Matcha, leggings with socks over, botox, yada yada yada

Where do you live, if you haven’t yet said?

I’m guessing Home Counties!

I’m London and there are definitely certain types within a certain demographic in my area. Quite a few ‘nutritionists’ or ‘interior designers’ that - this sounds unkind and judgemental, but it’s just the truth - actually don’t earn anything and live off their husband’s high incomes. They seem to have moved on from Pilates to padel. All their houses look similar!

That said, within the same area there are plenty of down to earth and very individual women. You just need to find your tribe!

Me too! 😆

You still haven’t described your actual interests or personality or what “elevates” you above these awful “basic” women.

Socks over leggings till i die.

Interestingly enough my 13YO DD said its very uncool 😭but alas i shall continue

I’d love to live in your area.

A parent punched a teacher in the playground at pickup on Tuesday afternoon. There are often fights between parents, but this is the first time I’ve seen a teacher get a fist to the face.

Count yourself lucky, it’s like Jeremy Kyle live where I live.

& grandparents!

This isn’t new, individuality died in the 90s. It’s normal now for teenagers & parents to dress the same.

A skinny Americano?

Americano is a long, black coffee. How do you make it skinny?

Sounds like the area you are in is one season or
trend behind. It’s moved on since then.

You sound shallow and judgy. Just because people don't reveal everything about themselves to casual acquaintances doesn't mean they don't have depth.

I'm in my 60s. I'm taking my botoxed self to Pilates in my socks over leggings later (although I'll have a decaf skinny Americano not a Matcha). You'd probably double judge me for being both old AND basic but I have knowledge and life experiences you probably couldn't imagine. But you'd never get close enough to find out.

OP I kind of agree with you.

as a Pilates-going Botox user myself I think both are great - but there is nothing more boring than people talking about them.

I do these thing quietly in private and do not discuss (with rare exceptions - if people ask specific questions) A lot of people I know seem to want to make it their whole personality and discuss nothing more interesting (see also - diets and food intolerances 🙄)

also - why are young people scared to reveal their ankles these days???

I tried a matcha latte this morning off the back of this thread.
It was rank. 0/10

You’re too judgy

get to know these people more: nobody’s personality is defined by having a handyman and wearing leggings

How fucking mortifying for you. You’re taking the piss out of women that amusingly mispronounce gilet, whilst spelling it incorrectly!

Proves the point beautifully though. You’re looking down your nose at the way certain women dress and speak, all the while you up there on your high horse can’t spell.

Ha ha same but I do wear leggings outside the house and I used to do yoga. Must return.

I live in what’s called an exclusive area in London (didn’t used to be!) and most of the mums I know certainly aren’t like that! Maybe some aspects but not all. In Nappy Valley in Clapham (not far from me) yes it is definitely more like that. Do your own thing though. Don’t be a sheep.

I wear socks over my leggings so I don’t get ticks when out walking or running through fields and woods. Am I cool?!

Wow. Judgy much? 🤷‍♀️

I'm in desperate need of botox. I wish I was friends with these mums so I could get some recommendations 😂

Do try and understand context - you said they won’t think twice about me and that’s what I don’t care about.

I also didn’t come on the internet to bash them 🙄. I commented on a pre-existing mumsnet thread, just as I comment on lots of other threads about a variety of topics.

'Amusingly mispronounced' she says, while being unable to spell gilet herself.

That explains it! Tbh they look kind of scary as well - their expressionless faces give off Stepford wives vibes. I think @Wheredidallthegoodonesgo is wise to stay away from this.

You are conflating two different things.

Yes, the uniform of leggings, white socks, cap, botox etc is boring but plenty of women who don’t dress like that have botox!

And dressing a certain way doesn’t mean you have a certain personality.

There was a similar thread a while ago where people were incredulous that I don’t discuss council tax, geopolitical conflicts, climate disasters, and feminism with my friends. And we instead, you know, try to have fun together, make each other laugh, talk about music, raves and festivals, cool things happening in our city, travel plans/recommendations, dating/sex, etc. If protecting your peace and not getting bogged down with things you have no control over nor any interest in means you’re “basic” and have “no depth” then so be it.

Honestly, being basic and living in a bubble are highly, highly underrated.

Come and live up in the rural Borders. Neighbours are mainly farmers and fellow smallholders. No matcha to be had for miles around! Leggings permitted, but need to be fleece lined most of the year and usually have holes chewed by goats/sheep/pecked by chickens. Socks (usually welly socks and two pairs) necessary. I'm afraid in the local pub you do find a lot of swapping recommendations for sheep shearing and tractor repairs. Not sure if that's better than handymen or cleaners.

Botox - guilty as charged I'm afraid. Despite living up here and spending most of my free time up to my knees in mud and hay, I have retained a bit of vanity! But most people wouldn't know and I rarely tell anyone about it. I have it done on my work trips to the big smoke.

These may not be "your people" OP, but it doesn't mean they're bad people. You might well not be their sort either. You might be more likely to meet "your people" in hobby or interest based groups than playgroup/school mum circles where the main thing and perhaps the only thing you have in common is having kids of a similar age.