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AIBU to mention weight loss injections to an overweight male colleague?

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NoNewClothes · 28/04/2026 13:13

Worked previously with this colleague in our early twenties and he was well built, but tall so not obviously overweight. We’ve now been working together in the same company for about 3 years and in the time I can’t help but see that he had put on considerable weight and is now probably in the morbidly obese range.

I know his wife to see but not really talk to (not that kind of work place). She has the look of a sporty fit slim type. He, like me, early 50s, teenage kids etc.

I know that speaking about weight issues to a spouse is mired in difficulty; from reading on threads here too that’s very much a no no. However I’m now on WLI myself after really struggling with my menopausal weight gain that led me to a bmi of over 30 and finding it so so hard to reverse the upward trend.

The reason I started? Speaking with female work colleagues who are also on mounjaro and had normalised it, plus coming on here and joining one of the many WLI threads.

This colleague is such a sweet guy, and I would just mention in passing that I’m on them - I would be subtle and kind but make it clear I’m available for advice without pushing it.

Reading the healthy life expectancy report out yesterday is prompting this.

or AIBU and only bring it up if he mentions his struggles (which he never does)

OP posts:
Lomonald · 28/04/2026 13:22

7238SM · 28/04/2026 13:19

You sound as absurd and delusional as my colleague on WLI. Given the media coverage in recent years about them, I'm sure he has heard of them- he doesn't need you as his saviour FFS! 🙄

It is becoming like a weird cult it's very odd how evangelical people are about them, I can't imagine saying to anyone about their weight, yet the op thinks she can be "subtle and kind" 🤨

NeedyLimeMember · 28/04/2026 13:21

Futurehappiness · 28/04/2026 13:19

Go ahead and mention this to your colleague....if you are happy for him to raise a grievance against you for bullying. If he did he would very likely have a case.

Bullying? Give over. The OP suggested that she might mention she's on WLI and indicate she's happy to discuss it - which I do think WBU but it's hardly bullying.

7238SM · 28/04/2026 13:19

You sound as absurd and delusional as my colleague on WLI. Given the media coverage in recent years about them, I'm sure he has heard of them- he doesn't need you as his saviour FFS! 🙄

Random321 · 28/04/2026 13:19

Absolutely no. You are proposing being completely unprofessional and are over stepping boundaries.

Futurehappiness · 28/04/2026 13:19

Go ahead and mention this to your colleague....if you are happy for him to raise a grievance against you for bullying. If he did he would very likely have a case.

angelos02 · 28/04/2026 13:18

Absolutely none of your business. I'm sure he's heard of them himself - it's forever in the news etc. A colleague of mine brought it up with me but only after I was chatting to her about my sudden weight gain (menopause) and how unhappy it was making me (I was close to tears). She was on the jabs herself.

COUNCAT14 · 28/04/2026 13:17

I think the whole country knows they exist. Please don’t push injecting drugs or your own magical journey on other people.

WallaceinAnderland · 28/04/2026 13:17

I know that speaking about weight issues to a spouse is mired in difficulty

And you think speaking to a colleague about weight issues is appropriate?

No, no, no.

Namingbaba · 28/04/2026 13:17

If you want to share with people about being on it then that's fine but don't do it in a way that could be seen as you suggesting it to others.

He'll be aware it exists.

I'm not sure I agree about it best being brought up if you're not a spouse. Surely spouses talk about more intimate issues than with their colleagues.

Comedycook · 28/04/2026 13:17

Im sure he's heard of them. This is unnecessary

GarlicFind · 28/04/2026 13:17

Was going to say 'only if he complains about his size/weight', and you've answered it. So, no, don't.

Lomonald · 28/04/2026 13:16

I am sure they are aware of WLI injections, this is nothing to do with you.

3flyingducksarrive · 28/04/2026 13:16

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

SquitMcJit · 28/04/2026 13:16

What a bizarre idea. Please don’t do this.

WednesdaysChild73 · 28/04/2026 13:16

I’m in the obese category, if a colleague mentioned my weight I’d be fucking livid! It’s not like I haven’t noticed I’m fat 🙄

1AnotherOne · 28/04/2026 13:15

I don’t think a colleagues weight is any of your business. If he mentions your weight loss then you can tell him about it.

MrsCarmelaSoprano · 28/04/2026 13:15

Good Lord,please don't.