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How do I control my jealously?

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ihateyousarahm · 28/04/2026 20:27

I used to work in a team and one of the staff at the same level was horrible. Real attitude and causing lots of drama. I've left the company and she applied for team leader and got it. Hardly anyone else applied externally. They've had another restructure and now she's apparently in line for a £50k job.

Am I jealous or just don't want this horrible ex colleague to get good luck?

They've had the restructure and now there is a position which is £10k above her position and the director is apparently going to train her on the questions etc.

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Stnam · 28/04/2026 21:13

It is 2 years on and she has probably forgotten all about you. There are loads of awful people in the world who are in well paid jobs. There isn't much point in worrying about her.

S0j0urn4r · 28/04/2026 21:07

How do you know what she's like in her current job?

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ihateyousarahm · 28/04/2026 21:02

Evaka · 28/04/2026 20:49

She's a former colleague? How long ago?

2 years

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ihateyousarahm · 28/04/2026 21:02

FaceBothered · 28/04/2026 20:52

I think it’s great she’s getting on well, I’m always pleased for women who manage to do this.

You don’t particularly like her so you’re not pleased.

Just forget about her and get on with your life 🤷‍♀️

She pulls everyone down so that's how she gets on. She allowed someone to bully me and due to her being a senior managers best friends daughter I couldn't do anything.

She also pulled everyone down and told us we weren't good enough in a restructure.

And she's also treated her current staff bad, shouting at them etc.

Also withholds information so they don't do their job or get promoted.

By yeah having a vagina means you must like her

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FaceBothered · 28/04/2026 20:52

I think it’s great she’s getting on well, I’m always pleased for women who manage to do this.

You don’t particularly like her so you’re not pleased.

Just forget about her and get on with your life 🤷‍♀️

Evaka · 28/04/2026 20:49

She's a former colleague? How long ago?

frozendaisy · 28/04/2026 20:43

Do you think she thinks about you and seeks out information about your job moves and salary?

For your own peace of mind @ihateyousarahm you need to forget about her. She’s one ex-colleague who was a cow at a company you left. There are almost as many bitches and arseholes in jobs across the world as there are bitches and arseholes.

When you do stop caring you will kick yourself for caring for so long.

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