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To think some amount of pain when hungry is not necessarily a problem?

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Carla786 · 29/04/2026 17:22

So I was talking about food with my DM the other day and I was surprised at the different ways we see hunger.
She feels strongly that if you have gnawing/growling etc feelings in your stomach this is unhealthy and means that acid is hurting your stomach. I argued that some mild amount of this, let's say half an hour before you eat, isn't a problem, provided you have nutritious and filling meals.

Essentially she feels that the only healthy way to feel hungry is to feel a mild empty sensation but not pain, but any amount of pain is unhealthy and means you should eat something straight away or you will harm your stomach, and if it happens often, you should go to the GP to see if something is wrong with the stomach lining.

Who is BU?

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FartyAnimal · 29/04/2026 20:02

I was reading about food, and most of us have no idea what true hunger is! That would be not eating for a couple of days, as we would have done in the past.

Purplewarrior · 29/04/2026 19:59

I have low blood pressure and am prone to fainting if I allow myself to get too hungry.

BloodandGlitter · 29/04/2026 19:56

PullyDog · 29/04/2026 18:09

Does anyone else ever feel sick when they're hungry?

I find I feel like I'm gonna (and sometimes do) throw up if I go too long without eating, it happens.

It actually happened today so I stopped and got a drink and chocolate bar from the corner shop between jobs.

Yes! Never felt actual pain but do feel really sick, it then puts me off eating! I also sneeze when I feel sick from hunger but not when I feel sick for any other reason.

Notabarbie · 29/04/2026 18:43

If you're drinking enough and eating the right kinds of foods it shouldn't be necessary to feel that hungry. I never find it works well for me to become that hungry and would eat an oatcake or something to avoid it.

Butterme · 29/04/2026 18:38

We feel hunger for a reason and I think it’s important to listen to it.

Its like taking paracetamol all day to not feel any pain but that’s silly.

Most of the time, when we think we need a snack we’re actually just thirsty.
Some people get acid reflux from it because they’re not drinking enough.

But I don’t think it should be painful and obviously if you’re slimmer and have a faster metabolism or younger or more active, then you’re going to need to eat more regularly and so I think it’s important to feel hunger but not judge people for how often they eat.

SapphireSeptember · 29/04/2026 18:27

PullyDog · 29/04/2026 18:09

Does anyone else ever feel sick when they're hungry?

I find I feel like I'm gonna (and sometimes do) throw up if I go too long without eating, it happens.

It actually happened today so I stopped and got a drink and chocolate bar from the corner shop between jobs.

Yes, me! I've always thought it was very weird, but I'm glad it's not just me.

Happyjoe · 29/04/2026 18:14

Actual pain? Then you probably have acid reflux or something wrong. I would agree with your mum then it's probably better to eat before getting to that stage. I've had a stomach ulcer before and they are a pita.

Nas1G0r3ng · 29/04/2026 18:14

Theyreeatingthedogs · 29/04/2026 18:09

It’s an article by somebody on a website called Dietlicious and is talking nonsense.

Screamingabdabz · 29/04/2026 18:13

PullyDog · 29/04/2026 18:09

Does anyone else ever feel sick when they're hungry?

I find I feel like I'm gonna (and sometimes do) throw up if I go too long without eating, it happens.

It actually happened today so I stopped and got a drink and chocolate bar from the corner shop between jobs.

Yes - this is why I can’t follow the ‘only eat when you’re actually hungry’ mantra. I feel very nauseous and headachy if I get to that point. It’s horrible.

NewNameNewMeNow · 29/04/2026 18:13

I could definitely ignore stomach pain but I get really lightheaded when I’m hungry so I can’t actually function properly. I blame my weight issues on this.

Newsenmum · 29/04/2026 18:11

I would never experience it as pain! If it’s actually painful that’s not good.

DreamyRedNewt · 29/04/2026 18:10

rbe78 · 29/04/2026 17:29

Pain? I don't think I have ever been in actual pain from hunger, is that considered normal?

