How many people have you slept with?

I’m in my early 60s. It’s no more than twelve or thirteen, probably somewhere between 10-13. No one has ever asked me and I’ve never asked anyone, not even my ex. I gave it all up about ten year’s ago.

I hate to say this, but does no-one on here, really think @coulditbeme2323 has a bit of a point? I don't think you have to be part of the manosphere to think that some men (many men probably) will be put off a woman who tells him she has slept with 100s of men.

Also though, it does work both ways, and most women - me included, as I said earlier - will be put off a man who says he has slept with 100s of women. Most people don't want to get into a relationship with someone who has shagged 100s and 100s of different people.

I bet the posters who have slept with 100 men or more don't tell any new partner this, and have never told their husband this either. If they have, I would also be very surprised if he was OK with it. But as I said, most women wouldn't be happy if a man they met claimed he had shagged 100s of women either! It's not a pop at women!

Sorry, but most people are going to be a bit and then if a new partner they are dating tells them that they have shagged 100s of people. It's not about being prudish or part of the 'manosphere,' most people - in real life - will raise their eyebrows at someone making that claim.

Runs . >>>>>>. 🏃and hides 👀

I have answered, but it appears I am in the minority.

Why does that matter?

One - my husband. He died about 8 years ago and while I miss sex - its sex with HIM I miss - the thought of sleeping with someone new now makes me feel ill! In the incredibly unlikely event it was a possibility I'd have to tell - to explain my inexperience. Its been so long now that it would be like doing it for the first time again - but with a much less able body!

Ermmmm, I honestly can’t remember. Less than 10. I think probably 8 but I might have forgotten one. It’s not really a big deal. I have no idea how may my husband has slept with. Probably more as he’s older than me. Not a question we’ve ever asked each other. I’d never want to the first, I like some experience and knowing what to do tbh! As long as he’s not sleeping with anyone else now I really couldn’t care less and I’d hope he thinks the same.

I’m 40 this year and have slept with between 35-40 men, not including the 2 non consensual men

ETA - I was the one not giving consent, not the men. Just to clarify!

I’m 38. 4 sexual partners. 2 boyfriends, 1 ONS and 1 now ex husband. I actually wish it was more cos I haven’t had sex in over 5 years 🤣

No idea, but over fifty, probably not 100. I think counting and caring about the number is pointless. And I can't be shamed by it because I don't care what people think about it.

Same. Agreed 💯.

So my WiFing and mothering skills are kept in my vagina and a different penis chips away at them every time?
But the same penis, that fine. Totally different.

I genuinely pity you that you married such a sad pathetic man.

So if it were a high number what would you say? Tell the truth or lie?

The only person who has ever asked me was my DP. I don’t lie about it, but I’m seldom asked.

I’m 30 and have slept with 7 people. I was sexually assaulted many years ago, but obviously, I won’t count that one.

My DP and I have been together since I was 22. I hope she’ll be my last (in a same-sex relationship). ❤️

His number is higher. We were together for a lot of them 😆 🤯

Princess Di was a virgin when she married Charles so she made up for lost time. And he was having the affair (or on hold) with old horse face at the time.

10. I kind of regret most of them because the sex was shit as I wasn't particularly interested in them. I think I was curious about what the fuss was about but it didn't translate into enjoying the sex.

I think I enjoyed the sex with 3 of them. The rest were either brief relationships or ons.

I have wondered at times if I'm possibly asexual.

The comments about partners caring are so weird. I’ve been in four long term monogamous relationships (my partner and I have been together 15 years). None of those men have asked me how many men (or women) I’ve had sex with and I’ve never asked them. 🙄

Yep! Like I said, I would never lie

@coulditbeme2323 if i don't care (as a woman) how many people my partner has slept with does that make me a cuck?

Or is it natural because men are boilogically designed to spread their seed but women are designed to form an emotional attachment?

I would never tell partners about this too, the numbers. And there’s still so much double standards about, men are allowed to sleep strong and it’s applauded and encouraged. Maybe not so much these days but certainly still happens.

Maybe should have clarified; we didn't ask each other; we didn't need to. It was so blimmin' obvious that it was the first time for both of us!

I remember years ago when people didn't want to give a direct answer they would say "less than Madonna , but more than princess Di'' Then her affairs and relationship swith Will Carling, James Hewitt, Hassnat Khan, Barry Mannakee Oliver Hoare,James Gilbey and Dodi Fayed became public, people stopped saying it then!

That's for me to know, and YOU to find out!
she's trying to!! 😆 🤣

I'm 37 and I've slept with one person - my DH. Met at 18, now married. I think 1 person is probably quite abnormal but I'm happy with it. I'm shy, he's shy, we met, we clicked and the rest is history.

1 but I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t care if it was 100. Literally not a thing for us.

Loads, though I'm not going to sit down and make a list because I'm an adult and it's not like there's anything I can do to reduce the number (plus some of them I don't even remember). If I could unshag some of them, I would, but I had a lot of fun when I was younger and single and there's no point regretting any of it. My partner has been around a fair bit in his time too, but we have never had a discussion about numbers - there are so many more interesting things to talk about.