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Parent went mental at my Ddog!

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WesternAmy · 30/04/2026 17:42

Can someone please tell me how Ddog was at fault here?! We were walking on a footpath close to our house earlier, and a woman was pushing her toddler along on a sort of bike thing.

As we were passing, the toddler dropped a cuddly toy. Ddog instinctively went to pick this up (it resembled a dog toy) and I stopped him.

The woman went mental, shouted at Ddog “NO, NO” and I hurried us away.

I can tell it has impacted him, he has been really subdued since which is not like him at all.

Am I wrong to think the woman should have had some restraint?

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Helpboat · 01/05/2026 00:32

WesternAmy · 30/04/2026 17:46

I’d gotten Ddog away from it by then, it was most bizarre behaviour!

Keep your dog away from other people children. It’s simple as that. They don’t know your dog and it could turn the consequences of that could be fatal for the child. She’s not being unreasonable in her reaction.

goldencobra · 01/05/2026 00:26

No, that is not how it works. She and her dog are entitled to be on the sidewalk. If a child drops its toy that is its problem.

sleepwouldbenice · 01/05/2026 00:11

Ok I get the laughing at the Ddog, I get the ribbing re dog needing therapy

But if ….the basic facts are ….that they were passing, the dog went towards a dropped object the owner stopped him

and THEN the other party shouted, when the situation was already sorted…. Then yes they were being unreasonable and OTT

Calliopespa · 30/04/2026 23:13

SerafinasGoose · 30/04/2026 18:00

It's the owners who get on my tip. It isn't dogs' fault people anthropomorphise them, prioritise their human needs over the animals' by treating them as little babies and taking them everywhere, don't pick up after them, and neglect to train them properly. Some places and things are simply not suitable for dogs; this includes the toys of random children.

For most of my life I've been quite fond of dogs, although not silly about them as some of these owners are. In recent years it's putting me off wanting them anywhere near me.

This mother did nothing wrong.

It isn't dogs' fault people anthropomorphise them, prioritise their human needs over the animals' by treating them as little babies

Yes, why wasn't DDog safely tucked up in one of those doggy prams OP?😄

I don't mind dogs, but I am a bit bemused by a couple we know (childless) who will say at about 6pm "Well we must be off: we need to take the Ddog for a walk" as if it is some leggy Great Dane who needs to burn off energy with laps of the park, when in fact it is some kind of Jack Russel cross who has been so overfed it's legs don't hold it up and it gets pushed round the block in its pram. I just don't get what they think is "needed" about that walk - though I guess they unload him outside someone else's house to take a dump, then hoist him back in and push him home.

Ilovelifeverymuch · 30/04/2026 23:06

WesternAmy · 30/04/2026 20:17

I am pleased to report that Ddog appears much like his normal self again now- I’m sure the copious amounts of treats has helped!

Thanks to my fellow ddog lovers for their reassurance and support 😘

Edited

You don't say? 😂 I thought he would need dog therapy for the next 6 months to recover from the horrible horrible woman 😂

Ilovelifeverymuch · 30/04/2026 23:05

I voted YABU for the fact you had to add an extra letter D to DDog instead of just saying dog 😂

And yes YABU, she shouted no so the dog didn't pick the toy and you went off and you're here going on about how your dog sorry DDog had been feeling like since???

Calliopespa · 30/04/2026 23:01

LBFseBrom · 30/04/2026 22:29

Stop with the 'Ddog' talk.

It's Dmented.

Tryagain26 · 30/04/2026 22:59

SerafinasGoose · 30/04/2026 18:00

It's the owners who get on my tip. It isn't dogs' fault people anthropomorphise them, prioritise their human needs over the animals' by treating them as little babies and taking them everywhere, don't pick up after them, and neglect to train them properly. Some places and things are simply not suitable for dogs; this includes the toys of random children.

For most of my life I've been quite fond of dogs, although not silly about them as some of these owners are. In recent years it's putting me off wanting them anywhere near me.

This mother did nothing wrong.

I could have written this.
I used to love dogs I had them as a child, I remember sobbing my heart out when my dog died. But they were always treated as dogs people always came first and we didn't insist on taking them everywhere with us.
People who treat their dogs like human children , and think their dogs rights are equal to or more important than people 's rights have made me dislike them.

Goinggreymammy · 30/04/2026 22:53

You should train your dog not to go for people's things, even if they drop them.
Saying no twice isn't going mental.
And as she was not able to predict what your dog would do next (he had already shown interest in grabbing her child's toy in his mouth) saying no was very reasonable.
YABVVVU

ThatChirpyCrow · 30/04/2026 22:51

Never owned a dog, huh?

