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Completely outrageous dog owner behaviour

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Onepeople · 30/04/2026 21:36

Went for a walk this evening. We live by the sea and my walking route was along the sea front, popular with dog walkers. I am often bothered by dogs off their leads coming up and sniffing me, running round my ankles etc. I find it bloody annoying and inconsiderate really but, whatever.

Tonight though. Dog comes running up to me, leaps up and covers my trousers with his muddy paws. This annoys me and I tell the owner to control her animal. She gives the typical 'He's only saying hello!' response, which always makes me wonder whether I should go up to dog owners and slobber all over them as it's 'only saying hello' apparently. Anyway, the dog carries on jumping up at my so I kick out at it to make it go away.

Obviously in an ideal world I wouldnt have needed to do this. And I kicked out at it, rather than actually kicking it. I knew I wouldn't actually make contact.

Owner comes running up to me, suddenly showing a burst of speed she wasn't capable of when the dog was misbehaving. She screams 'Dont you dare kick my fucking dog!' then shoves me with two hands right in my chest. I almost lost my balance, but just about stayed upright before her friend dragged her away. I honestly thought she was going to punch me.

Not sure why I am writing this other than the fact that I am still a bit shocked and shaky.

I know that not all dog owners are like this, and that this woman seems to be particularly twatty. But God sometimes I hate them all. Bloody dogs and their bloody inconsiderate owners. Control your animals!

OP posts:
Maray1967 · 30/04/2026 23:11

ItsANewDawnItsANewDayItsANewLife · 30/04/2026 22:50

Why what would you do?

Push her back. Hard.

TerrysNeapolitan · 30/04/2026 23:10

Report local police. Owner has a dog in public uncontrolled. She has then assaulted you. Your friends is a witness.

VanityUnit66 · 30/04/2026 23:09

Ring the police - she’s assaulted you

Mumofoneandone · 30/04/2026 23:03

Other dog owner is in the wrong. Their dog was out of control and they then assaulted you when you dealt with their problem dog.
You're also not out of order for kicking out at a dog.....
FWIW I was accused of kicking a dog when all I'd done was put my leg out as a block between it and my dog/children. Dog was off lead in an area that dogs should be on their leads. Fortunately owner didn't bother coming anywhere near me......

BiteSizedLife · 30/04/2026 23:01

Yellowsubmarineunderthesea · 30/04/2026 22:51

Just like a dog might instinctively greet another person by saying an unwanted hallo, a person can also act instinctively by kicking out. I'm extremely cautious around dogs after getting bitten by a dog when I was a kid, a dog jumping on/at me to say hallo, invariably causes my to react instinctively be it by a kick out, run away or shout. I know you're not supposed to do this around a dog but hey ho, it's me being frightened. Control your bloody dogs

I get what you're saying but my post was in response of a poster saying that you should SPIT ON THE OWNER

Not quite the same is it

Mummybearsthename · 30/04/2026 22:58

Op if this happens again, if you stick your knee out, dogs can't usually jump at you and it is a good deterrent which doesn't look like you are kicking at a dog so less confrontational perhaps.

I have 3 dogs and use this technique when other people's dogs jump at me. I'd be quite happy for someone to do this with my dogs (who don't typically jump up at people because they've been trained not to) as it won't hurt them but does stop them jumping.

ItsANewDawnItsANewDayItsANewLife · 30/04/2026 22:51

WildGarden · 30/04/2026 22:39

Where are you in the UK OP where it's been wet enough lately for a dog to get muddy paws?

I've been walking the coast path this last few days - about 70 miles in total. After the last two weeks of warm dry weather the ground is baked like iron in this recent dry spell.

Really? This is your question? I live in the north of Scotland. Also in the UK. We’ve had like 4 days of dry weather.

The UK being a lot bigger than 70 miles…

Yellowsubmarineunderthesea · 30/04/2026 22:51

BiteSizedLife · 30/04/2026 22:30

if your solution to bad behaviour is worse behaviour, you’ve missed it!

Dogs dont know better, adult humans do.

Dogs arent humans.. I thought that was what we are told so often...

A human adult deliberately behaving like a poorly trained dog is just Bizarre.

Just like a dog might instinctively greet another person by saying an unwanted hallo, a person can also act instinctively by kicking out. I'm extremely cautious around dogs after getting bitten by a dog when I was a kid, a dog jumping on/at me to say hallo, invariably causes my to react instinctively be it by a kick out, run away or shout. I know you're not supposed to do this around a dog but hey ho, it's me being frightened. Control your bloody dogs

LittleGreenDragons · 30/04/2026 22:51

WildGarden · 30/04/2026 22:39

Where are you in the UK OP where it's been wet enough lately for a dog to get muddy paws?

I've been walking the coast path this last few days - about 70 miles in total. After the last two weeks of warm dry weather the ground is baked like iron in this recent dry spell.

my walking route was along the sea front

I believe the sea can be rather wet at times, under the right circumstances.

