Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Parent went mental at my Ddog!

386 replies

WesternAmy · 30/04/2026 17:42

Can someone please tell me how Ddog was at fault here?! We were walking on a footpath close to our house earlier, and a woman was pushing her toddler along on a sort of bike thing.

As we were passing, the toddler dropped a cuddly toy. Ddog instinctively went to pick this up (it resembled a dog toy) and I stopped him.

The woman went mental, shouted at Ddog “NO, NO” and I hurried us away.

I can tell it has impacted him, he has been really subdued since which is not like him at all.

Am I wrong to think the woman should have had some restraint?

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page
ForCosyLion · 03/05/2026 22:06

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 03/05/2026 21:52

I've read Saki's story Tobermory. If Lenny suddenly learnt how to talk I'd be seriously worried 🤣.

Well, there you go! You should be more careful. 🤭😂 Maybe science will come up with a way for animals to express themselves, and then you'd be in the shit! I bet there'd be no more swearing at poor Lenny then, would there???

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 03/05/2026 21:53

ForCosyLion · 03/05/2026 21:31

Exactly - they don't deserve that! People are taking advantage of the fact that they don't understand. And it's still a form of aggression towards animals, even if not physical.

Having fun imagining a world where the animals can suddenly talk and ask the humans why they called them so many horrible names!

Edited

Absolutely! Unless an animal is attacking a person or another animal, then it’s vile.

Although if they could talk, our cats would probably ask why they have such looooooooong silly nicknames 😬

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 03/05/2026 21:52

ForCosyLion · 03/05/2026 21:47

Do you want Lenny to grow up and think it's OK to swear at people? 🤣

Imagine if all the animals COULD suddenly talk. The ones whose owners were always swearing at them would be right pottymouths!

I've read Saki's story Tobermory. If Lenny suddenly learnt how to talk I'd be seriously worried 🤣.

ForCosyLion · 03/05/2026 21:47

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 02/05/2026 17:42

Lenny must be horribly traumatised - I swear at him quite frequently when he brings his friends in to play. 🤣

Do you want Lenny to grow up and think it's OK to swear at people? 🤣

Imagine if all the animals COULD suddenly talk. The ones whose owners were always swearing at them would be right pottymouths!

ForCosyLion · 03/05/2026 21:45

ThingsThatMakeYouGoHmmmmmmmmm · 02/05/2026 21:26

Not an Alan Partridge fan, then ?

Never seen him. Don't know how - he was literally just never on TV when I switched it on! I didn't have my own TV until I was about 25 though.

ForCosyLion · 03/05/2026 21:31

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 03/05/2026 00:55

And, unlike people, animals aren’t arseholes (well most aren’t 😬) and they don’t deserve to be spoken to badly unless it’s necessary.

Exactly - they don't deserve that! People are taking advantage of the fact that they don't understand. And it's still a form of aggression towards animals, even if not physical.

Having fun imagining a world where the animals can suddenly talk and ask the humans why they called them so many horrible names!

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 03/05/2026 00:59

Tryagain26 · 30/04/2026 22:59

I could have written this.
I used to love dogs I had them as a child, I remember sobbing my heart out when my dog died. But they were always treated as dogs people always came first and we didn't insist on taking them everywhere with us.
People who treat their dogs like human children , and think their dogs rights are equal to or more important than people 's rights have made me dislike them.

I dislike anyone who thinks animals are less important than people. I am not that keen on dogs but I had an entertaining train journey which included a spaniel who was sitting on one of the seats (that should freak a few MNers out 🤣) and kept side eyeing the other passengers 🤣

Beats the screaming of young children any day.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 03/05/2026 00:55

ForCosyLion · 01/05/2026 13:38

Animals have feelings just like humans, you know. I was reading a book about horses the other day, and there was an illustration of the way a horse stands if it's depressed. We are all mammals. If animals could talk, they would express just the same feelings as us! They get lonely, annoyed, angry, down, just like we do!

And, unlike people, animals aren’t arseholes (well most aren’t 😬) and they don’t deserve to be spoken to badly unless it’s necessary.

Calliopespa · 02/05/2026 23:34

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 02/05/2026 17:42

Lenny must be horribly traumatised - I swear at him quite frequently when he brings his friends in to play. 🤣

Lenny has a reprobate look. There is both awareness and lack of remorse in that look!

ThingsThatMakeYouGoHmmmmmmmmm · 02/05/2026 21:26

ForCosyLion · 01/05/2026 20:04

A mentalist is a clairvoyant.

Not an Alan Partridge fan, then ?

Latitudeohyeah · 02/05/2026 18:31

ForCosyLion · 02/05/2026 17:02

Why would you speak like that to a defenceless animal? He or she (not "it") will know from your tone that you were being horrible. Also, the dog might well recognise the word as a sign of aggression, since humans use it that way so often.

