Found out I have half brother my mum stopped my dad from seeing

Sounds like this extreme hate for your mother runs deeper than how she spoke to the other woman.

What else do you hate her for?

This other women, other baby stuff is all your dad's doing not your mums.

If it was the other woman writing up a post asking for advice I'd be saying go for maintenance and see if the child can have a relationship with the dad. Leave the wife out of it and don't expect her to play happy families. The wife owed her and the child nothing.

Maybe view that as her karma, it might help your mind.

In your eyes she took away a child from a dad, so the universe didn’t grant her another child she wanted.

Your mother reacted to an awful situation created by your father. A word to the wise - if you take this out on your mum you'll damage your relationship with her & that would be a huge mistake you'll most likely come to regret. Find a good therapist, work through this properly & don't burn any bridges in the meantime. Wishing you strength, it's an awful situation & I can completely understand why you're lashing out.

Yes it is. Your mother felt threatened by all this and her fight or flight reaction was Fight. In the moment she did what she ‘had’ to do.

You sound so young, so certain, and so lacking in compassion in the way that only people who have never had to make hard choices do.

You need to seriously pipe down, and learn some manners. You are way over-stepping here to an extent that will embarrass when you reach your mother’s age. You have zero grounds to be “disappointed” in your mother.

At least she didn’t create more children with a second deadbeat. Silver linings op.

I’d tell her to contact the man and make sure it’s the man. Even if that’s meant a solicitors letter if needed or via the aunty.

I’d also say if that’s what the man wanted then he was a weak man and that her child was better off without such a useless father, who would pick a woman over his child.

Id also advise her to look into if child maintenance payments could be done between her country and ours.

Because ultimately the relationship is between the man and child and it’s about what’s best for child not if the women are or are not innocent or mean.

‘He let her’
That’s entirely on your dad.
OP is your real issue that you’d like to have contact with your half brother, and you’re blaming your mum for depriving you of this?

She didn’t. OP’s father was a grown ass man perfectly capable of deciding that for himself.

Your mother isn’t going to give you what you want here.

Wow, your mother prevented your father from having a relationship with his son. She stopped an innocent child from having a relationship with his father. And he let her.

If she was a step mother on here doing that she'd be torn to shreds. What a strange place MN is.

Are you at all disturbed about your dad's egregious part in this? FFS, blaming your mum for your dad's mess! Your dad walked away from his kid.

Your sister is right.

YABU but clearly won't listen.

If he was a deadbeat nasty man, you sure don't seem to have any empathy for your DM.
You seem hung on wanting her to suffer somehow.
Is your life perfect OP?

The number would have been on other bills.

Also laughing at the thought that the dad took long enough for the women to move her entire home to bother going to look or trying to ever call her. But it’s still the mums fault.

Aunty has photos dad has the address but zero back up of a phone number 🤣 dad wrote zero letters and made zero attempt to call or text to realise the number was missing. A Russian women not known for being meek women took one angry women over the phone to basically go into hiding. I think the whole story is rather strange.

Mum made a hasty angry fuck up of a fuck off answering the phone.

Dad just gave zero fucks. But odds are the sibling gives zero fucks about some half sibling as well which is what really seems to be bothering op.

It’s that she wants this half sibling. Because she wants a sibling her other half has zero interest in her either.

Many half siblings raised well apart actually don’t want to know the other and find it annoying and a pain in the arse when these halves come crawling out wanting some instant family from them.

Her mom is a pile of trash.

I’m with your mum. What a whole pile of shit.

I wouldn't. Women like the ops mom are selfish, and narcissistic. They only care about themselves.

Her mom deleted the womans phone number.

Her mum wasnt cheated on. The two women just got pregnant around the same time, but the boy is older than her mom's first child.

You do not know anything about the Russian woman really. Is she totally 'innocent'? Being a single mother seems to give her saintly status in your eyes. Maybe she married later on, maybe she had many children by different fathers - you just don't know. Sure, your mother could have been kinder to her but what a mess (of your father's making) she had thrown at her at a challenging time of her life with a new baby. You seem irrationally angry at only your mum for this and there must be a reason for that.

Put your self in your mothers shoes for a minute.

Some random women calls them when she is at her most vulnerable to give the news of the offspring of her husband.

Of course she was going to be angry and insecure. What she did wasn't right but it's understandable.

Redirect your anger at your dad who couldn't be asked to put anything on the end of it and ended up making babies with multiple women instead. Who knows how many more are out there.

She doesn’t have to admit it wasn’t right if she doesn’t feel that way. You’re looking for her to answer to you, express contrition, and affirm your view as the only valid and correct one.

You aren’t entitled to that from her. She has her own opinions, and you don’t have to like or approve of them. Piously lecturing her isn’t something she needs to entertain, and it isn’t going to make her sympathetic to your opinions, either.

You want something from your family that you aren’t going to get. You would be best served working on what is actually within your power to control, and coming to terms with that.

I would be wary of your aunt tbh, based on what you’ve said so far in reference to her suggests she’s got her own motives that have nothing to do with what is in your interests. If you have little in the way of family connection and mourn this, then alienating a mother you are close to may be something you end up regretting.