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.. to think this would blow some minds?

140 replies

BeepBoopBop · 29/04/2026 07:56

….. standing next to my van, loading my stuff into it when a black Volvo pulls up behind me and the female driver asks if I’m leaving. I tell her no not yet so she thanks me and reverses back a little and stops and asks if the two men in a van (having a tea break) are leaving. They tell her the same thing, so she asks if it’s okay to leave the car in front of the van as she only needs five minutes. They say it’s fine and she says great, I’ll leave the keys in it just in case they need to leave and then off she pops.
Two minutes later, a car opposite starts up and the driver can’t manoeuvre out. as her car is in the way. Van driver jumps out and gets in her car to move it. At which stage, two startled heads pop up in the back. She had left the keys and her two young kids in her car.
Van driver lets the other driver out and neatly parks Volvo in the now vacant space.
Could you see this happening in the UK? By this time it was about 10 minutes - I wonder what she thought as she came back to the car park and saw her car wasn’t sitting where she left it?

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scienceteachersarefun · 29/04/2026 12:35

Bridgertonisbest · 29/04/2026 12:32

Of course.

It works quite well unless a cat gets into the garden at 1am, then the whole neighbourhood is woken 😳

Perhaps train him to use the toilet. Less feline disruption.

scienceteachersarefun · 29/04/2026 12:34

user4903456342 · 29/04/2026 12:23

I'm hardly generalising about 67 million people. Just observing that I was genuinely surprised when we first moved here by the number of people who talked about being overlooked as a reason to not buy or rent a house, or wanting blinds or draperies on every window. It had never occurred to me before to cover windows other than in rooms or situations where you would naturally want a higher degree of privacy.

You live in London. I used to live in Finsbury Park and for safety and security I had my blinds closed a lot.
Now I live in North Yorkshire, in a very quiet cul de sac, not overlooked, and very safe, so they're often not closed at all. The same with other houses in the neighbourhood. If I come home late, I can see in everyone's living room.
Circumstances and personal choices rather than the "obsessive" nature of UK residents, I would suggest.

Bridgertonisbest · 29/04/2026 12:32

scienceteachersarefun · 29/04/2026 10:33

Can he reach the handle?

Of course.

It works quite well unless a cat gets into the garden at 1am, then the whole neighbourhood is woken 😳

scienceteachersarefun · 29/04/2026 12:30

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 29/04/2026 12:17

People used to leave babies in prams outside shops in the U.K. - mostly the big prams, though.

When dd1 was 10 days old I once left her in her pram in Boots for about 15 minutes, having completely forgotten that I had her. I was meeting my mother, who instantly said, ‘Where’s the baby?’
’Oh shit!!’ - and a quick charge back to Boots, but she was fine, and nobody had even noticed an abandoned baby!

Oh my god 🤣 bless you, it's that post natal fog!

catipuss · 29/04/2026 12:28

user4903456342 · 29/04/2026 12:11

I'm not berating anyone, but I'm not from the UK (although I live in London now) and I do find British people are a bit obsessed with privacy. I get not wanting a half dozen neighbours staring out the window at you while you're sunning yourself in the garden, and I wouldn't want people gaping in at my bathroom or bedroom, but I honestly don't quite understand why it matters if people see the interior of my house lit up at night or one of us walking through the kitchen.

I wouldn't leave my kids in the car, though.

You haven't seen the state of my living room, I would be totally embarrassed.

Apart from that it also makes it very obvious whether anyone is home or not if there are thieves around.

VickyEadieofThigh · 29/04/2026 12:27

Somnambule · 29/04/2026 10:33

I don't lock my door at night...

Serious question: what do you gain from not doing so? It takes a second to lock your door.

user4903456342 · 29/04/2026 12:23

scienceteachersarefun · 29/04/2026 12:17

I genuinely don't think people would mind that? Plus, I do find it odd to generalise about the habits of 67 million people, of various ethnicities and origins. They can't all be "obsessed". You aren't, and you live in the UK?
I couldn't care less whether people keep blinds closed or open them.
Their choice.

