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How many people have you slept with?

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Fearlesssloth · 30/04/2026 09:50

…and do you lie about it? I’m late 30s, 4 or 5 relationships, most 1-2 years, been married now for 6 years. I’ve slept with around 50 people (I know cos I made a list once!) Only 1 or 2 were ‘true’ one night stands. I know that’s a lot but I refuse to be ashamed of it, I had a lot of fun in my youth. When I was dating before my husband I never admitted it to anyone I was dating. I’d always say less than 10. So how many people have you slept with and do you freely admit it or do you reduce the number a lot if asked by people you’re dating or were dating before if you’re in a relationship? And how do you feel about the number?

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ChristAliveHelp · 30/04/2026 09:59

Dunno around 25 maybe? Ive never really sat down & counted.

YouCantBeSadHoldingACupcake · 30/04/2026 09:56

I’m 39, and 4. Dh was number 4, we have been together since I was 19. I don’t lie about it.

Oreosareawful · 30/04/2026 09:54

I have no idea what the 'average' is, so I have no idea if my number is high or low.
It's 7. I dont lie about it. My husband was number 7.

Contrarymary30 · 30/04/2026 09:53

5 . 2 I was married to . I'M. 74 .

Octavia64 · 30/04/2026 09:52

I’m actually not totally sure.

i’m older (49) and I genuinely can’t remember some of the teenage ones.

it’s not a high number though.

i was genuinely surprised when I heard some teens actually talking about body count at a coffee shop,

(I’m now divorced and before that was married for 22 years)

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