Was sex at school less stigmatised in the late 90s?

I started secondary school in 1993 and it was definitely seen as a cool thing to be having sex.
I remember feeling like the oldest virgin in the world.. Ridiculous because I lost my virginity age 17, I was the oldest out of my friends though.

When I was at school grown men having sex with school girls wasn't stigmatised. It was very cool and the girls loved getting picked up by men driving their cars around town.
I'm glad it is stigmatised now. I've got two teens and have work with someone in their early 20s. They find it disgusting for adults to sleep with teens under 18.
The body count thing is misogynistic trope picked up from the Andrew Tate crew.

Zero stigma at being sexually active at my school in the 80s. Highly academic private school and everyone took contraception extremely seriously. Pregnancies were completely unheard of.

I was in secondary in the early 00’s and sex was definitely cool. Peers would want to know all the gossip about what and who.

Pregnancy was definitely a no no though. Unsurprisingly however a lot of us got pregnant during our college years.

Mid 80s and it was certainly seen as cool to have an older boyfriend with a car, especially one who would pick you up from school. Looking back 15yr olds with men in their mid 20s or older. It was all a bit Bob, Sue and Rita too and would be seen as grooming now.
It was definitely not acceptable to fall pregnant though and that was looked down on.
Just read other replies, mine was an all girls school, so no boys to be giving the slag insults.

I left school in 1999 (a virgin)
Looking back it seemed to be the thing that being a virgin was shame inducing (I certainly felt this) but also the girls that had sex with multiple partners were “slags” seems crazy looking back now. 🤷‍♀️

Yes I lived not far from Doncaster the nights out were legendary back in the day. But yes I think there was a documentary that highlighted the std levels. Pretty grim.

Yup this is what I remember. Like hell would I make any decision about my life based on what that bunch of tossers might think.

I will never understand making a decision about something as personal as whether or not to let another human being into your body based on what other people thought was cool or what they might think (let alone a bunch of teenage idiots). Who gives a shit?

It wasn’t really stigmatised in my school. In fact it wasn’t uncommon for people to skip school to go have sex or be found in the alley by school giving/receiving blow jobs in the middle of the day .

Im really hoping times have changed

At my school (in the nineties) if you were sexually experienced you were a slag. Boys always talked if a girl did anything. They would sing a finger of fudge to any girl who got fingered.
it really put me off doing anything. But if you didn’t you were frigid or a d*ke.
Lovely place

This.

I was at school in the mid 00s. Boys and girls had relationships, but the "casual sex" thing was never really a thing, so it was probably before my time.

I agree that "body count" sounds like a very strange term. Do people actually use that term? "Body count"? And I imagine for the overwhelming majority of people it's going to be in the single digits anyway, so I'm not sure why it would even be an interesting question to begin with. Seems like a very strange thing to ask anyone.

Teenager in the early 80s . There were a few sexually active at school. Mostly in long term (over a year together) relationships. Only know of 2 girls who were pregnant in my year and one girl in the year above. They all had their babies thats how we knew. Abortion was very secretive then so there could of been more but kept very quiet. The pill was difficult to get without parental permission and you still had to convince the GP you were in a long-term relationship. I cant think of anyone being looked down on for being sexually active. A few years later there was the Victoria gillick legal challenge that tried to stop girls under 16 being prescribed contraception without parental consent so there must of been a lot of girls trying to obtain it. Most used condoms.

Yes, being pregnant was seen as quite cool and exciting. I think a lot of magazines and soaps tried to show the gritty reality but unintentionally ended up glamorising it. We had four teenage pregnancies in our year, I think. Strange to think their babies are now approaching thirty.

In my first couple of years teaching pregnancy was quite common but then seemed to wane. I’m not sure why.

The whole "body count" and "slut shaming" things is just male pushback to third wave feminism, which was only just beginning in the 90s

I remember Donny locally being called the HIV capital of Europe in the 90’s.

People who slept around were considered undesirable in my school. Who wants to go where multiple people have already gone?

Yes secondary school in mid to late 90s it was a badge of honour to lose your virginity at our school!

In my experience - mid 90s - there was a very narrow window. Too many, and you were a slapper. Too few and you were too ugly/whatever to get a boyfriend. The "correct" path was lots of sex, but with a small number of long term boyfriends.

I think who you were sleeping with made a difference also. Attractive and popular boys = fine, other boys = slapper.

I was a teen in the early 90s and at my school there was a constant chat about your “number”.

A lot of people made it up and just hoped they found the “cool” sweet spot somewhere between frigid and easy.

I think the type of sex young people are having has massively changed but not the amount particularly (comparing my time at school, my elder kids who are 20’s and my 14yo)

I was at a comprehensive in a market town in the Midlands and agree with the - not cool to be a virgin but not cool to be a 'slag' comment. (Obviously for boys lots of partners would make them a 'stud'.)

There was no magic number. You just had to play the game between not looking to eager or too 'frigid'. Making worldly comments but demurring on details and totally denying any specific claim by a boy.

I think things got a lot better if you went away to university, though the 'slag' label was still bandied about a bit.