What would your reaction be if you found out your ex-husband, who you were married to for 20 years (and separated 8 years ago) had been arrested for sexually abusing his new partner’s teenage daughter, and when you met him you had 3 daughters who were 13, 12 and 9? If you couldn’t, in a million years imagining him doing anything like that (you separated because you drifted apart) what would you do? Just think “oh dear, how awful for them all” (you’re not in contact with him and haven’t been since you separated) or, despite believing in his innocence, would you still be straight on the phone to your now grown-up daughters (all of whom you have a pretty good relationship with) to ask if their stepdad ever sexually abused them? Just to make 100% sure..?