I have noticed a change in DP recently, he’s more snappy and a bit odd with his phone. He used to leave it lying around but it’s always on him now. I haven’t tried to find a way to look at it or anything, but had cause to go on it last night with his agreement as we were booking a holiday and he had a list of details saved on his phone notes.
He was using the laptop and his phone was on charge so he asked me to check his notes for a specific detail. When I was scrolling to find it, I noticed another one called Passwords and the first line was clearly an adult site. I clicked on it and there was about 10 others underneath, and all quite ‘niche’ - domination, trans etc.
I waited until we finished booking the holiday and then mentioned I had seen this note. He knows I don’t approve of him watching porn and I felt we’d set clear boundaries in the past.
He got really irate , said I shouldn’t snoop on his phone and that it’s up to him what he spends money on. I didn’t suggest these sites were costing money, I assumed they were free (clearly not).
He said he knew my boundaries but never said he ‘agreed’ to them.
He was still in a mood with me before leaving for work this morning.
I had permission to go on his notes, but should I have turned a blind eye to what I saw?