You only swore at it because you know it can't answer back. 😡

You don’t know what sarcasm means right?🤦🏻‍♀️

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 02/05/2026 18:30

ElevenBells · 02/05/2026 18:04

I’m an experienced dog owner and I can assure you that “ddog” won’t have been impacted and been subdued by being told no, loudly or otherwise 🙄

It’s that kind of thinking that has resulted it a nation of babied, badly behaved dogs that are allowed to do whatever they want because apparently their needs come before the general public’s.

Thank you for posting this!

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 02/05/2026 18:29

ForCosyLion · 02/05/2026 17:03

Well, why not? Dogs can remember things for a few hours.

Oh please.

ElevenBells · 02/05/2026 18:04

I’m an experienced dog owner and I can assure you that “ddog” won’t have been impacted and been subdued by being told no, loudly or otherwise 🙄

It’s that kind of thinking that has resulted it a nation of babied, badly behaved dogs that are allowed to do whatever they want because apparently their needs come before the general public’s.

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 02/05/2026 17:42

ForCosyLion · 02/05/2026 17:02

Why would you speak like that to a defenceless animal? He or she (not "it") will know from your tone that you were being horrible. Also, the dog might well recognise the word as a sign of aggression, since humans use it that way so often.

You only swore at it because you know it can't answer back. 😡

Lenny must be horribly traumatised - I swear at him quite frequently when he brings his friends in to play. 🤣

Parent went mental at my Ddog!
ForCosyLion · 02/05/2026 17:03

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 02/05/2026 10:20

Yes but only in that moment. I can guarantee that the dog won’t have held onto those emotions for the same length of time OP said it would. My cat gets pissed off if you yell at her (not often) but is over it in a short time.

Well, why not? Dogs can remember things for a few hours.

ForCosyLion · 02/05/2026 17:02

HelpMeGetThrough · 02/05/2026 10:34

Guess I’ve traumatised a neighbours dog and it’ll now need months of therapy, after telling it to fuck off.

Why would you speak like that to a defenceless animal? He or she (not "it") will know from your tone that you were being horrible. Also, the dog might well recognise the word as a sign of aggression, since humans use it that way so often.

You only swore at it because you know it can't answer back. 😡

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 02/05/2026 12:18

HelpMeGetThrough · 02/05/2026 10:34

Guess I’ve traumatised a neighbours dog and it’ll now need months of therapy, after telling it to fuck off.

🤣🤣🤣

HelpMeGetThrough · 02/05/2026 10:34

Guess I’ve traumatised a neighbours dog and it’ll now need months of therapy, after telling it to fuck off.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 02/05/2026 10:21

ForCosyLion · 02/05/2026 09:11

But they do have many of the same feelings we do. They feel anger, happiness, loneliness, depression, sadness, fear, joy, contentment. The only reason that humans can labour under the impression that they do not is because they can't talk. They would have plenty of feelings to express if they could! Also, remember how sensitive dogs' ears are. When the woman shouted, it must have deafened him. Him, note, not it!

I know dogs and cats and other animals have similar emotions to us too. Well aware of that.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 02/05/2026 10:20

ForCosyLion · 02/05/2026 09:11

But they do have many of the same feelings we do. They feel anger, happiness, loneliness, depression, sadness, fear, joy, contentment. The only reason that humans can labour under the impression that they do not is because they can't talk. They would have plenty of feelings to express if they could! Also, remember how sensitive dogs' ears are. When the woman shouted, it must have deafened him. Him, note, not it!

Yes but only in that moment. I can guarantee that the dog won’t have held onto those emotions for the same length of time OP said it would. My cat gets pissed off if you yell at her (not often) but is over it in a short time.

ForCosyLion · 02/05/2026 09:11

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 02/05/2026 08:38

Ffs it’s a dog! Will only momentarily be traumatised. Stop putting human feelings into/onto dogs. It’s hardly like the mother hit it hard.

But they do have many of the same feelings we do. They feel anger, happiness, loneliness, depression, sadness, fear, joy, contentment. The only reason that humans can labour under the impression that they do not is because they can't talk. They would have plenty of feelings to express if they could! Also, remember how sensitive dogs' ears are. When the woman shouted, it must have deafened him. Him, note, not it!

AgentPidge · 02/05/2026 08:57

Harhar · 01/05/2026 20:25

Are people using their dogs as an excuse to go home rather than hanging round with you often?

I think it was the event she was bored with, rather than my company!

Harhar · 02/05/2026 08:44

Also, ffs it was a cuddly toy. Hardly the end of the world the dog glanced at it.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 02/05/2026 08:38

ForCosyLion · 01/05/2026 21:59

I think all the posters who are mocking Ddog for being upset are really mean!

Ffs it’s a dog! Will only momentarily be traumatised. Stop putting human feelings into/onto dogs. It’s hardly like the mother hit it hard.

Swipe left for the next trending thread