How many people have you slept with?

I'd guess it's around 35, I've never made a list though. Tbh I'm not sure anyone has ever asked me, DH knows I had lots of fun, I know he had lots of fun. I can't imagine feeling the need to lie about it but I equally can't imagine thinking it was any of anyone else's business who I've slept with.

Seven for me and I'm 62. Two were ONS, one was husband, one a year long 'situationship' and the other three were short term FWBs.

1 for me. Met DH when I was 18, been together 20 years, married for 16. No regrets as with getting fit, our sex life has gotten better with time. It’s like I've been with different versions of him.

I think asking is a red flag. It gives off judgemental and controlling vibes. I don’t know if it’s a more recent thing, but when I was dating in the 80s/90s no one ever asked and it never crossed my mind to ask. I would have been put off someone who asked me, regardless if my total was one or a hundred.

8 total - 5 were relationships (some very short however) & 3 were FWB situations

Also, how does anyone know what "most people" want, don't want, think, don't think?

Have they cannvassed the regional / national / global population? Researched yougov surveys? chatted with a few of their mates and decided that their small group = globally held views?

Or is it more a case of this is what i think and because I think it, it must be what most people think because how I think it the correct and normal way to think and anyone who doesn't think the way I think is deluded / lying?

I briefly dated a guy with one of those. Was the weirdest thing. Poor bastard.

I have an ex who had a micro penis. I do chuckle to myself when I recall it.

3 and I was in love with them all.
Fwiw, I don't judge people by the number of people they have slept with

It’s not a moral thing me having a lowish number (very early double figures, 10ish). If I found more men appealing I would have slept with them 😁 A couple of those 10ish weren’t even that attractive, so in my entire life I’ve probably only met barely ten or twelve men attractive enough to consider bed mate worthy (even if just in my imagination and it wasn’t on the cards), and that includes work and just going about my day to day business. How people have found dozens or hundreds attractive enough to get that up close and personal with I just don’t know. Not a judgement, more astounded.

Enough to know what I like.

50 ish? I’m 42

Most people don't want to get into a relationship with someone who has shagged 100s and 100s of different people.

Can you articulate why, out of interest? Is it the fact that they have slept with that many people or the conclusions you would draw about what 'type' of person they are and what they are interested in? ie. a man who has slept with 100's of women must only be interested in a shag, sees women as pieces of meat etc.

Absolutely there are men who care, and women who care. And most of them probably have the slut v stud mentality.

That doesn't mean everyone cares. Those who care will ask early on so weed each other out.

The rest of us who don't give a shit just go years with each other still not knowing and still not caring.

I think that the whole numbers thing is really about judging and shaming women so I reject it entirely and would never have married a man in the first place who felt he had the right to know my number, or even had an interest in knowing it.

If that makes us sinners so be it. Haha! I do not feel guilty, no woman should for their choices.

It's not my business.

Me 9
My partner doesn't know but over 100 all before he was married and had kids (before me).

User ‘Coulditbeme’ will be along shortly to publicly shame you, don’t worry 🤣.

Nowt wrong with fun nor hedonism.

I don't lie if I'm asked but nobody has asked me for a long time.

I feel relieved with my figure now! Almost thought I had to go out in the streets and self flagellate myself for my sins! Thank god we don’t live in times eg medieval, when you were probably publicly shamed for doing this. And I bet it happened back then too.

Just DH but we've been together since I was a teenager. I'm mid 40's now.

3 at 57
I started late then had a long marriage and have now been with my current partner for almost 10 years. Have never tried shagging around (not that I have anything against it) and am probably too old for it happen now!
If I pass the men from my past in the street I don't smirk or think about their penis. We are adults.
None of the men I have been with have ever asked about how many people I have slept with. They can probably make a rough guess based on me talking about my past. My current partner has definitely slept with a lot more people than me. But if he asked I wouldn't lie to appear cooler. He knows I'm not cool!

Six I think. Though I had seven in my head initially so I think I may have forgotten someone.
I’m early 40s and have largely been single for the last 10 years so most of those were in my twenties.
I’m not a massive fan of sex really. I find it very messy for a brief thrill 😂

Iv slept with men and women, iv also lost count. Over 50 id say.