I'm hardly generalising about 67 million people. Just observing that I was genuinely surprised when we first moved here by the number of people who talked about being overlooked as a reason to not buy or rent a house, or wanting blinds or draperies on every window. It had never occurred to me before to cover windows other than in rooms or situations where you would naturally want a higher degree of privacy.

catipuss · 29/04/2026 12:21

Stupid thing to do in any country, there are car thieves and paedophiles in every country. Not to mention if she collapsed or was injured somehow no one would know where the children were.

babyproblems · 29/04/2026 12:18

Not mad that she left the keys but mad that she left her kids in the car!!! Not because of the men and you but incase of an accident or her not coming back for whatever reason heart attack etc.

VickyEadieofThigh · 29/04/2026 12:17

Bundleflower · 29/04/2026 11:32

I don’t know why this is always seen as so unbelievable on here. I’ve genuinely not seen my house keys in months. I need to find them before we go on holiday.

Oh, I totally believe that some people idiotically believe it'll "never happen" to them, because they live in a "safe" area. It's not as if thugs target such areas because it's well known residents think it'll "never happen" to them.

But I've no idea why you'd lock your door when you go away on holiday if you never bother, day or night, the rest of the time.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 29/04/2026 12:17

Bjorkdidit · 29/04/2026 08:18

Denmark or another Scandinavian country?

People leave their babies in prams outside shops and their bikes at the bus stop for the day while they work in the city.

When I was at a waterpark there, a woman sent her primary age DD on a slide with me while she changed her baby.

People used to leave babies in prams outside shops in the U.K. - mostly the big prams, though.

When dd1 was 10 days old I once left her in her pram in Boots for about 15 minutes, having completely forgotten that I had her. I was meeting my mother, who instantly said, ‘Where’s the baby?’
’Oh shit!!’ - and a quick charge back to Boots, but she was fine, and nobody had even noticed an abandoned baby!

scienceteachersarefun · 29/04/2026 12:17

user4903456342 · 29/04/2026 12:11

I'm not berating anyone, but I'm not from the UK (although I live in London now) and I do find British people are a bit obsessed with privacy. I get not wanting a half dozen neighbours staring out the window at you while you're sunning yourself in the garden, and I wouldn't want people gaping in at my bathroom or bedroom, but I honestly don't quite understand why it matters if people see the interior of my house lit up at night or one of us walking through the kitchen.

I wouldn't leave my kids in the car, though.

I genuinely don't think people would mind that? Plus, I do find it odd to generalise about the habits of 67 million people, of various ethnicities and origins. They can't all be "obsessed". You aren't, and you live in the UK?
I couldn't care less whether people keep blinds closed or open them.
Their choice.

user4903456342 · 29/04/2026 12:11

scienceteachersarefun · 29/04/2026 09:07

Indeed. My favourite was the one where the poster berated folks in the UK for closing curtains and blinds at night. Where they live, there is no need! People benefit from the lit up houses, and aren't so uptight that they care about privacy. 🙄

I'm not berating anyone, but I'm not from the UK (although I live in London now) and I do find British people are a bit obsessed with privacy. I get not wanting a half dozen neighbours staring out the window at you while you're sunning yourself in the garden, and I wouldn't want people gaping in at my bathroom or bedroom, but I honestly don't quite understand why it matters if people see the interior of my house lit up at night or one of us walking through the kitchen.

I wouldn't leave my kids in the car, though.

Fifthtimelucky · 29/04/2026 12:10

Bjorkdidit · 29/04/2026 08:18

Denmark or another Scandinavian country?

People leave their babies in prams outside shops and their bikes at the bus stop for the day while they work in the city.

When I was at a waterpark there, a woman sent her primary age DD on a slide with me while she changed her baby.

