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AIBU to limit teens having friends over in our rented house?

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Clubtropicanasun · 29/04/2026 19:47

I've got two teens DD 16 and DD 17.5. Both are pretty social and like having their (mixed) friendship group around.

My rule is that they all have to leave at 10.30pm if they come at night. Mostly, I encourage them to come in the afternoon, then go out. And not more than once every month/6 weeks. And sometimes I'm even there upstairs so I can call out issues.

Does that sound reasonable? We've just moved into a new rented house so I'm a bit jittery about it. I try to be really considerate but obviously they make noise.

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 29/04/2026 22:44

I would want friends over all the time as I’d rather they socialized in my home than in somewhere unsupervised

Catza · 29/04/2026 22:43

Lmnop22 · 29/04/2026 20:02

I think only allowing friends over once a month is a bit harsh - surely your rules re 10:30pm leaving are enough to ensure the neighbours are appeased by noise stopping at a reasonable time?

That depends. I used to live next to a student house share and they had music playing from 4pm to 8pm every. single. day. Yes, it was legal but didn't help me as I could never relax in my own house after work with a mix of gangster rap and very bad attempts at operatic singing (they had an eclectic taste). I had to move.

PurpleThistle7 · 29/04/2026 20:07

I think those are really considerate rules for neighbours but I don’t think you need to restrict to once a month. If things end early enough no one should mind if it’s more often.

Lmnop22 · 29/04/2026 20:02

I think only allowing friends over once a month is a bit harsh - surely your rules re 10:30pm leaving are enough to ensure the neighbours are appeased by noise stopping at a reasonable time?

Jessamy12 · 29/04/2026 19:58

I don’t know how close your neighbours are but if they would be able to hear then I would say you’re definitely not being unreasonable.
All our neighbours make “normal” amounts of noise, except for one who is extremely anti-social. Music blaring at random times, hysterical laughter at 2am on a weeknight sort of thing. We share a wall so it’s a nightmare.
Every now and then a bit of noise isn’t an issue. The other side have big family gatherings on special occasions and of course we can hear them but that’s just city life!

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Clubtropicanasun · 29/04/2026 19:52

Jessamy12 · 29/04/2026 19:50

Consideration for neighbours is admirable.

I wonder how much noise they could possibly make though?

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They just do. Quite a lot of overexcitement sometimes, shrill voices. Music. Doors banging. I do try to minimilise it. But they're not massively aware.

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Jessamy12 · 29/04/2026 19:50

Clubtropicanasun · 29/04/2026 19:50

Yes, consideration for neighbours

Consideration for neighbours is admirable.

I wonder how much noise they could possibly make though?

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Clubtropicanasun · 29/04/2026 19:50

Yes, consideration for neighbours

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WydeStrype · 29/04/2026 19:49

What's the issue/concern? Noise for the neighbours?

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