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Parent went mental at my Ddog!

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WesternAmy · 30/04/2026 17:42

Can someone please tell me how Ddog was at fault here?! We were walking on a footpath close to our house earlier, and a woman was pushing her toddler along on a sort of bike thing.

As we were passing, the toddler dropped a cuddly toy. Ddog instinctively went to pick this up (it resembled a dog toy) and I stopped him.

The woman went mental, shouted at Ddog “NO, NO” and I hurried us away.

I can tell it has impacted him, he has been really subdued since which is not like him at all.

Am I wrong to think the woman should have had some restraint?

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VoiceFromThePit · 30/04/2026 18:38

Obviously you need to train Ddog but the woman was a loon, out of order and should keep her trap shut and mind her own business imho.

It’s not as if you knocked the toy out of the kids hand, the toy being on the floor was on her.

AndWorseAFemale · 30/04/2026 18:38

If I'd have been quick witted enough (I would not) I'd have shouted back at the child "NO! Don't Taunt Dogs!!" - because it's the same level of ridiculous as her shouting at your dog.

I don't think shouting NO twice counts as "went mental at" though.

MosquitoFace · 30/04/2026 18:38

I run a Ddog counselling session to help emotionally impacted dogs with this exact trauma. Just send me £500 pounds and I will send you DLab a tick tock video which is 100% guaranteed to instantly soothe the poor creature. not guaranteed

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 30/04/2026 18:38

Surprisednotusedb4 · 30/04/2026 18:35

10 posts a month? Um that’s a tiny number in the scheme of mumsnet

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True.
perhaps it’s more, I don’t log on often.

it’s always basically the same post, with the same comments, each and every time anyway

Branster · 30/04/2026 18:38

A labrador should be more robust than becoming subdued because she heard a strange woman shout.
I would be very surprised if your dog was affected by this incident.
I think you are looking for problems where there aren’t any.
The woman was worried and raised her voice in panic. She did nothing wrong.
You reacted the correct way and did not allow your dog to pick up the toy.
No issues anywhere.
To whoever said teach your dog not to pick things up. This was something dropping right next to the dog, the dog would want to investigate and sniff the object. Imagine if that was a sandwich dropping next to a labrador. Gone in half a second!

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 30/04/2026 18:37

Arlanymor · 30/04/2026 18:35

Yes I have. Why would the woman even make a peep if the dog was under control? Doesn't make sense does it?

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No….which I think is the point of the post 🤣🤣

there was no need for the woman to shout out, because the dog had already left the toy alone.

DuchessofStaffordshire · 30/04/2026 18:36

WesternAmy · 30/04/2026 17:45

He’s a very tame DLab.

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Labs do pick things up and retrieve them, it's kind of their job. But, I can see why the woman panicked. Just let it go.

Arlanymor · 30/04/2026 18:35

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 30/04/2026 18:32

have you read the OP correctly?

I can’t see anywhere that suggests the dog needed to be told to leave the toy twice.

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Yes I have. Why would the woman even make a peep if the dog was under control? Doesn't make sense does it?

HarkHarktheDogsdoBark · 30/04/2026 18:35

People are not brought up around animals enough. A compulsory year in wildlife conservation or on a farm would do wonders. Either as a break from school or midlife.

No wonder our society lacks compassion. Fluffy toys or 'nature' (walks in municipal parks) or screens. Not living beings.

Surprisednotusedb4 · 30/04/2026 18:35

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 30/04/2026 18:33

Apart from the minimum of 10 posts a month complaining about them in some capacity.

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10 posts a month? Um that’s a tiny number in the scheme of mumsnet

WhatNoRaisins · 30/04/2026 18:34

WesternAmy · 30/04/2026 18:29

One thing this has taught me - there is something that (D)Mumsnetter’s hate more than having to sleep with their Husband’s. DDogs!

OP I've got nothing against yours or anyone's dog. That said you've got to be realistic about the general public. Strangers aren't going to know that you have a sensitive dog or to treat it differently because of that. Most people have their own crap to worry about.

