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SHE LEAVES GAS ON REPEATEDLY FOR YEARS

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heygirlsitsme · 29/04/2026 19:29

Hey guys I am asking about a close relative

what the hell could this be??

they for decades have been leaving gas on like every month, every few months. Sometimes even few times a week.

their daughter has bad ocd because she remembers since age 13 having to check gas after her

and it’s not just gas. Hot tools, plugged in iron, fire on.

like person living with them comes home, no one is home, that woman left for work and gas is on.

30 years they nearly burned down staff kitchen room in old workplace

when you tell them off about it they go, oh yes, sorry. Sorry. I’ll be more careful. Or quietly nod. But they keep doing same thing.

I don’t understand why it’s so hard to double check and be more careful if you know this about yourself.

what the hell could this be. I am starting to wonder if this is done on purpose because it’s so ridiculous

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Butterme · 29/04/2026 20:57

I’m not sure why you’re getting silly replies.

Your thread does not seem fake and it’s easy to work out what you mean.

Papyrophile · 29/04/2026 20:56

I am happy that I am not paying for the gas bill!

Butterme · 29/04/2026 20:55

It’s very worrying and I know a few people like this but are all undiagnosed.

If there are young kids in the house then I’d report her to adult social services but if not, then apart from trying to persuade them to get help, there’s not much you can do.

And the fact that she’s a teacher is irrelevant. I know many people who are incredibly professional and hard working but cannot cope with home life.
I don’t know if they burn out from work and so the home life drops or if the home life is too chaotic for them.

I’m similar to it.
I could easily work 15 hour shifts but having to tidy my room is like torture.

I remember reading about a head teacher of a private school who had years of professional experience and was one of the best.
He lived in a massive, expensive home in a really expensive area.
But he ate, slept, read etc all in his car on the driveway because he was a massive hoarder and couldn’t live in his home.

Blahblahblahabla · 29/04/2026 20:55

I recently clocked that all the fires in fireman Sam are started by Norman

RawBloomers · 29/04/2026 20:54

heygirlsitsme · 29/04/2026 20:25

I see I’m getting very unserious and trolling replies

i don’t understand why. I understand this is very bizarre. This is a very disturbing situation.

if anyone has serious suggestion what this can be.

Some kind of mental illness or???

I would be very grateful

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You're getting trolling responses because your post is all over the place. You've written in a bizarre style that requires readers to do a lot of work to understand what you mean and it comes across as disrespectful (or drunk) and pisses people off.

Take a moment to think about what you're trying to ask and, separately, what we might need to know to provide you with more sensible answers. And write in sentences. Then you'll get better responses.

We can't really guess at why she's doing it based on what you've told us. What does she say when you sit her down and ask? Does her behaviour on this tie in with other behaviours - either memory/attention based ones or selfishness?

(Also, on here, shouting in the title is basically the same as pinning a "kick me" note to your own back)

TheDehumidifierNeedsEmptying · 29/04/2026 20:53

I know you said you wanted serious replies however at a point you have to seriously consider the fact that this person might just be an idiot.

wiwaprwfimh70 · 29/04/2026 20:50

Second post wrote in the same strange way this evening I recognise the OPs writing. Must try harder....

youalright · 29/04/2026 20:48

I think rather then worrying about a diagnosis you need to focus on solutions

youalright · 29/04/2026 20:46

heygirlsitsme · 29/04/2026 20:25

I see I’m getting very unserious and trolling replies

i don’t understand why. I understand this is very bizarre. This is a very disturbing situation.

if anyone has serious suggestion what this can be.

Some kind of mental illness or???

I would be very grateful

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I don't know what it could be as if it was adhd or dementia then she wouldn't be able to teach. I use to always have a fear id left my hairstraightners on so I use to take a photo before I went to work so I could look back and know I had unplugged them. Would post it notes or a leaving the house checklist work

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heygirlsitsme · 29/04/2026 20:46

WheretheFishesareFrightening · 29/04/2026 20:44

If there’s an induction hob what fire is the pan on?

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meant before it was done

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WheretheFishesareFrightening · 29/04/2026 20:44

heygirlsitsme · 29/04/2026 19:50

This has been done.

but it’s not just stove

its hot tools, recently it was a hot plugged in iron.

or left Pan with fire on.

im trying to figure out what the hell this is and what the hell is wrong with her

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If there’s an induction hob what fire is the pan on?