I would consider anyone who is experiencing pain on a regular basis from not having enough food to be someone who is seriously lacking in money and resource, and who needed support in order to feed themselves properly.

This. Being hungry can be an uncomfortable feeling, but pain?...I am baffled and I sometimes fast. I guess dofferent people have dofferent ideas about what pain is, otherwise I cannot understand this

PullyDog · 29/04/2026 18:09

Does anyone else ever feel sick when they're hungry?

I find I feel like I'm gonna (and sometimes do) throw up if I go too long without eating, it happens.

It actually happened today so I stopped and got a drink and chocolate bar from the corner shop between jobs.

Theyreeatingthedogs · 29/04/2026 18:09

Nas1G0r3ng · 29/04/2026 17:41

Why?

www.dietlicious.com.au/blog/why-it-s-ok-to-be-hungry/

Charlenedickens · 29/04/2026 18:03

I can let myself get hungry, feel hunger pangs, but I’ve never felt actual pain, so I’d agree with your mum, if you get to the stags you feel physical pain you should eat.

I googled and discomfort is what you should feel, but not pain.

SherbetDipDap · 29/04/2026 18:01

If I leave eating to the point of physical pain, I will definitely binge. I plan my meals ahead of time to prevent mindless overeating. But if you can feel really hungry and then eat a normal amount it isn’t going to do you physical harm.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 29/04/2026 18:01

My last ex (who was on the spectrum) used to struggle with any kind of physical discomfort. So he would eat every four hours, because even the feeling of a slightly rumbling stomach was too much for him. He'd also sit indoors with all the curtains drawn on sunny days because he couldn't cope with being even slightly sweaty.

So I have deduced that different people have different tolerances for the same thing. I only eat one meal a day, at the end of the day. By the time that comes around my stomach is grumbling but I don't feel in pain of any kind, just ready for my dinner. But to someone else that feeling might register as acute pain.

HedgeWitchOfTheWest · 29/04/2026 17:57

This is really fascinating!

I can feel that gnawing hunger pain. Not so much now but when I was young it was terrible! In my 20s I’d carry an “emergency Mars bar”. I don’t get light headed (afaik).

It happens less as I get older. But now that I’m getting the dreaded ‘meno-belly’ I’m trying to go back to feeling my hunger.

But it’s really interesting to read others descriptions of hunger.

tilyougetenough · 29/04/2026 17:57

MyballsareSandy2015 · 29/04/2026 17:54

How can you go on a run when you’re hungry! I’d have a very small snack at least.

I’m not very fit so they leave me feeling quite unwell 🤣 I’d probably throw up

TonTonMacoute · 29/04/2026 17:57

I do 5:2 fasting and I quite enjoy that empty stomach rumbling feeling, and I look forward to the next meal. I have never experienced anything I would describe as pain when hungry.

If your stomach acid is hurting your stomach lining you aren't hungry, you have an ulcer.

youalright · 29/04/2026 17:56

I've never felt pain from hunger unless you count headaches

TalulahJP · 29/04/2026 17:56

rumbling is fine. a funny feeling then is fine, in your tummy area just above the belly button

actual gnawing pain especially at the front where your bra sits right in the middle is likely acid rising and burning your gullet. not good. your stomach is flameproof kind of thing but your gullet is not. That kind of pain needs investigated.

HoraceCope · 29/04/2026 17:55

chewing gum can cause your stomach to work hard, all that saliva.

MyballsareSandy2015 · 29/04/2026 17:54

tilyougetenough · 29/04/2026 17:42

Feeling hunger is one thing. I’m hungry right now, but I know I’ll go home, go on a run and then eat something.

But feeling actual physical pain from hunger isn’t normal.

How can you go on a run when you’re hungry! I’d have a very small snack at least.

Scabbyhands · 29/04/2026 17:54

I never really feel hungry. I do intermittent fasting and every other week I do a 48 hour fast.