Noshadelamp · 30/04/2026 22:50

I always love the use of ddog, it never fails to annoys so many people 😂

Op the woman panicked, that's all there is to it.

Hope ddog has recovered now!

cinnamonda · 30/04/2026 22:47

tulippetals · 30/04/2026 17:46

YABU. Surely your dog should be trained to not pick up anything dropped in front of it?

This! ^
I am so tired of dog owners thinking that their Ddog is the world’s best ever and letting them roam around and approach any passer by - some people fear dogs, have allergies, babies etc.
I can understand this mother who was clearly afraid the dog may hurt her baby, or not not want the dog slobber over the toy, she doesn’t know the nature of you dog.

OP You know your dog surely, and maybe he would never harm anyone but DO try to understand where others are concerned from too and restrain or train your dog to stay in his/her lane.

bozzabollix · 30/04/2026 22:42

You stopped him, she sounds like a massive bellend. Probably on here whining about them being allowed in cafes.

DaisyDooley · 30/04/2026 22:40

Surprisednotusedb4 · 30/04/2026 17:46

A) you would say that
B) they’d have slobbered all over the toy

Have you ever met a dog?
My labs don’t have slobbery mouths -when they pick something up it’s not wet fgs.

Londonrach1 · 30/04/2026 22:30

Why on earth would you want a random dog slobber all over your toddlers toy. Totally understandable why that woman wanted to stop your dog from grabbing her child's toy especially a lab. Yabu

Candy24 · 30/04/2026 22:29

WesternAmy · 30/04/2026 17:51

He’s definitely impacted, I know what my Ddog is like. Bloody crazy woman!

I hope you both got therapy.

LBFseBrom · 30/04/2026 22:29

Stop with the 'Ddog' talk.

Fluffyowl00 · 30/04/2026 22:29

OP is clearly DMail reporter covering tracks. Come ON people- think about
the story… It all sounds convincing until we learn that Ddog is in fact a DLab that was sad and subdued. -Has anyone ever actually seen a sad and subdued Lab?Nope. Thought not.

You can’t fool us OP!

As an aside - maybe the mum was doing you a favour. If a dog were to come anywhere near my daughter’s favourite toy all our ears would be suffering and we’d all be pretty subdued! Don’t sweat it. All ok now.

Candy24 · 30/04/2026 22:27

Ved · 30/04/2026 17:44

YABU. She did nothing wrong.

Also YABU for saying 'DDog!' 😆

hahahahah yes.

also does Ddog mean Dangerous.lol

nutsfornuts · 30/04/2026 22:22

rwalker · 30/04/2026 17:50

She didn’t want Dslober on it

😂

Whatisthisperihell · 30/04/2026 22:17

YANBU about the toy but you are unreasonable not to post a picture of your DDog

DollydaydreamTheThird · 30/04/2026 22:15

This kind of post drives me mad. So it would seem that we are a nation that cares more about the feelings of a dog over that of an obviously stressed mother and her toddler. She was obvs worried the dog would ruin the kids toy but she is 'mental' for protecting her kid's happiness. I would have done the same. For the record I'm sick of dogs in pubs and bars, especially in the evening. Sick of them in cafes, shops and parks off the lead. Suck of them jumping up at my kid who is now terrified of dogs. Sick of all the shit everywhere. Sick of people thinking it is ok to let their dog piss up my car. That was cathartic. 🤣

JustSawJohnny · 30/04/2026 22:14

Also, 'went mental' is an absolute REACH!

Mischance · 30/04/2026 22:14

I'm on the mother's side. I would not want a dog picking up my child's soft toy after the blessed thing had been sniffing other dog's arses and pee-ridden lamposts.

People can be so ridiculously precious about their dogs. DDog - for heaven's sake!

JustSawJohnny · 30/04/2026 22:11

FFS, she said 2 words! She didn't scream or swear or hit out. If your dog is that rattled by 2 words then it's clearly rather anxious.

How many threads have you seen on here where a desperate parent is trying to replace their kid's favourite toy because it got lost/broken etc?

If DS had dropped his prize Thomas on the floor and a passing dog had gone to grab it I would've panicked too!

Nobody but you is happy to prioritise your dog. If she'd kicked or hit it I'd be in agreement, but 'No, No!'?!!

Total overreaction.

It's madness how entitled some dog owners are, really.