ItsANewDawnItsANewDayItsANewLife · 30/04/2026 22:50

Maray1967 · 30/04/2026 22:21

If someone pushed me in the chest after her dog jumped up at me she would seriously regret it.

Why what would you do?

Ayarreet · 30/04/2026 22:47

WildGarden · 30/04/2026 22:39

Where are you in the UK OP where it's been wet enough lately for a dog to get muddy paws?

I've been walking the coast path this last few days - about 70 miles in total. After the last two weeks of warm dry weather the ground is baked like iron in this recent dry spell.

In a swamp where they manufacture goady posts and click bait.

Ayarreet · 30/04/2026 22:46

Dogs are so much nicer than people.

alpenguin · 30/04/2026 22:40

As I said on another dog thread owners have a strict liability therefore responsibility when it comes to their dogs behaviour both on and off a lead. The owner is 100% at fault for not having their dog under full control and you were not to know if the dog would become violent - although a future tip, kicking out at a dog can be perceived as violence by the dog and it could turns a docile dog into an attacking dog very quickly. You just never know.

The owner is a dickhead.

WildGarden · 30/04/2026 22:39

Where are you in the UK OP where it's been wet enough lately for a dog to get muddy paws?

I've been walking the coast path this last few days - about 70 miles in total. After the last two weeks of warm dry weather the ground is baked like iron in this recent dry spell.

BiteSizedLife · 30/04/2026 22:34

WildGarden · 30/04/2026 22:33

This one post is proof that you should never really come to MN for advice.

If anyone round here did that they would be labelled the village weirdo tbh

WildGarden · 30/04/2026 22:33

Mischance · 30/04/2026 22:19

You should have spat on her - if she objected tell her it is no different to her dog covering your clothes in mud unrestrained.

This one post is proof that you should never really come to MN for advice.

HelpBlueOrRed · 30/04/2026 22:32

I don't blame you OP untrained dogs are fucking annoying and the entitled owners are thick as pig shit. So what if it's not the "poor dogs" fault, I still hate the dogs.

Dogsafety123 · 30/04/2026 22:32

This isn’t a “both sides” situation. Unwanted dog invading the space of a human, clearly out of control. Human very mildly discourages it without actually making contact. Dog owner assaults this person.

Both the dog and the owner were out of control and badly behaved. I cannot see what @Onepeople has done wrong. Personally I’d be reporting the assault to the police.

Devilsmommy · 30/04/2026 22:31

I absolutely would have kicked the dog and when the owner shoved me I'd have shoved her straight back. I don't give a fuck if your dog is just saying hello. I don't want muddy fucking clothes because you can't keep your dog under control. If I walked up to someone and wiped mud on their trousers they'd rightly be fucking pissed. So why is it any different for a dog?

stillchasingdereksheppard · 30/04/2026 22:30

I mean you were both in the wrong.

She should have had her dog under control or atleast apologised and removed it from the situation swiftly by recall or grabbing it. She was also totally out of line assaulting you.
However you did escalate the situation by kicking 'out' at the dog.
If the dog wasn't hurting you then you could have turned away and folded your arms to disengage or walk away. I'm not condoning either of your behaviour on this one. She's a shitty dog owner but you were unkind to an animal that wasn't aware it was doing anything 'wrong'

BiteSizedLife · 30/04/2026 22:30

Mischance · 30/04/2026 22:19

You should have spat on her - if she objected tell her it is no different to her dog covering your clothes in mud unrestrained.

if your solution to bad behaviour is worse behaviour, you’ve missed it!

Dogs dont know better, adult humans do.

Dogs arent humans.. I thought that was what we are told so often...

A human adult deliberately behaving like a poorly trained dog is just Bizarre.

anonymoususer9876 · 30/04/2026 22:27

Whilst I understand dogs with muddy paws jumping up is annoying (have had happen to me) I wouldn’t kick out towards a dog just because it’s annoying. Kicking out towards an animal could result in harm to the animal which would not sit well with me. But then, I don’t dislike or hate dogs so 🤷‍♀️

The owner’s reaction isn’t ok either.

momager1 · 30/04/2026 22:24

Onepeople · 30/04/2026 21:44

Genuine question - What is the better response that you recommend when a large and muddy dog is jumping up at me? I had already walked on from when it first got involved with me.

The owner assaulted me. Was there a response that would not have resulted in her criminal behaviour?

I am not blaming you for your response.. As a dog owner.. I keep my dogs on leads unless we are on a lonely beach (lots here) . KNEE to the chest of any dog jumping at you.if it is just a bouncy idiot..if it is snarling then ya.. kicking out at it is ok.

Girliefriendlikespuppies · 30/04/2026 22:22

I love dogs and am a dog owner but yanbu to react as you did.

If you can’t control your dog don’t let it off the lead!

Maray1967 · 30/04/2026 22:21

ExperiencedTeacher · 30/04/2026 21:42

The owner saw you kicking towards her dog. She reacted by pushing you away. She was out of order but for fuck’s sake OP, don’t kick out at dogs.

If someone pushed me in the chest after her dog jumped up at me she would seriously regret it.

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