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To think some amount of pain when hungry is not necessarily a problem?

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Carla786 · 29/04/2026 17:22

So I was talking about food with my DM the other day and I was surprised at the different ways we see hunger.
She feels strongly that if you have gnawing/growling etc feelings in your stomach this is unhealthy and means that acid is hurting your stomach. I argued that some mild amount of this, let's say half an hour before you eat, isn't a problem, provided you have nutritious and filling meals.

Essentially she feels that the only healthy way to feel hungry is to feel a mild empty sensation but not pain, but any amount of pain is unhealthy and means you should eat something straight away or you will harm your stomach, and if it happens often, you should go to the GP to see if something is wrong with the stomach lining.

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Happyjoe · 29/04/2026 23:00

Carla786 · 29/04/2026 21:19

This isn't pain under the bra area - in the stomach, lower than that..

The stomach is just under the bra area. That's where it sits.

Littleguggi · 29/04/2026 22:54

Everyone feels hunger differently, some people don't experience any hunger cues whereas others quite extreme such as pain. It's all to do with our sensory needs and the 8th sense called interoception. I personally experience pain and discomfort when hungry and because of this will actively avoid going without food for long periods of time.

MasterBeth · 29/04/2026 22:51

There are some fucked-up attitudes to food on Mumsnet.

Pain is your body telling you something is wrong.

Eat some food, for God's sake!!!

Bowling4soup · 29/04/2026 22:46

I’ve never felt pain from hunger. Just rumbling and growling occasionally

BB49 · 29/04/2026 22:20

At worst I feel an empty rumbling tummy and I quite enjoy that feeling and then eating when I can afterwards. It’s not painful or uncomfortable at all.

JaceLancs · 29/04/2026 22:18

I don’t get pain from being hungry but if I’ve not eaten for too long I get a bad headache and start to feel dizzy

WhatDoRacoonsSay · 29/04/2026 22:16

I've never felt pain, or even discomfort.from being hungry.

likelysuspect · 29/04/2026 22:15

Ive learnt a bit too late in life that what I thought were hunger pangs were acid pangs, that gnawing feeling

I have soemtimes been so hungry I feel sick, that is very very hungry

Sometimes Im just comfortably hungry and it suddenly occurs to me that Im hungry. Its such an unusual feeling that I think that I shoujld feel it more often, it sort of feels natural

Its akin to one of our senses I think and I think we have lost sight of it (no pun intended)

I like to wake up hungry. If I eat too late in the evening(like today yet again) it doesnt happen and then it sets my day off badly because Im not hungry enough to eat in the morning but then wont get time at work and then I'll be ultra hungry and then like others have said, want to snack.

Huckleberries · 29/04/2026 22:13

@Carla786 I think you've used the word pain completely wrong here

Pain is you've twisted your ankle really badly and can't stand up, for example

I would never use pain to describe hunger - you might get that if you'd gone without food for a few days but I've never done that

Did you mean discomfort rather than pain?

I get the hungry stomachache thing. I understand that I had it when I was little. But it was an ache, not a pain. Big difference in my view.

I definitely wouldn't advocate not eating until you actually feel pain, but I doubt anyone's doing that

NotYoCheese · 29/04/2026 22:11

MyballsareSandy2015 · 29/04/2026 17:54

How can you go on a run when you’re hungry! I’d have a very small snack at least.

I have far more energy before I eat - digesting is tiring, it’s why older people have a nap after lunch.
Hungry is the natural human state - we hunted to eat, not the other way round.

MxCactus · 29/04/2026 22:10

I've never had actual pain from hunger... And I have gone a couple of days without eating before.

Do people have actual pain when they're hungry? What?!

EDIT: I have however felt sick/nauseous from hunger, as pp have said

SplendidUtterly · 29/04/2026 21:56

PullyDog · 29/04/2026 18:09

Does anyone else ever feel sick when they're hungry?

I find I feel like I'm gonna (and sometimes do) throw up if I go too long without eating, it happens.

It actually happened today so I stopped and got a drink and chocolate bar from the corner shop between jobs.

Yes. But everytime i have ever asked someone if they ever feek sick from hunger i have been told "no" so at least i now know I'm not the only one 😀

OhBettyCalmDown · 29/04/2026 21:50

Feeling hungry is normal feeling pain is not

WhatAMarvelousTune · 29/04/2026 21:47

Carla786 · 29/04/2026 21:24

How would you define hunger pangs? I would describe the 'pain' as gnawing twinges, not like a continuous pain like a stomach ache. I wonder if some people are describing a similar thing to what I feel but don't describe it as 'pain'. Interesting...

