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.. to think this would blow some minds?

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BeepBoopBop · 29/04/2026 07:56

….. standing next to my van, loading my stuff into it when a black Volvo pulls up behind me and the female driver asks if I’m leaving. I tell her no not yet so she thanks me and reverses back a little and stops and asks if the two men in a van (having a tea break) are leaving. They tell her the same thing, so she asks if it’s okay to leave the car in front of the van as she only needs five minutes. They say it’s fine and she says great, I’ll leave the keys in it just in case they need to leave and then off she pops.
Two minutes later, a car opposite starts up and the driver can’t manoeuvre out. as her car is in the way. Van driver jumps out and gets in her car to move it. At which stage, two startled heads pop up in the back. She had left the keys and her two young kids in her car.
Van driver lets the other driver out and neatly parks Volvo in the now vacant space.
Could you see this happening in the UK? By this time it was about 10 minutes - I wonder what she thought as she came back to the car park and saw her car wasn’t sitting where she left it?

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Madarch · 03/05/2026 10:52

It would, and am sure it does, happen here.
I was scolded by a local not long after moving here for asking where I could lock my bike up.
"We dont lock our bikes here. You city people come here and bring your fear with you."

snowmichael · 03/05/2026 00:27

scienceteachersarefun · 29/04/2026 12:08

So the equivalent probably of a village or small town in the UK with a low crime rate. Although it might be all the fish.

Or the high standard of education, the deeply ingrained sense of the importance of social behaviour, the general attitude of "we're all in this together"

lljkk · 29/04/2026 20:39

VickyEadieofThigh · 29/04/2026 08:50

It'll be the same Neverland where the posters live who never lock their doors, not even at night.

I bet you've never visited North Norfolk, then, lol

BeepBoopBop · 29/04/2026 20:28

Chamonix is generally crime free, apart from bicycles being fair game and jackets being taken from bars either by mistake or not. Facebook page often has ‘iPhone found’ posts, also wallets, passes, keys.
I usually lock my door if I take the dogs out, but if I can’t find them, I leave the door unlocked. If I do lock it, I leave the keys under the mat if I’m out skiing, in case I have an accident and someone needs to sort the dogs out. Dog sitter left the door open once - it needs to click. I was miffed, but not furious - the three other apartments on my floor are airbnbs.
Leaving the keys & kids in the car was a first for me, but the car park was rammed - word had got round they were replacing the barrier and parking was free instead of €2.80 an hour, so it may have been totally unexpected that she wouldn’t get space and needed the bank or post office.
Parents often let their kids play happily with my dogs in the park, getting on with chatting or reading.
Violent crime is non-existent here.

I’m back home on the west coast now, but my friend who came to check the house for left the front door open for two weeks 😵‍💫

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Bundleflower · 29/04/2026 18:59

3oldladiesstuckinalavatory · 29/04/2026 18:21

I was left in a pram outside a shop in another European country and my mum came out to find someone running off with me, claiming that I was a child of that particular nation. Luckily, she had enough of the local language to argue with her and wrestle me back (despite being heavily pregnant at the time). It might have been common in the 1970s, but it was a terrible idea, even then.

Yet it’s done all through Scandinavia very safely.

AzureFinch · 29/04/2026 18:44

Jfc

3oldladiesstuckinalavatory · 29/04/2026 18:21

I was left in a pram outside a shop in another European country and my mum came out to find someone running off with me, claiming that I was a child of that particular nation. Luckily, she had enough of the local language to argue with her and wrestle me back (despite being heavily pregnant at the time). It might have been common in the 1970s, but it was a terrible idea, even then.

Dunnocantthinkofone · 29/04/2026 18:07

DontReplyAll · 29/04/2026 08:16

Thankfully the baby was fine, slept through the whole thing.

The car thief abandoned the car a short distance away on discovering the baby. The poor Mum was very, very shocked of course.

Why on earth would anyone describe someone so stupid as this moronic mother as ‘the poor mum’ ?
I know on MN a woman can do no wrong but fgs that’s a pretty low bar to set even in here

TheDenimPoet · 29/04/2026 16:53

Some people just don't seem to think. A woman once asked would I keep an eye on her sleeping baby while she nipped into the shop, as I was waiting in the car next to them. I said I would, but with respect, she shouldn't leave him with me as she didn't have the foggiest who I was!! She still went!

Natsku · 29/04/2026 16:46

VickyEadieofThigh · 29/04/2026 16:35

As long as they're actually in and can get the police there really fast when the intruders open your door and go in to trash your house and rob you.

I know its a risk, that's why I'm annoyed about the gluing but the likelihood where I am is very slim, there hasn't been any burglaries in my area the entire time I've lived here.

MyCottageGarden · 29/04/2026 16:44

@BundleflowerChrist, I lock our doors whilst we’re IN the house, not just whilst we’re out and we live in what is supposedly the ‘happiest’ and most crime free town in the country. We still have crime!

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Bundleflower · 29/04/2026 16:40

VickyEadieofThigh · 29/04/2026 16:34

I care about people - even those I don't know - suffering the trauma of intruders in their house. I've known several people it's happened to (not one in a city or dodgy town) and I cannot for the life of me understand why you wouldn't lock your door.

