To leave DP due to his refusal to look after his health

I would leave. It’s difficult enough to care for a high needs child and your partner is adding nothing positive to the situation. Your resources are going to caring and supporting your partner when they could be going to your child. Maybe if he doesn’t have someone to do everything for him and pay for all the bills then he might realise that he needs to sort himself out, but I doubt that. Most people with a child that needs extra support would prioritise their health and mobility so they could be around for as long as possible. If that’s not enough motivator then I doubt anything is going to change.

Kick him out, your life will be so much better without him. It sounds like you are in control of your life, your finances and, your little boys needs. he sounds utterly selfish and unpleasant.

Are you still physically intimate with him?

So lets see it then

You have done it elsewhere

Leave him. He sounds full of self-pity and, instead of addressing his problems himself, he lashes out at all the women around him. I’d be very clear that his problems are of his making.

You’d be so much happier without him - and you’d probably have more money too if you’re financing his huge food intake.

No. I'm not going to be referred to as a grass and have someone state that "druggies and alkies" get Pip and they get treated so well by society without challenging it.

OP how on earth is he keeping his blood sugar under control if he’s eating like this and not exercising. ? Is he aware of the damage he’s silently doing to his organs with constant blood glucose spikes ?

He’s running a high risk of cardiovascular disease, peripheral arterial disease, kidney failure and even blindness if he doesn’t do something. Not to mention that diabetic leg and foot ulcers will be high on the list of risks too and if he develops peripheral arterial disease the blood flow to his lower legs will be reduced, leaving him at risk of amputation. The longer you stick around the higher the chance you will become his carer for any one, or even a combination of these things - and all his own doing. And it will be a nightmare for all concerned.

If he’s been offered Mounjaro on the NHS then it’s a pretty safe bet he’s well into the danger zone. The drug has some side effects when you first start taking it, but they lessen with time. If he’s refused this help after such a short time then IMO he’s a lost cause and it would be relationship ending for me l’m afraid.

And you said you had seen me do it elsewhere So you should be able to find it

He is setting a terrible example to your child

Can you take your little spats elsewhere please. You are posting on a vulnerable woman's thread who is seeking help. Turn your attention to her.

OP I'm sorry your post is being hijacked by people who just want to have a go at each other.

As others have said, you and your child deserve better than this

You just posted that "druggies and alkies" get Pip

My ex boyfriend is very much like this. He's 54 now and has had two heart attacks and has heart failure but he still can't control what he eats. He's full of good intentions but can't seem to understand that he has to start right now and not in the future when the weather is better etc. He's autistic. Not that all autistic people are like this (I'm certainly not) but some are.

It's not your DP's fault exactly but you don't have to ruin your life too. I hope he doesn't move in with his mum and ruin her life though. You have enough on your plate though without becoming your DP's carer as well.

A link to a thread where i slag off benefit claimants. To back up what you are saying

Sorry what?

Link please.

No one has accused me of being a drug user or an alcoholic on these boards. Hth

No. But I've seen some of your posts slagging off people on benefits. Don't talk tosh. There was no little plan. Don't flatter yourself. You're just spreading misinformation

By the sounds of it he’s fallen into food addiction. He could be drinking all day instead he is eating. There’s functioning and non-functioning addicts and he’s a non-functioning one.

It’s absolutely fine to leave a non-functioning addict.

Your life would be much easier if you only had your son to look after and you’d be better off financially too.

Are you saying that all benefits claimants are on drugs or alcoholics. Because that sounds like it to me. They are the very thing that they accuse you of.

Would you like me to link all my posts showing me standing up for social housing tenants OF WHICH I AM ONE. Might take a while as ive been on here for fourteen years. Ah but if i do that i will be accused of a merail which i suspect is what you are hoping for Sorry but your little plan didnt work. Better luck next time

The reason i mentioned people with drug and alcohol problems is because they get treated way WAY better by society than overweight ppl do. I have an abusive alcoholic living underneath me who gets classed as vulnerable. Its nothing to do with fucking benefits. Its the way society sees overweight ppl. They are the safe prejudice.

Apparently I'm a grass for reporting a post like this. Which is offensive

You are carrying him, he is not paying his way or contributing to his sons wellbeing. It is time to be tough and tell him he has to go as he is not a partner nor a good role model to his son. There is no happiness in this relationship.

No, they don’t. And misinformation like that Isn’t helpful. Drug and alcohol addictions are not disabilities as defined by the equality Act 2010. Unless the addict has another disability, or one caused by the underlying addiction, and which qualifies following assessment, they will not get PIP.