Yes I think it’s difficult to get any idea from other people, because lots of people have mentioned discomfort but I suppose the line between discomfort and pain is a bit blurry - one person’s discomfort is something another person might class as pain and vice versa.

BarbiesDreamHome · 29/04/2026 21:34

It's fine. When I diet to drop the winter weight I give my tummy a massage and get up and moving and it soon goes away.

Feeling hungry is supposed to be uncomfortable because its how your body reminds you to eat. You can choose to ignore it if it suits you and if you can't access food because you're on shift or something it no big deal.

Historically we wouldn't have been 30 seconds from a fridge and unlimited food and our bodies haven't caught up.

BruFord · 29/04/2026 21:30

PullyDog · 29/04/2026 18:09

Does anyone else ever feel sick when they're hungry?

I find I feel like I'm gonna (and sometimes do) throw up if I go too long without eating, it happens.

It actually happened today so I stopped and got a drink and chocolate bar from the corner shop between jobs.

I've experienced this @PullyDog, I presume it's low blood sugar or something.

@Catza I sometimes wonder how on earth our ancestors survived, most of them wouldn't have had regular meals in the way we think of them. Feeling constantly under the weather must've been normal a few centuries ago.

ThePeewit · 29/04/2026 21:28

I would say a hollow rumbling stomach, not actual pain.
I think people have forgotten what it's like to feel hungry because of snacking.
I actually prefer to be properly hungry at mealtimes because I enjoy looking forward to my meal and eating it more if I'm really hungry.

Bringemout · 29/04/2026 21:27

The hungrier I get the worse my choices around food. I tend to eat twice a day but if that first meal is later than I expected I will definitely be reaching for chips.

Carla786 · 29/04/2026 21:24

Charlenedickens · 29/04/2026 18:03

I can let myself get hungry, feel hunger pangs, but I’ve never felt actual pain, so I’d agree with your mum, if you get to the stags you feel physical pain you should eat.

I googled and discomfort is what you should feel, but not pain.

How would you define hunger pangs? I would describe the 'pain' as gnawing twinges, not like a continuous pain like a stomach ache. I wonder if some people are describing a similar thing to what I feel but don't describe it as 'pain'. Interesting...

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Carla786 · 29/04/2026 21:21

Notabarbie · 29/04/2026 18:43

If you're drinking enough and eating the right kinds of foods it shouldn't be necessary to feel that hungry. I never find it works well for me to become that hungry and would eat an oatcake or something to avoid it.

Is it necessarily bad to feel a bit of hunger sometimes? I'm talking about pangs/twinges of pain & rumbling say half an hour before supper, not continuous pain. I didn't think feeling a bit of hunger for some time was harmful as long as you do eat fairly soon.

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Carla786 · 29/04/2026 21:19

TalulahJP · 29/04/2026 17:56

rumbling is fine. a funny feeling then is fine, in your tummy area just above the belly button

actual gnawing pain especially at the front where your bra sits right in the middle is likely acid rising and burning your gullet. not good. your stomach is flameproof kind of thing but your gullet is not. That kind of pain needs investigated.

This isn't pain under the bra area - in the stomach, lower than that..

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WavesBeachToddlerCastles · 29/04/2026 21:08

The only time I experienced "pain" when hungry was when I had ulcer caused by an H. Pylori infection. It just got worse and worse for years until I sought treatment.

Elsvieta · 29/04/2026 21:04

rbe78 · 29/04/2026 17:29

Pain? I don't think I have ever been in actual pain from hunger, is that considered normal?

I would consider anyone who is experiencing pain on a regular basis from not having enough food to be someone who is seriously lacking in money and resource, and who needed support in order to feed themselves properly.

Or else they're just not eating to try to lose weight. I was in pain like that quite a lot of the time for over thirty years, before Mounjaro.

Disgruntled101 · 29/04/2026 20:53

I get a pain in my left shoulder if I'm really hungry. I've tried looking it up over the years but can never find why this is a thing. Does anyone else get this too or am I a medical marvel haha?

DirtyBird · 29/04/2026 20:23

I get painful stomach cramps if I wait too long to eat. My DD is the same. I also get lightheaded and shaky when I get hungry.

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