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Thank god things didnt work out the way you wanted

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Ontobetterthings · 30/04/2026 20:43

Anyone else relieved that something you really wanted didn't work out.

I was just reflecting and years ago I was so upset that I didnt get a promotion in a certain field and tried many times to move up. After the final time I completely gave up. I cried my eyes out for days and left and retrained to eventually a much better career with great prospects. I am just so relieved it did not work out. Aibu to think these things happen for a reason?

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strawberrynoodles · 30/04/2026 21:12

Yes, first marriage. The horrific divorce was so painful but with hindsight it was the best thing to happen and I’m so lucky to be out of that relationship and to have enjoyed my life so much after.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 30/04/2026 21:05

Yeah. I made mistakes that actually turned out to be good decisions - firmly believe this xx

insightnumber9 · 30/04/2026 21:04

Yes a house we lost that I cried buckets over. It all turned out for the best as it was in the “wrong” side of the railway for our commutes, and had no scope for any improvement. There was no way it would have adapted to our growing family in the way that our house has.

TeenLifeMum · 30/04/2026 20:50

I was devastated by not getting a job 3 years ago but last month the position disappeared and the person was made redundant so basically I would have been out of work at a time when the job market is awful in my field.

Eumaybe · 30/04/2026 20:48

Yes! Dream job in Japan didn’t work out, led to meeting my husband.

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