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heygirlsitsme · 29/04/2026 20:38

Backedoffhackedoff · 29/04/2026 20:34

No-one can do anything if your relative doesn’t give a crap about it. I don’t know why you assume it’s an illness.

tbh if they’ve done this for decades without blowing up the property or starting a fire I suspect it’s not as bad as you think.

I don’t know why people are posting ideas to solve it, the person is hardly going to take advice

They started a few fires.

and They only haven’t blown up the property because relative living with them monitors them and checks

i believe it’s an illness because it’s not normal.

It’s my own curiosity what this can be and also maybe i could get this person help and treated if it’s something undiagnosed

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Bluebells81 · 29/04/2026 20:37

My sister does this kind of thing all the time too. She is also a respected professional.
She tends to always do more than one thing at a time so it's always distracted and just moved on to the next task before finishing the first.
Always been a high achiever and had a thirst for knowledge. She just doesn't have any systems to finish tasks and switch stuff off.
Has her own house and lives on her own so it's her problem.

Blimms · 29/04/2026 20:36

heygirlsitsme · 29/04/2026 20:25

I see I’m getting very unserious and trolling replies

i don’t understand why. I understand this is very bizarre. This is a very disturbing situation.

if anyone has serious suggestion what this can be.

Some kind of mental illness or???

I would be very grateful

Edited

There’s definitely some mental illness going on somewhere.

Backedoffhackedoff · 29/04/2026 20:34

No-one can do anything if your relative doesn’t give a crap about it. I don’t know why you assume it’s an illness.

tbh if they’ve done this for decades without blowing up the property or starting a fire I suspect it’s not as bad as you think.

I don’t know why people are posting ideas to solve it, the person is hardly going to take advice

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heygirlsitsme · 29/04/2026 20:31

Lilmrsac · 29/04/2026 20:27

So in the 30 years this has been happening no one has thought to perhaps have a medical evaluation done for this person?

you seem overly involved yet not doing anything at all for the situation… whole thing seems a bit off

I mean I don’t know. this person lived abroad most of my life, I didn’t know them and they only been a close relative for only like few years to me. I learned about this recently.

i guess people tried getting them help but you can’t force them against their will? Or people just get the hell away from them thinking they are crazy. They also don’t really have any family or friends left

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Lilmrsac · 29/04/2026 20:27

So in the 30 years this has been happening no one has thought to perhaps have a medical evaluation done for this person?

you seem overly involved yet not doing anything at all for the situation… whole thing seems a bit off

AgentJohnson · 29/04/2026 20:27

Don’t waste your time trying to diagnose this person. I would just replace sockets with smart sockets. Then set up a routine so that when she leaves the house, every thing but the fridge is turned off automatically. The routine is geo fenced and triggered when her phone disconnects from the wifi. If I lived with this person I would insist on it.

She obviously doesn’t care change or she would have.

xxxlove · 29/04/2026 20:26

heygirlsitsme · 29/04/2026 20:19

That’s the most bizarre thing that makes no sense

she is a teacher

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I am married to a super intellectual teacher. He leaves the kitchen kabinets doors open all the time, after using the kitchen all in a mess, leaves his keys and phones around and loses them 100s of times...might have left the gaz once or twice but I also have seen him having OCD in checking ....your teacher however is another level

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heygirlsitsme · 29/04/2026 20:25

I see I’m getting very unserious and trolling replies

i don’t understand why. I understand this is very bizarre. This is a very disturbing situation.

if anyone has serious suggestion what this can be.

Some kind of mental illness or???

I would be very grateful

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purpleme12 · 29/04/2026 20:22

😆

ilovesooty · 29/04/2026 20:22

heygirlsitsme · 29/04/2026 19:46

Forgot to add, this person is a teacher

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No you've said it three times.

SapphireSeptember · 29/04/2026 20:20

LuckyCharmz · 29/04/2026 20:06

l’m old and not really sure what a stove is, presume the oven? Is stove American?

Gas hobs. I call my (electric) hobs 'the stove'. I was born and raised in the UK. I hear a lot of Americans say cook top instead of stove though.

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heygirlsitsme · 29/04/2026 20:20

Slightyamusedandsilly · 29/04/2026 20:17

they for decades have been leaving gas on

Are you saying that they have left the cooker/stove on for 20 (or more) years, without ever turning it off?

20 years of the stove on. Never off.

I think you're using exaggeration to create some sort of effect.

Sorry I was in a rush typing

what I mean is this has been going on for decades

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purpleme12 · 29/04/2026 20:20

We get that she's a teacher