For pulling over briefly to watch a Hare?

I was late to a teams meeting last month because of a hare! Incredibly lucky that the company office is in a converted barn, set in miles of rolling countryside. One of my colleagues is a hobbyist photographer and takes the most amazing pictures during a lunchtime ramble.

I think your DH is BU, we should always stop and enjoy things that make us smile. Here’s the guy that was outside the office window and made me late, I didn’t even try and make up an excuse, just told the customer the truth when I connected and they were equally happy 😃

Hares are fabulous! Although we live rural, there aren't many hares around our way (plenty of birds of prey - which could be the problem...)

Love all wildlife - it's great just to stop and watch!

I’ve lived in the countryside for about 60% of my life and remember the one time I saw a hare…well, I saw two boxing in a cold morning when I was about 8. Never forgotten it. They are special.

A few years ago I was driving down a narrow country lane near my home and came across a hare, sat in the middle of the road. I stopped the car and the hare and I just watched each other for a few minutes, until he got bored and hopped away. It was quite magical, actually. YANBU at all.

We call out:
birds of prey
hares and rabbits
deer
foxes
spitfires
biplanes
red arrows
lambs
It is good to enjoy things around you.

They're not rare where I am - I see them every single day - but I still always stop and watch them if I can!

There’s a field I drive past on the way to work which often has a hare in it. I don’t pull over, but traffic is generally at a standstill anyway! I love seeing what is happening in nature.

I would have been so thrilled in your shoes I would have been bubbling over with excitement. I have never seen a hare but I live in hope.

You are not a bit U. Your DH was though. He should have been pleased for you.

send him this

Why would you be unreasonable to do something that makes you happy?

It always amuses me because my partner will excitedly point out every single squirrel he sees if were out walking in the woods.

Our garden is full of them (we have several trees) but there he calls them The Little Bastards because they eat the food from the bird feeders 😅

We also have owls and bats. We see/hear them every day but we still get excited and point them out!

We also have rabbits but it doesn't stop seeing a wild rabbit being exciting.

I would do the same, hares are beautiful and a joy to watch.

this is one of "the little things in life". you had a moment where you were at peace and happy to see this hare. you were safe when viewing it. no issue whatsoever 🥰 you enjoy these little things.

How magical. I'd have been absolutely thrilled! I adore hares but hardly ever see them, so I would definitely have stopped. Have you read Chloe Dalton's book 'Raising Hare'? If not, I can't recommend it enough!

YANBU, we have loads of these gorgeous things in the fields around our village.

YABU to have not zoomed in a bit more though!

when I had dogs and walked them early mornings, I used to love to pull over and watch the wildlife.

I saw one at the weekend and was excited to see it!
As long as it was safe to pull over, which it was in your case, it's fine. It's lovely to be able to take time to enjoy the natural world.

I see hares fairly regularly because I live in the countryside. I still stop and watch them when I see them, as I do with deer, foxes, owls, lots of common birds. I love to spend time observing what little wildlife we have left. Hares are on the red list so your husband is not entirely correct when he says they’re not exactly rare.

I was born in a large city but moved out to a rural area. When the first lambs are in the fields I always stop to watch them springing as it really gives a lift to my heart. A neighbour said this was because I am a ‘townie’ and I would grow out of it.

Well 35 years later I still do it and also stop if I see hares or deer etc.

I've seen lots of bunnies but never a hare! Your DH is very unreasonable to pooh-pooh your excitement at seeing one, as I would be thrilled to see a hare myself. Imagine seeing a pair boxing! Thankfully my own DH would never try to deflate me like that. I would be having frank words with your own on how unkind and unnecessary his own dismissal of your experience was. Couples shouldn't make each other feel crap.

DH is unreasonable for crapping on your joy. It doesn't matter if they're common or not, you found something delightful. Whether he meant to pull you down or not, he was an arse and I hope karma sends him a fly in his tea.

I've only seen them when I've been visiting countryside

Of course it's fair that you wanted to stop and watch. It's a joy.

Feel sorry for your DH that he can't see that, to be honest

I have done the same many, many times. It’s a wonderful little pause in all the madness. I’m glad you had those few moments. Absolutely priceless.

My 17yo DS takes photos of glorious sunsets and interesting cloud formations. And the odd squirrel!

Hares are beautiful OP. Nature is wonderful, enjoy it as often as possible!
We stop to look at deer all the time, sadly don’t see many hares.

Your loved ones don’t have to be excited about the same things as you, but they should never make you feel bad for feeling excited yourself. YANBU and you DH was being a miserable dick.

if you were allowed to stop there legally - it’s fine.
As to him laughing at it … some people are just like this - they don’t appreciate nature. I love to watch squirrels in our garden and often call DH if he is at home. Sometimes he comes sometimes not. DD is not bothered she stays on her phone.