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AIBU?

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To expect DH to help pay for my diagnosis?

229 replies

Miserablelittlesoul · 28/04/2026 14:42

I have numerous health conditions but the one that is affecting my life the most is (suspected endometriosis). I’ve had symptoms since I was young but never put 2 and 2 together not that I was aware of the condition anyway.

These past 6 months have been intense and I have pretty much lost my mobility. I’m no longer working anymore and I’ve been denied pip so I have no money coming in at all. We have maxed all the benefits we are entitled too.

We have spent all our savings now. All we have is our pokemon collection that is worth around 20k but we plan to hold on to this as the value keeps increasing.

DH has a 0% credit card with £15k on. He doesn’t want to use it and feels that it’s for emergencies only.

My life is so miserable I do nothing now I stay in the house everyday. I have about 10 good pain free days a month. I’m sad all the time! The house is always a mess and food shopping isn’t being done properly. So when it comes to dinner times it’s a distaster.

DH tries his best with everything but it doesn’t work I need my health back.

AIBU to think this is an emergency? I completely understand why he doesn’t want to. But I can’t wait 8 years for a diagnosis and treatment.

OP posts:
Shoxfordian · 28/04/2026 14:48

Why would it cost that much? He shouldn't want to see you in pain if he can help

Hollowvoice · 28/04/2026 14:47

If you are at the point you have used all your savings how would you pay off the credit card if you did use it?
Why would it take 8 years otherwise?

SunnyRedSnail · 28/04/2026 14:44

Why is it 8 years for diagnosis and treatment?

Namechangedforthisoneyep · 28/04/2026 14:44

What have you maxed out savings on so far? Private healthcare?

What makes you think using the 15k will be the magic answer??