What number?

Our agreement is $500.

I’m not married. I am in a civil partnership. He is not my husband. He is my partner. Same legal protection, etc.
DP does not necessarily mean no legal implications.

We have separate bank accounts, and pay an amount each into joint account for bills.

I wouldn’t ever consult my Husband before spending any amount from my own bank account, however expensive it was.

I honestly think it makes no difference now that me and DH are married how we spend our money! It would matter what assets we have should we divorce but I spend the same as before I got married! I had kids with him before I married him and we never changed our finances. Yes the law is better in terms of protection should we separate but I still don’t ask him before I spend my money! I know what he spends when I bring his parcels in 🤣 not sure I’d fight over his golf clubs he keeps buying in any divorce…. maybe leverage to keep my pension!!

We have seperate finances, so don't check as such. If I am buying something over a few hundred then I will probably ask him if he thinks its a good deal or whatever but I don't need his permission. We tend to talk over household/joint purchases regardless of who is paying for them - just to agree on what we want as much as anything else.

Not if you live together it isn't.

I have no idea tbh.
A few weeks ago I spent thousands on a new bike and then a few hundred on accessories. I did say that I was researching getting a new bike though.

I bought a new car last year for £27k while dh was away. I had been dithering about getting one.

I lent ds 80k without telling dh. Ds paid me exactly when he said he would.
So I dont know when I would have to consult dh, maybe if I went to buy another house?

Lol

Anything over £100 probably out of joint account as that is generally for bills and food. I'd tell him as we'd probably both need to pay in as it may leave us short.

Out of my own account I wouldn't say anything if it was an amount I could afford by myself, and neither would he with his, and it would only be bigger items like holidays, work on the house, work on the car, new appliances we'd both contribute to that I'd get his approval or he would get mine to the spend first (though I just told him we were having a new (additional) freezer recently as I was paying for it, measured up and it fitted and I'm the one who will use it, mostly!) I earn a good deal more than him though these days and pay for more things. I also didn't get his consent before buying myself a car when I was 40 on a payment plan, as I could afford it by myself. I did get him to come and have a look when I was test driving though, as a second opinion, and he thought it was a good choice and deal. I also let him drive my car! He loved it.

I guess it would help if you explained the relevance of the link to how much one member of a couple spends

Im an adult with my own money, I dont need to ask permission to spend my own money.
Same as going out I'll tell you im going out but I dont need permission.

I've been.married over 40 years and we have never discussed or questioned each others personal spending. We don't keep our finances secret . We know how much we have in our separate current and savings accounts and we discuss issues like changing to higher interest accounts etc but we have never had discussions about how much we spend individually. We are both responsible adults we keep in credit in our current accounts and don't see the need to discuss how much we each are spending. I think we would both hate that.

We have separate finances. We don't check with each other, it's one of the benefits of having separate finances.

No. What respect? It's my own money that I earn.
Is he supposed to ask me for permission to spend his own money?

I don’t check anything with my DH that I use my own money for, and he doesn’t check with me either.
If there was something needed for the house or one of the children then we would discuss it but otherwise I have no idea how much money he has as he puts a set amount in the joint account to cover bills etc plus extra for the children as he’s a higher earner and he has no idea what I have in my own accounts either .
The reason I went back to work after each of the children was so that I had my own money to spend as I wanted to.

We only discuss costs for big household things or work to the house. We don't discuss our personal spending

The DWP, under the law, treats couples as having shared finances regardless of whether they are married. So if one partner loses their job, they can't claim benefits if their partner earns over the threshold because the money is assumed to be pooled. It was just to illustrate that the law doesn't draw the hard line you suggest.

Separate accounts so I wouldn't check with anyone.

I spent £600 on an educational course and never mentioned the cost. He buys fishing gear and I never question it.

Yeah about the same as me and my husband really

Joint account but generally check big purchases/holidays with friends etc.

We have general chats about birthday/Christmas gifts for the DC.