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AIBU to hate the new Tena pads??

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Helpmechooseausername · 30/04/2026 17:15

I've been using the normal size tena pads for ages but they've changed them and I'm wondering if anyone else thinks they're worse? They seem to be narrower than before so sometimes my pad is almost dry but my knickers are wet because my leakage has missed the pad!

Anyone else found this? Anyone got any recommendations for different pads that are wider?

Thanks!

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Fab33 · 01/05/2026 01:37

Oh and as for people been stupid and reporting you they need to get a life my god it primarily a woman's site fgs!! Ask away xxx

Fab33 · 01/05/2026 01:34

Do u get them prescribed on prescription I do now as cuts to my pip meant I couldn't afford to but them, u can buy the ones they perscribe privately they called "" ID Incontinence "" and are very good

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 30/04/2026 23:21

I take them too - mine are bladder support from zipvit - I think they are helping a bit.

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Helpmechooseausername · 30/04/2026 22:19

Hippywannabe · 30/04/2026 21:47

Coming in to say pumpkin oil capsules as recommended on here have made a huge difference to my leaking. There was a whole thread about 9 months ago.

Ooh thanks, I'll look for the thread

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Hippywannabe · 30/04/2026 21:47

Coming in to say pumpkin oil capsules as recommended on here have made a huge difference to my leaking. There was a whole thread about 9 months ago.

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Helpmechooseausername · 30/04/2026 21:29

maftaz · 30/04/2026 20:54

I used the pull up incontinence pants after gynae surgery recently when I was bleeding a LOT, unpredictably at times. I also found pads useless for me with too many accidents. The pants gave me great confidence and I wore ordinary knickers over them, ahem for aesthetic purposes 😊I got mine in Aldi BTW.

I had to use them for about 6 weeks and then when bleeding eased I used period pants. I'm in my late 60s so I'm out of the loop regarding such products!

The pull ups might not be suitable for you, or everyone long term but they might help someone else. I use them also when taking colonoscopy prep, you have to be quick to the loo then or else...

Thanks. Too many accidents are definitely a problem!
Hope the surgery and recovery went well x

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maftaz · 30/04/2026 20:54

I used the pull up incontinence pants after gynae surgery recently when I was bleeding a LOT, unpredictably at times. I also found pads useless for me with too many accidents. The pants gave me great confidence and I wore ordinary knickers over them, ahem for aesthetic purposes 😊I got mine in Aldi BTW.

I had to use them for about 6 weeks and then when bleeding eased I used period pants. I'm in my late 60s so I'm out of the loop regarding such products!

The pull ups might not be suitable for you, or everyone long term but they might help someone else. I use them also when taking colonoscopy prep, you have to be quick to the loo then or else...

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Helpmechooseausername · 30/04/2026 20:32

Nat6999 · 30/04/2026 20:31

I wear cycle shorts over the top of my normal pants & Tena pad, it stops them moving around, I recommend Tena maxi night time pads, they are wider & longer than the normal ones, I wear Wirapa high waisted pants which have a wider gusset & their shorts over the top.

Thanks for the tips!

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Helpmechooseausername · 30/04/2026 20:31

GarlicMind · 30/04/2026 20:20

Also wading in 👀 to explain - when pads are narrower than your pants, the material can fold itself over the edges, leading to the described distribution error.

I use Vivactive disposable pants and I don't care who knows it. It's a medical need, not a lifestyle choice.

Yes!

I'll look into those pants, thanks

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Nat6999 · 30/04/2026 20:31

I wear cycle shorts over the top of my normal pants & Tena pad, it stops them moving around, I recommend Tena maxi night time pads, they are wider & longer than the normal ones, I wear Wirapa high waisted pants which have a wider gusset & their shorts over the top.

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Helpmechooseausername · 30/04/2026 20:31

Funnywonder · 30/04/2026 20:03

OK, I’m finding myself getting involved here😆 I understand the leaking over the side. But not the missing the pad. Hence the suspicion/skepticism. Sorry if I sounded a bit blunt.

I wouldn’t have reported you btw. I mostly only report racism, ableism and a few other ism’s. And even then, very rarely.

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Sorry, I misunderstood your earlier post - when you said I've been reported, I thought you meant you had reported me as well!!

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Helpmechooseausername · 30/04/2026 20:29

SpringAndSunshineIsHere · 30/04/2026 19:53

Why don’t you wear period pants op? So much more comfy!

