why she’d want us to hear? So I looked at her and made it clear I was listening right in. She seemed surprised! And then turned it down a bit and put it closer to her ear. Before going back to it a few mins later. When I looked over again 🤣 like surely it’s obvious I could hear?!

Some people honestly think the world revolves around them! 😆

indigorising · 01/05/2026 21:52

And yet people are all over organisations regarding GDPR 🤷🏻‍♀️

I used to love travelling on public transport, particularly trains. Quiet and time to read. Now it’s like travelling through a funfair.

fashionqueen0123 · 01/05/2026 21:44

A girl was doing this on a train I was on, only about 3 of us in the carriage. I couldn’t understand why she’d want us to hear? So I looked at her and made it clear I was listening right in. She seemed surprised! And then turned it down a bit and put it closer to her ear. Before going back to it a few mins later. When I looked over again 🤣 like surely it’s obvious I could hear?!

JJkate · 01/05/2026 21:39

garlictwist · 01/05/2026 21:28

Oh God. I was on the train yesterday. On one side there was a guy texting whose phone kept dinging and announcing in a bizarre Mickey Mouse type voice “text message!”

On the other side a guy having a video call on loudspeaker. It wasn’t even in English so I couldn’t even eavesdrop and both kept massively distracting me from my book.

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garlictwist · 01/05/2026 21:28

Oh God. I was on the train yesterday. On one side there was a guy texting whose phone kept dinging and announcing in a bizarre Mickey Mouse type voice “text message!”

On the other side a guy having a video call on loudspeaker. It wasn’t even in English so I couldn’t even eavesdrop and both kept massively distracting me from my book.

03cg73 · 01/05/2026 21:06

This was me a few months ago 🙈 my phone was broken and could only hear the other person when on speakerphone. For about a week it was the only way I could answer the phone. I know how annoying it is, it drives me mad too. I tried so hard to avoid answering the phone in public 😂

JJkate · 01/05/2026 20:14

:) thanks for making chuckle everyone. It's fucking mad!

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