Anyone going to bed and leaving their door unlocked astonishes me.

Even those saying "people pop in" - they knock or ring the doorbell!

Well, of course that’s a risk. But people could also come through a smashed window. If someone is determined to hurt you a door won’t bloody stop them! A serial killer doesn’t get to a locked door and think ‘ah fuck it - that’s a shame’ and walk off.
There’s also a risk in a locked door delaying you leave a burning building.
Theres risks in many things. I think an intruder planning to hurt me and my door being the obstacle that will surely prevent them is a small risk.

VickyEadieofThigh · 29/04/2026 16:35

Natsku · 29/04/2026 16:30

Our lock kept sticking in the cold winter so my OH had the bright idea of gluing the snib thing open in case the lock broke altogether and we wouldn't be able to get in at all. Now the cold is not an issue but its impossible to lock the door sigh (We do have an inner door that can be locked but need another key cut for DD before we can start locking it) but we do have very nosy neighbours which is basically as good as a lock Grin

As long as they're actually in and can get the police there really fast when the intruders open your door and go in to trash your house and rob you.

VickyEadieofThigh · 29/04/2026 16:34

Bundleflower · 29/04/2026 16:21

You’re an aggressive little nipper aren’t you?

I care about people - even those I don't know - suffering the trauma of intruders in their house. I've known several people it's happened to (not one in a city or dodgy town) and I cannot for the life of me understand why you wouldn't lock your door.

Anyone going to bed and leaving their door unlocked astonishes me.

Even those saying "people pop in" - they knock or ring the doorbell!

Natsku · 29/04/2026 16:30

Roads · 29/04/2026 16:24

For those who have posted and there's been quite a few who don't lock their doors can I genuinely ask why?

It seems so odd to me that you wouldn't take a minute to lock it.

Our lock kept sticking in the cold winter so my OH had the bright idea of gluing the snib thing open in case the lock broke altogether and we wouldn't be able to get in at all. Now the cold is not an issue but its impossible to lock the door sigh (We do have an inner door that can be locked but need another key cut for DD before we can start locking it) but we do have very nosy neighbours which is basically as good as a lock Grin

Bundleflower · 29/04/2026 16:27

Roads · 29/04/2026 16:24

For those who have posted and there's been quite a few who don't lock their doors can I genuinely ask why?

It seems so odd to me that you wouldn't take a minute to lock it.

A few reasons:
Multiple people in and out all day
Live in the middle of nowhere
Dogs big enough you’d be brave to consider it
Genuinely don’t know where our keys are
Just never consider it really
Edited that we also have CCTV which I think would be a decent deterrent.

When I’ve lived in more built of places I think I’ve always locked up.

Roads · 29/04/2026 16:24

For those who have posted and there's been quite a few who don't lock their doors can I genuinely ask why?

It seems so odd to me that you wouldn't take a minute to lock it.

Bundleflower · 29/04/2026 16:21

VickyEadieofThigh · 29/04/2026 12:17

Oh, I totally believe that some people idiotically believe it'll "never happen" to them, because they live in a "safe" area. It's not as if thugs target such areas because it's well known residents think it'll "never happen" to them.

But I've no idea why you'd lock your door when you go away on holiday if you never bother, day or night, the rest of the time.

You’re an aggressive little nipper aren’t you?

JustChillin70 · 29/04/2026 16:20

VickyEadieofThigh · 29/04/2026 08:50

It'll be the same Neverland where the posters live who never lock their doors, not even at night.

That’s not Neverland, just depends where you live in the UK. Our front door is open way more often than it’s locked. I’ve been out twice today, each time for 40-45 minutes and didn’t lock the door either time

scienceteachersarefun · 29/04/2026 15:40

VickyEadieofThigh · 29/04/2026 14:46

I've told the story many times on here about my friend's mum and DP who lived in a similar area, assumed not locking the door was fine - until thugs burst in, beat them up, tied them up and robbed them. Police: "They target houses they suspect will be unlocked - remote, rural areas and old people's bungalows are favourites."

As I said earlier, it takes a second or two to lock your door - and what does anyone actually gain from not doing so?

I think that's a fair point. It's a low risk, probably, but why take the risk?

OtherS · 29/04/2026 15:15

Home counties and often don't lock my door when I go out, or close my downstairs windows. Also often leave my handbag in unlocked car, often with keys inside, while I go for a walk. I do reflect I am extremely lucky to live where I feel safe enough to do that. Wouldn't leave the kids (or dogs) in an unlocked car and wander off out of sight though, with or without keys.

wifeofeverything · 29/04/2026 15:09

VickyEadieofThigh · 29/04/2026 08:50

It'll be the same Neverland where the posters live who never lock their doors, not even at night.

I don't lock my door at night. I live down a long lane with a locked gate. Have never felt unsafe.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 29/04/2026 15:08

Maybe there's something to be said for the unpredicability of the Calmac service after all! I think robbers can find easier targets without the risk of being unable to make a quick getaway from the island.

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