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Do primary DC know who headteacher is

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helpmelosemybigbelly · 30/04/2026 13:42

As per title. Just got me thinking as I doubt my 5yo in year 1 knows who the head teacher is, what about your kids. What age of year did they start becoming aware? Just curious and bored as u can prob tell 🫠

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Thechaseison71 · 01/05/2026 18:31

Yes of course. Mind you she was a personal friend before DS even started

ColdWaterDipper · 01/05/2026 18:29

My youngest started secondary school in September last year, but both of mine have known who their headmistress or headmaster was right from their first day in reception. They both went to small primary school/ prep schools though, and everyone knew everyone as there were only 70-80 pupils spread across 4 classes. So in terms of staff there was 4 class teachers with 4 HLTAs, 1 headmaster, 1 cleaner and 1 cook, plus a 1:1 TA for a SEN child. We also had a meeting with the head before each of them started at the schools.

scrivette · 30/04/2026 22:11

Yes and they frequently tell me they miss the previous headteacher as they are not so keen on the current one.

LastHotel · 30/04/2026 22:09

Yes, of course. The headteacher had a little meeting with each child before they even started school.

Unicornsandprincesses · 30/04/2026 22:08

Yeah from week 1 of reception, so 5.

but Head stands at the school gates most mornings and it’s quite a small school anyway. we also went to the preschool at the primary & we’d walked past the head several times.

I remember telling my daughter she was the “boss of the school” and that she was the boss of all the other teachers

(DD understood the concept of a “boss” so that worked)

RampantIvy · 30/04/2026 22:05

SummerInSun · 30/04/2026 17:30

Head Teacher at my DCs’ primary used to read a story to reception once a week to make sure they knew him and he got to know them a bit.

DD's head did as well.

DS was at a four form entry primary

DD's school had only 5 classes with overlapping year groups in each class - and it was ofsted outstanding.

MississippiCroc · 30/04/2026 19:44

Yes, she knows the name of every child.

greencrab · 30/04/2026 19:41

I find that surprising she would study about heads involvement.

DS was at a four form entry primary which was split in many ways into the phases with slightly different uniforms and had heads of each phase. there was also a special needs unit attached to the school. So lots of pupils.

But overall head was out there greeting the kids, running event days etc. sent then video messages in COVID reassuring them. All the children knew him and he knew most of their names.

Runningismyhappyplace50 · 30/04/2026 19:29

Mine did in primary and still do at secondary. Heads at both schools were/are visible and approachable.

AnneElliott · 30/04/2026 19:22

Yes - DS knew from reception. He was on the door morning and night, knew all of their names and would call out incorrect uniform and any inappropriate language - you couldn’t get away from the man (said affectionately as he was lovely).

StripyHorse · 30/04/2026 19:22

In nursery for DD2, and I am pretty certain reception for DD1 (she didn't go to school nursery)

At Christmas, when DD2 was in nursery, we took them to a local event. After the event, DD2 was asked if she saw anyone special there - the expected answer being Santa. Nope, DD2 responded 'Mrs Headteacher.'

Weatheronshuffle · 30/04/2026 19:12

Mine definitely know who she is, she does the gate twice a week and they have assembly once a fortnight that she leads. We also talk about the people in school so we talk about the office manager, the caretaker, the crossing patrol person, as well as the Head and class teachers.

Roads · 30/04/2026 19:11

helpmelosemybigbelly · 30/04/2026 19:09

Just asked my child and he doesn’t know. Next time we see her in the playground I’ll introduce him to her

Even with not doing assemblies it's pretty unusual that after almost 2 years at the school he doesn't know who the head is. Does he know any other staff members names?

helpmelosemybigbelly · 30/04/2026 19:09

Just asked my child and he doesn’t know. Next time we see her in the playground I’ll introduce him to her

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helpmelosemybigbelly · 30/04/2026 19:08

Our head teacher doesn’t do the assemblies, it’s often the deputy head or assistant head that does them. The head does stand in the playground a lot of mornings but sometimes it’s other important ppl like deputy head etc

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SummerInSun · 30/04/2026 17:30

Head Teacher at my DCs’ primary used to read a story to reception once a week to make sure they knew him and he got to know them a bit.

Alittlefrustrated · 30/04/2026 16:59

I volunteer with children from y2/3 - I find it utterly bizarre that they can't tell me their teachers names. Some of them do have 2 part timers sharing a class though, and they have a TA. Most can tell me the head teacher's name.

RampantIvy · 30/04/2026 16:55

Yes, of course. It was a small village school and DD knew who all the teachers were.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 30/04/2026 16:54

Yes, of course.

JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff · 30/04/2026 16:52

My kids know for sure, from reception.

He is like a minor celebrity. They spent a significant chunk of their holidays pretending to be him (generally involves one "reporting" another to the third who is in character as Mr Y).

MaybeToxic · 30/04/2026 16:48

Roads · 30/04/2026 13:45

Yes he's known since he was in reception. It's pretty common these days for head teachers to be approachable faces within the school. They do assemblies, stand on the gate in the morning. mill around the playground at home time and often pop into classes so they should be familiar to all students.

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MigGirl · 30/04/2026 16:47

Both mine knew who the Head was before they started school, as they went to the school nursery the year before and the head would come and visit them in the nursery. DD loved the original head as he would come and read them stories and do a puppet show for them.

Slouped · 30/04/2026 16:46

Children understand hierarchies in school at a scarily young age. I'm an unofficial third in command as the most experienced teacher and the children can describe how Mr X is in charge, then Mrs Y then me - for a role I don't get paid for or have a job title for! You have to work very hard in schools to get children to treat all staff with the same respect.

JustGiveMeReason · 30/04/2026 16:43

Yes (well, they did when they were at Primary school) and yes, from when they started.

Might be slightly different if they are in a 5 or 6 form entry Primary School and the EY Lead might do some of the things a HT would do in a smaller school, or, similarly, if in a tiny school where they might only be 2 or 3 adults and there is no perceivable difference to small dc as to who holds each role.

TorturedParentsDepartment · 30/04/2026 16:42

Mine did - but the Head played a very active role in school (and was the biggest kid out there so would be found playing football on the playground given half the chance).