Under 20 years ago I was at a small UK theme park with my primary aged children.

We were queuing for a ride which I didn’t intend to go on (I don’t like them) and there was another mother there with a younger child and a baby. The child wanted to go on the ride but was too young to go on alone and she couldn’t take the baby on it. She left the baby with me!

scienceteachersarefun · 29/04/2026 12:08

snowmichael · 29/04/2026 12:07

Iceland has an almost non-existent car theft rate - a combination of most people knowing each other and being such a tiny island a car is easily traced

So the equivalent probably of a village or small town in the UK with a low crime rate. Although it might be all the fish.

snowmichael · 29/04/2026 12:07

Naunet · 29/04/2026 08:45

Which magical country doesn't have car theft and nonces?

Iceland has an almost non-existent car theft rate - a combination of most people knowing each other and being such a tiny island a car is easily traced

Paganpentacle · 29/04/2026 12:01

VickyEadieofThigh · 29/04/2026 08:50

It'll be the same Neverland where the posters live who never lock their doors, not even at night.

Me then... we never lock our back door.
Intruders would have to nagivate an enormous Rottie.

scienceteachersarefun · 29/04/2026 12:00

Theysignoffquick · 29/04/2026 11:26

Oh don’t be daft. I live in a market town in Kent and I bloody love it here. Feel very safe and I feel so happy my children are growing up here

Do you spout this fear mongering drivel to your children @Northermcharn ?

Same here in North Yorkshire. Low crime rate, safe place to live. I suspect some people see reports in the tabloids and wrongly apply it to the whole of the UK.

scienceteachersarefun · 29/04/2026 11:58

TirednessOnToast · 29/04/2026 11:31

Yes, but ...
I live in rural Scotland. People often leave doors unlocked, babies in prams etc and a very proud of it being a very traditional very 'local' community.
Some years ago Robert Black snatched a child from her garden in broad daylight. Even closer, a couple of years ago, a local businessman, long known for being troubled, with a history of cross dressing and stealing womens underwear, abducted a young girl in broad daylight & kept her in a specially made area in his house (fortunately she was eventually able to call the Police)
NAMALT but the ones that are are a massive risk. It's not a safe option.

You're right. It's rare, fortunately, but you just never know.

scienceteachersarefun · 29/04/2026 11:57

Quokkafeet · 29/04/2026 11:32

When I lived in Australia this happened in our city. Parents had left the keys in and the a/c running so they could unload groceries without waking a sleeping child. The car was stolen while the car sat on the drive way and the baby was missing for several hours, it was awful, there were helicopters out searching and the car was eventually found abandoned with the baby absolutely fine.

God, those parents must have been terrified

scienceteachersarefun · 29/04/2026 11:57

Bundleflower · 29/04/2026 11:32

I don’t know why this is always seen as so unbelievable on here. I’ve genuinely not seen my house keys in months. I need to find them before we go on holiday.

Don't worry, I'll keep an eye on the place.

scienceteachersarefun · 29/04/2026 11:56

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 29/04/2026 11:34

In Saudi you can be executed for lots of things. Proven and unproven, like eg witchcraft. Often trumped up charges. One reason I would never live there.

Yes, indeed. I don't think I'd care to live in a country with an absolute monarchy and Sharia law, but we're all different.

HotGazpacho · 29/04/2026 11:38

Oh is this a stealth thread where people can claim the lawless UK is overrun by bad un’s and subject to Sharia law? 😂🥴

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 29/04/2026 11:36

BoredZelda · 29/04/2026 11:13

Yeah, I’m sure we’d love to be whipping people and cutting their hands off in the U.K. for theft.

Well we did have that, but it was a long time ago!

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 29/04/2026 11:35

Theysignoffquick · 29/04/2026 11:31

Speak for yourself. Where do you live in the uk? So I know to avoid it!

Same. I’m SE London and no crime in recent years that I I know of in our street.