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This is off isn't it?

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coulditbeme2323 · 29/04/2026 15:29

Husband and I loaned another couple a significant amount of money as if we didn't their dream home would have fallen through. All properly drawn up, and to be fair was for a short period of time as in just under 3 months.

All paid back two weeks ago as agreed (no interest by the way as it might matter) and friend text saying we want to take you our to dinner to say thanks.

Didn't expect or want that, but lovely gesture.

Went to a very nice place Saturday and other husband said to my husband I'll get the food and you get the wine/drinks. Now to put into context the wine/drinks were about 35% of the bill so other couple paid 65%.

Now it's not the money, and it was a lovely evening, and I would never mention to my friend, but is that a bit cheeky?

OP posts:
Eastie77Returns · 29/04/2026 15:32

Oh sorry, completely missed that they offered to take you out for dinner. Yes, that’s quite rude!

coulditbeme2323 · 29/04/2026 15:32

Eastie77Returns · 29/04/2026 15:31

I’m confused. Cheeky that they paid 65% of the bill? Were you expecting them to pick up the entire bill?

To be honest yes.

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Eastie77Returns · 29/04/2026 15:31

I’m confused. Cheeky that they paid 65% of the bill? Were you expecting them to pick up the entire bill?

Whatwouldnanado · 29/04/2026 15:31

Yes. Very cheeky as it was supposed to be a thank you treat for you. I hope you were the better people, smiled, bought the drinks and vowed never to lend them
money again.