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Parent went mental at my Ddog!

386 replies

WesternAmy · 30/04/2026 17:42

Can someone please tell me how Ddog was at fault here?! We were walking on a footpath close to our house earlier, and a woman was pushing her toddler along on a sort of bike thing.

As we were passing, the toddler dropped a cuddly toy. Ddog instinctively went to pick this up (it resembled a dog toy) and I stopped him.

The woman went mental, shouted at Ddog “NO, NO” and I hurried us away.

I can tell it has impacted him, he has been really subdued since which is not like him at all.

Am I wrong to think the woman should have had some restraint?

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TakeTheCuntingQuichePatricia · 30/04/2026 17:52

Surprisednotusedb4 · 30/04/2026 17:49

Dangerous Dog!

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I was going to say Dastardly Dog!

Metromayhem · 30/04/2026 17:52

You sound insane. Your dog won’t give a shit. YABU.

Ved · 30/04/2026 17:52

@WesternAmy

At least your DLab DDog didn't get hold of the DToy, and rip it up, or the DChild would have been DUpset, and his DMum would have had to buy a DNew one.

PennyThought · 30/04/2026 17:51

Neurotic mums. Happy to let the kids play in the street, be entertained by strangers on mobile phones but a dog licking a toy....goodness, no!

Gingercar · 30/04/2026 17:51

Latitudeohyeah · 30/04/2026 17:46

What the hell is the ddog?

Work it out! or stop being snarky. It’s no worse than the sickly DH that everyone trots out! I’ve seen it a lot on Mumsnet.

OP I’m a dog owner and I wouldn’t want someone else’s dog grabbing my child’s toy, so can understand her (over?) reaction. And your dog shouldn’t be subdued because of that. You should have just given him a pat and told him he’s a good boy then carried on with no more thought to it.

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WesternAmy · 30/04/2026 17:51

ToKittyornottoKitty · 30/04/2026 17:49

Well she couldn’t predict the future and know you’d stop the dog, she saw dog going for the toy and shouted no. I very much doubt your dogs feeling are still hurt by being told no hours later. That’s you projecting onto the dog.

He’s definitely impacted, I know what my Ddog is like. Bloody crazy woman!

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Branleuse · 30/04/2026 17:50

Don't overthink it. The woman was obviously not used to dogs and was just a bit ott. I am sure your dog will forget quickly. I doubt he's traumatised

vodkaredbullgirl · 30/04/2026 17:50

OTT

Clockbook · 30/04/2026 17:50

Don’t over think it. I’m neutral about dogs so I wouldn’t have been bothered if a dog had picked up my kids toy, but lots of people really aren’t keen on dogs, which is fair enough. Maybe she over reacted but it doesn’t really matter does it.

rwalker · 30/04/2026 17:50

She didn’t want Dslober on it

Stompythedinosaur · 30/04/2026 17:50

I imagine she dislikes dogs and was worried about dog slobber on the toy.

Though presumably she considers the germs from the floor to be fine.

People are strange.

I think you'll get no sense on mn where people seem to believe dogs have no right to exist in communal space.

Surprisednotusedb4 · 30/04/2026 17:50

WesternAmy · 30/04/2026 17:46

I’d gotten Ddog away from it by then, it was most bizarre behaviour!

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From you Op. Starting this thread. That is the only odd thing

BudgetBuster · 30/04/2026 17:49

🙄 Went mental? By saying no?
If that's the case I go mental at my dog 24/7 who is an opportunist when the kids drop anything.

Also, you don't have to randomly put D in front of every dog related word. Ddog, DLab... very strange.

She did nothing wrong. Maybe your dog isn't socialised enough and shouldn't be around people if he is now subdued because he was told no.

Ved · 30/04/2026 17:49

WesternAmy · 30/04/2026 17:45

He’s a very tame DLab.

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DLAB?! 😆

ToKittyornottoKitty · 30/04/2026 17:49

Well she couldn’t predict the future and know you’d stop the dog, she saw dog going for the toy and shouted no. I very much doubt your dogs feeling are still hurt by being told no hours later. That’s you projecting onto the dog.

Surprisednotusedb4 · 30/04/2026 17:49

Latitudeohyeah · 30/04/2026 17:46

What the hell is the ddog?

Dangerous Dog!

Arlanymor · 30/04/2026 17:48

She said no. Twice. That's mental is it? Dogs can and should be trained not to pick up stuff. Isn't the command 'leave' or similar?

PinkNailPolish2026 · 30/04/2026 17:48

Does your dog know the ‘leave’ command? It’s one of the first things we teach our labs, you don’t want them picking up random bits when out on a walk.

Clefable · 30/04/2026 17:48

Some people just go through life ready to overreact to stuff at the drop of a hat. I feel a bit sorry for them really, can’t be nice to be so panicky or angry about stuff, so just count your blessings that isn’t you and try to forget it.

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 30/04/2026 17:47

Yabu. Dogs should be trained to leave others belongings. I have labs, they are trained to do this

WhatNoRaisins · 30/04/2026 17:47

youalright · 30/04/2026 17:44

I think when people panic it can often come out louder and more aggressive then it was meant to. Kids get really attached to some toys it might be one they can't sleep without and the thought of the dog ripping it to pieces just caused panic.

That's the most likely explanation for this woman's reaction. I wouldn't take it personally.

BiddlyBipBipBeeBop · 30/04/2026 17:47

She didn’t want your dog slobbering on her child’s toy and reacted to stop it probably at the same time you did. She couldn’t know what you were going to do in that instant. Not everyone likes dogs.

Thundertoast · 30/04/2026 17:46

I think she could have just said 'no!' And grabbed it, massive overreaction here, you weren't doing anything wrong... unless the toy already in his mouth but I presume you would have mentioned it.

Latitudeohyeah · 30/04/2026 17:46

What the hell is the ddog?

cobrakaieaglefang · 30/04/2026 17:46

You stopped him, no harm done to toy or child. She's obviously a mner.. dislikes dogs. 😉