These are the best imo

https://www.modibodi.co.uk/pages/modibodi-101?tw_source=google&tw_adid=773623404475&tw_campaign=23004684897&tw_kwdid=kwd-350604071681&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23004684897&gbraid=0AAAAACWizWTTd921AWyF1OrKFMorSLajd&gclid=CjwKCAjw-8vPBhBbEiwAoA39WkQTgEyxRdvqWNoFLYHsjIRtzeg8b_QNr7hgC7WZAWoLriRz6Nf1sRoCtqQQAvD_BwE

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I don't know that I trust them! Also isn't it a pain to have to take shoes and trousers off to change them, rather than just changing a pad?

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Helpmechooseausername · 30/04/2026 20:28

PinkyFlamingo · 30/04/2026 19:47

Oh stop it, you haven't "offended" anyone

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Apparently I did! Enough for people to report me. So I apologised!

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GarlicMind · 30/04/2026 20:20

Also wading in 👀 to explain - when pads are narrower than your pants, the material can fold itself over the edges, leading to the described distribution error.

I use Vivactive disposable pants and I don't care who knows it. It's a medical need, not a lifestyle choice.

Barcodescanner22 · 30/04/2026 20:04

Get some Tena washable knickers

Funnywonder · 30/04/2026 20:03

Helpmechooseausername · 30/04/2026 19:39

I promise you it is physically possible! The pads are narrower than my knickers, so it can leak over the side.

I fully agree with the facility to report posts you think are inappropriate, but I really don't feel that this post was. I've seen many worse things on here over the years!

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OK, I’m finding myself getting involved here😆 I understand the leaking over the side. But not the missing the pad. Hence the suspicion/skepticism. Sorry if I sounded a bit blunt.

I wouldn’t have reported you btw. I mostly only report racism, ableism and a few other ism’s. And even then, very rarely.

SpringAndSunshineIsHere · 30/04/2026 19:56

Dimms · 30/04/2026 17:31

Honestly, asking people whether they also find their knickers get wet because leakage misses the pad is a little off. Especially as you have posted in AIBU.

Sheesh. Let’s hope you don’t develop incontinence issues!

SpringAndSunshineIsHere · 30/04/2026 19:55

tryandbepositive · 30/04/2026 17:34

Reported

Why?!

maftaz · 30/04/2026 19:48

The pull ups, like swim pants would be great for you.

PinkyFlamingo · 30/04/2026 19:47

Helpmechooseausername · 30/04/2026 19:35

Thanks for explaining! I promise I'm not a man and don't have any weird festishes about wee! I very carefully didn't even use the word wee to try to keep the subject matter a little more discreet!

I put it in AIBU because I genuinely wanted to know if I was BU to hate the new pads. Didn't really know where else to put it. Shopping? Health and beauty? Dunno really! Some of the women's health boards don't get much traffic and I really need an answer!

Again, sorry if I offended anyone, that really wasn't my intention!

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Oh stop it, you haven't "offended" anyone

PinkyFlamingo · 30/04/2026 19:41

Dimms · 30/04/2026 17:31

Honestly, asking people whether they also find their knickers get wet because leakage misses the pad is a little off. Especially as you have posted in AIBU.

Exactly !

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Helpmechooseausername · 30/04/2026 19:39

Funnywonder · 30/04/2026 17:43

Doesn’t sound physically possible, but hey ho you’ve been reported.

I promise you it is physically possible! The pads are narrower than my knickers, so it can leak over the side.

I fully agree with the facility to report posts you think are inappropriate, but I really don't feel that this post was. I've seen many worse things on here over the years!

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Helpmechooseausername · 30/04/2026 19:37

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 30/04/2026 19:32

I use the Always pads, and find them pretty good, @Helpmechooseausername, though they do sometimes crumple up somewhat - they are comfortable and do the job for me.

Thanks. I've tried them but preferred tena ones - but now they've changed so I'll see if the always ones are any better

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Helpmechooseausername · 30/04/2026 19:35

Dimms · 30/04/2026 18:28

Unfortunately, over the years I have seen many instances on MN of men acting as if they are women on here, asking questions which feed some kind of fetish. That’s why I’m so wary.

Tbh, if you had put this in a different section it would have been much better. Why did you put it in AIBU? It’s not an aibu question and it just looks odd.

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Thanks for explaining! I promise I'm not a man and don't have any weird festishes about wee! I very carefully didn't even use the word wee to try to keep the subject matter a little more discreet!

I put it in AIBU because I genuinely wanted to know if I was BU to hate the new pads. Didn't really know where else to put it. Shopping? Health and beauty? Dunno really! Some of the women's health boards don't get much traffic and I really need an answer!

Again, sorry if I offended anyone, that really wasn't my intention!

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