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 30/04/2026 18:33

Clockbook · 30/04/2026 18:32

I think the total opposite actually. MN is generally very very pro dogs.

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Apart from the minimum of 10 posts a month complaining about them in some capacity.

Melsy88 · 30/04/2026 18:33

Metromayhem · 30/04/2026 17:55

But the whole point of DH is that it’s quicker to type than husband. DDog is more letters, it’s so weird and cringe. Also nobody thinks your dog is dear or darling other than you, and I would shout at it if it tried to out its horrible slobbery mouth around my kids toys too.

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Love how triggered mumsnetters get when anyone dares to show affection towards their pets 🤣

TilerSwift · 30/04/2026 18:33

You should’ve shrieked ‘leave it ddog, you don’t know what you’ll catch from that little germ factory’

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 30/04/2026 18:32

Arlanymor · 30/04/2026 18:24

But if the dog was under control, it wouldn't have been necessary to say 'no' twice, would it?

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have you read the OP correctly?

I can’t see anywhere that suggests the dog needed to be told to leave the toy twice.

Clockbook · 30/04/2026 18:32

WesternAmy · 30/04/2026 18:29

One thing this has taught me - there is something that (D)Mumsnetter’s hate more than having to sleep with their Husband’s. DDogs!

I think the total opposite actually. MN is generally very very pro dogs.

Surprisednotusedb4 · 30/04/2026 18:32

Your poor dog

Suffering with impaction and yet you are too much of a cheapskate to deal with it. Instead posting on mumsnet 😢

HormonalHairyPoppins · 30/04/2026 18:31

Ddog?
Dlab?

D-
Must try harder.

vodkaredbullgirl · 30/04/2026 18:31

WesternAmy · 30/04/2026 18:29

One thing this has taught me - there is something that (D)Mumsnetter’s hate more than having to sleep with their Husband’s. DDogs!

Yes 😆

BudgetBuster · 30/04/2026 18:30

WesternAmy · 30/04/2026 18:29

One thing this has taught me - there is something that (D)Mumsnetter’s hate more than having to sleep with their Husband’s. DDogs!

😂 No, we don't hate dogs.
We do think you need some help though.

HormonalHairyPoppins · 30/04/2026 18:30

WesternAmy · 30/04/2026 17:51

He’s definitely impacted, I know what my Ddog is like. Bloody crazy woman!

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One of you is...

mydogisthebest · 30/04/2026 18:30

Laughing at just how many posters had to use the word "slobber". Not all dogs slobber, in fact most don't but the dog haters like to think they all go round slobbering and moulting like crazy.

Ved · 30/04/2026 18:30

TheOtherSide21 · 30/04/2026 18:25

I love dogs, have my own working lab, and think a whole raft of folk on here are miserable wenches for their dog hating tendencies… and I think you’re a bit mental on this one 😂

She doesn’t know your dog from Adam, whether it’s tame, feral, whether if it got the toy she’d get it back and actually who wants someone else’s dogs slobber all over their stuff? And maybe the kid was allergic? Who knows. You got the dog, she also tried to stop the dog in case you didn’t, no harm done 🤷🏼‍♀️

Exactly! I don't give a stuff if a dog's mouth has less germs than a child's hand, the muddy ground, or an ant's arse, I wouldn't want MY CHILD, handling their toy after someone's mutt had drooled all over it!

Sorry, their DMutt!

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WesternAmy · 30/04/2026 18:29

One thing this has taught me - there is something that (D)Mumsnetter’s hate more than having to sleep with their Husband’s. DDogs!

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BudgetBuster · 30/04/2026 18:29

PennyThought · 30/04/2026 18:28

I don't want to be friends with neurotic people who raise neurotic children.

My friends are mentally balanced, strong, reasonable women.

Dog drool and big labs who are being friendly wouldn't make us run and scream and send the most bizarre message to our children.

If that's what being cool on MN means, then, I'm a happy outlier.

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😂😂😂 The mother in question said "No" to a dog

You've made up a lovely far fetched story though