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AIBU for wanting my lunch break car trips to stay solo?

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SpentDad35 · 30/04/2026 11:40

Right, good morning all. I’m just wondering what you guys think of my situation & of course, do you think I’m unreasonable here?

so, I work within a small office with a team of 4 other people. My job has long hours & often demanding. The kitchen is often small & always occupied so I have learned quickly that lunch is often taken at my desk.
due to this, I have always taken 30 minutes out my day to take some “me time” call it lunch if you will. Where I drive to the local park & enjoy the scenery or nip to a local shop or cafe or fill my car up with petrol & just enjoy my time.

the last few weeks however, I have got a colleague who wants to come with me to get food. He always states “oh there’s a shop next to the park can I jump in” or “I’ll come to petrol station with you to get some food”
the odd time I wasn’t too bothered as he is a friend but lately it’s everyday.

AIBU for not wanting him to tag on everyday as I enjoy the time to myself?

for context, he can drive so could get some food for himself but just doesn’t want to go in his own vehicle.

OP posts:
socks1107 · 30/04/2026 11:43

I do similar in that I go for a walk every day and do not want colleagues joining me. It’s my time for sure.
Start saying you have a personal phone call to make see if he takes the hint

NImumconfused · 30/04/2026 11:42

Absolutely not being unreasonable, just tell him you go out specifically for the peace and quiet.

BIWI · 30/04/2026 11:41

That would drive me nuts!

I'd say no, and say that you have to make an important, personal call.

Or, I'd wait till he's gone to the loo and then sneak out!

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