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pleaseshutup · 2026-04-30T20:22:05+00:00

Do you let your children scream? Im talking about when they are playing, outside or in public spaces? high pitched screaming or screeching? If so why? If not, why not? Yabu: they are just children playing, leave them be. Yanbu: they should be told to stop because it’s horrible for other people to listen to.

lazyarse123 · 30/04/2026 21:49

ERthree · 30/04/2026 21:43

No, i managed to raise 3 children that didn't scream, all in their 30s now and i have never heard a single scream from them.

Me too. We lived next door to a family whose little girl could scream all day probably because her dad liked to drink and play music every time the sun came out. Competing fir attention and yes I am judging.

CinnamonJellyBeans · 30/04/2026 21:49

Screaming is a human emergency signal to warn or summon aid, not to be diminished by recreational use. I would not allow children to scream.

Blimms · 30/04/2026 21:48

pleaseshutup · 30/04/2026 21:32

“Whats your definition of the screaming and shouting?”
My definition of screaming would be the same as most people’s, you know what a scream is?
high pitched, loud,
I didnt mention shouting although I would prefer if people were more quiet in general.
Screaming is different to shouting, it sets of my fight or flight response as a warning signal and also hurts my ears.

I’m not sure what I’m
supposed to do with my ASD teenager then. I’m not letting her scream, I just can’t prevent her from doing so.

PoppinjayPolly · 30/04/2026 21:47

pleaseshutup · 30/04/2026 21:32

“Whats your definition of the screaming and shouting?”
My definition of screaming would be the same as most people’s, you know what a scream is?
high pitched, loud,
I didnt mention shouting although I would prefer if people were more quiet in general.
Screaming is different to shouting, it sets of my fight or flight response as a warning signal and also hurts my ears.

What do you mean? Children in a play park being noisy and doing what many do with the screaming sets off your flight/fight?
is that only when you can’t see that they’re just being noisy? Are you prone to catastrophic thinking?

PollyBell · 30/04/2026 21:47

Yes i stop it no one should have to put up with deliberate screaming or loud squealing

bloomonthisday · 30/04/2026 21:47

Absolutely no screaming ever. Unless your leg has fallen off. Screaming is for dire emergency only, not for fun.

AgentPidge · 30/04/2026 21:47

ERthree · 30/04/2026 21:43

No, i managed to raise 3 children that didn't scream, all in their 30s now and i have never heard a single scream from them.

Same here. I can remember DS having tantrums but not screaming.

Pricelessadvice · 30/04/2026 21:46

We were taught not to scream because it could cause people to think something was wrong. My mum always said you leave the screaming to a time when you really might need it to alert people that you are in trouble.

I absolutely hate the screaming that kids do nowadays. Parents and their “I can’t tell my child not to scream, it doesn’t work”.

UnctuousUnicorns · 30/04/2026 21:44

Hell, no. Was never allowed to scream myself as a child either. That ear piercing screeching goes right through me. Youngest is nearly seventeen so I'm way past all that shit anyway, thank fuck!

Inthenameoflove · 30/04/2026 21:44

Mine have never screamed in that high pitched way. I don’t know why though. I can’t claim to have trained them or taught them not to. They just never did it. I suspect it’s very difficult to ‘not allow’ for those naturally inclined to scream/shriek.

moomooitus · 30/04/2026 21:44

Mine was never a screecher or screamer thankfully.

WorkCleanRepeat · 30/04/2026 21:44

No I absolutely hate it, it drives me insane. If mine make a noise in the garden I call them in. If I can't stand it the neighbours certainly shouldn't have to listen to it.

thinkofsomethingdifferent · 30/04/2026 21:43

My children never screamed. Not because they were told not to, they just didn’t. But this did cause a conversation when they were older about screaming if they were ever in danger. Both of them are girls and neither of them knew how to do it!

ERthree · 30/04/2026 21:43

No, i managed to raise 3 children that didn't scream, all in their 30s now and i have never heard a single scream from them.

canuckup · 30/04/2026 21:42

Nope. Any screaming is nipped in the bud. If they don't stop, we leave/go inside. They haven't screamed for a while though (older kids)

Chocolattcoffeecup · 30/04/2026 21:42

If my children are being noisy anywhere that they might bother other people I tell them.

Everlil · 30/04/2026 21:42

You can only control you. It’s hard when others do things outside your control, but you just have to learn to adapt. I’m sure there are things I do that piss other people off!

PeopleLikeColdplayYouCantTrustPeopleJez · 30/04/2026 21:41

Not a fan of anyone screaming it just goes through me. Have always done my best to shut that shit down asap on the rare occasions my kids have started that.

DreamyJade · 30/04/2026 21:41

Are we talking about a short-lived scream of delight followed by a giggle, or prolonged screaming. I love the sound of the first, cannot stand the latter.

DreamingOfGeneHunt · 30/04/2026 21:38

No.

newornotnew · 30/04/2026 21:37

pleaseshutup · 30/04/2026 21:32

“Whats your definition of the screaming and shouting?”
My definition of screaming would be the same as most people’s, you know what a scream is?
high pitched, loud,
I didnt mention shouting although I would prefer if people were more quiet in general.
Screaming is different to shouting, it sets of my fight or flight response as a warning signal and also hurts my ears.

Kids can scream happily, as you hear from the school playground or on the beach.

It sounds like it may affect you more than others - both in terms of the noise and your emotional response.

Some people are closer to fight or flight than others. Plus we change as we age.

MidnightPatrol · 30/04/2026 21:33

I’ve never heard my children scream!

Original poster

pleaseshutup · 30/04/2026 21:32

“Whats your definition of the screaming and shouting?”
My definition of screaming would be the same as most people’s, you know what a scream is?
high pitched, loud,
I didnt mention shouting although I would prefer if people were more quiet in general.
Screaming is different to shouting, it sets of my fight or flight response as a warning signal and also hurts my ears.

OP posts:

newornotnew · 30/04/2026 21:29

In a setting where it wouldn't bother others, yes.
In a setting where it would bother others, no.

Edited to add: I don't think perfection is a reasonable expectation of children, it's about what you'd be aiming for them to understand as the norm.

Overthebow · 30/04/2026 21:29

I have two young DCs. My eldest age 5 is a screamer but my younger child isn’t. She does scream quite a lot whilst playing and just in general. She’s been referred for ASD and ADHD diagnosis and she doesn’t really have volume control, she is loud and if she’s playing she will scream sometimes. I can’t keep her inside the whole time so yes she will be loud in our garden and in public parks for example. The usual methods of disciplining don’t work on her and won’t stop the screaming anyway. To be honest I’m just happy that she’s happy and playing.