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To just say F it and move to Cornwall and homeschool my Dc

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Typingonkeyboard · 27/04/2026 20:15

Or find a lovely little village school and spend our days living a slow, traditional life

It’s my dream

Has anyone got this, am I being realistic?

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hamsterchump · 27/04/2026 23:29

Typingonkeyboard · 27/04/2026 23:05

So it is ok/nice to live there? Not too rough or touristy?

How do you make it work financially, is it better to rent or buy? Sorry for all the questions…!
Do you have kids & what age?

We really like it. It's very safe and not rough in terms of people. The town does have some less attractive buildings shall we say but most of them are slowly being redeveloped now. See the new Nici Hotels development of the Hotel Victoria, it's going to be very swish. I think some people at least must think we're up and coming! The stag dos we're perhaps known for have all but gone now, I hardly see any in town any more, I think they must go abroad now.

It is certainly busy in the summer but that mostly affects the roads and carparks as long as you live actually in Newquay then you can walk to everything. You just need to a allow a bit more time for commuting or travelling to anything further afield in Cornwall. In practice though i find thta often the holiday makers are coming in on the roads when I am going out and vice versa when I am coming back so it's not so bad and you get used to it.

As there are so many beaches there is quite a lot of room for everyone so it's easier to get a spot without being on top of the next lot. Perranporth beach really does get absolutely packed in the main part, but even there if you walk to the East side (check the tide) then it's practically deserted. Plus if you live down here you will eventually get to know the lesser known spots in Cornwall where you can get away from everyone. What I like about Newquay too is that it is large enough that there is still a community and events and things going on all year which is nice.

It is 100% better to buy. Renting is near impossible regardless of how much money you have, the demand ids just too great. I hear of people with 6 months or more rent upfront to offer who can't find anything because it's just not there. Buy if you can. You can see I linked above there are some cheap houses available here, of course if you have money then there are dear ones too!

We bought our house 15 years ago when they were half the price they are now and have paid it off (we're in our late thirties/early forties) so we are much luckier than most but our friends have just bought on our street and they make it work on two average incomes. I'm self employed (lots of people down here are) and my OH does delivery driving so we're not minted or anything but we're frugal and we find the lifestyle and leisure type stuff in Cornwall very affordable because it's mainly based on the natural beauty and enjoying that. It must be all the shops I can't go in that's saving me money I suppose.

I don't have children (I know, why am I here, blah, blah, blah? The answer is penis beaker) but I have nieces and nephews. I think it's better to be in a larger town like Newquay if you're going to move down here with kids as then when they're a bit older they can easily walk out to see their friends or take the bus/train and there is a bit more going on for them.

Typingonkeyboard · 27/04/2026 23:27

Justwhyyy · 27/04/2026 23:24

? OP

Not 100% sure yet, but is likely i’d need to work. If we sold our house, we are looking at potentially a fairly healthy profit…hopefully! We would hope to have only a small mortgage

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WallaceinAnderland · 27/04/2026 23:27

UnhappyHobbit · 27/04/2026 22:19

I keep seeing posts like this. Where on earth did you get from my post anything about the east coast? Why have you assumed I’ve never lived in Cornwall?
I live up north now. I’ve lived all over the south west. Northern winters are tougher. I wouldn’t say anywhere in the British isles is fun in winter.

I don't mean in Cornwall, I mean in the rest of the country. Cornwall is so far from anywhere, you can be really cut off. It means family don't see each other that often. Look at OP for example, barely knows Cornwall even though her parents live there.

ScaredAndPanicky · 27/04/2026 23:25

I grew up in South East Cornwall. If I had a decent well paid job there I would move back in a heart beat. But I am definitely not a party animal and like just wandering outdoors.
Walking distance of a beach - necessary so you don't have to worry about finding parking! Actually SE Cornwall is good as everyone drives right past it and goes further down county on holiday but the beaches there are great and accessed down cliff paths so that puts people off too.
I moved away for uni and work and never went back. Was good for seasonal work in the summers though.
Personally I would recommend going and staying in Cornwall for a week or two in the winter and then decide if you would like to live there. It is very different in the winter, and no it isn't the same as other places in the UK in the winter. Lots of stuff is shut. In fact I knew someone who was the only person who lived in her seaside village in the winter EVERY other house was a holiday house and so it was a ghost town in the winter (this was north cornwall).

EarthSight · 27/04/2026 23:25

Typingonkeyboard · 27/04/2026 23:06

Cornwall is slower and more traditional than Manchester, it just is

I'm from a very rural area, like Cornwall, and have also lived in the centre of a large city, and also worked in central Manchester for quite some time.

It's a myth that the countryside is slower. If you find the scenery to be relaxing and if it helps your mood and outlook on life, that's one thing, otherwise it's only clueless or privileged people who say it's slower. The type that don't actually live in the countryside and who spend their summertimes relaxing in villages in the South of France or Spain, and they think that is basically what the countryside is. I wonder what some of the local tractor drivers would think about your opinion, the ones I see still at work when it's dark.

Like I said, I've worked and commuted into central Manchester (and London actually), and nobody has to rush anywhere. That is mostly the choosing of certain people who like to tell everybody with ears how incredibly busy and rushed off their feet they are all the time.

Most people in the countryside have normal jobs. If their work starts at 9am, they have to be there to start at 9am. If they need to catch a train home at 5pm, they can't rock up at 4.59pm and expect to find it waiting with a friendly train driver ready to wait. Unless there are delays, it will depart at 5pm.

Instead of traffic lights, you have to allow for tractors and old people who will not or cannot drive more than a top speed of 40mph, and will absolutely refuse to pull over to let the 15+ cars behind them to get on with their day.

Also I'm curious to know what traditional is. Is it that is doesn't have a transient population and that people know who their neighbours are? Usually people say traditional to mean conservative in some way or they think it's going to be like The Darling Buds of May.

Justwhyyy · 27/04/2026 23:24

Justwhyyy · 27/04/2026 22:49

When you talk about moving and home schooling v the comments people have made re the costs, is it that you don’t need to work where you are/when you move as partner works and covers bills or would you need to work full time and home school? If that’s not the case, is it that you work in a profession that is well sought after in the area and would allow you the time to both afford a house and give you time to homeschool? It’s more about practically than f it IMO.

edit to add: I honestly don’t think there are any public schools in the uk that aren’t at capacity unfortunately

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Flamingojune · 27/04/2026 23:20

Zov · 27/04/2026 23:15

They don't hate tourists.

They will by the time they've spent a few years in Cornwall!

You speak for all children in cornwall? Even the ones who get seasonal work and enjoy hanging out with holiday makers? Not everyone is small minded

TomatoChopper · 27/04/2026 23:19

We bought a house there with the intention of moving eventually. However we now just keep it as a holiday home to use mostly in summer as my partner wasn’t keen on winters there. Our family do use it in winter as they like the quiet.

Typingonkeyboard · 27/04/2026 23:17

PigletJohn · 27/04/2026 23:14

We can all dream.

Is it that hard to achieve?!

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Typingonkeyboard · 27/04/2026 23:16

TheSquareMile · 27/04/2026 23:16

@Typingonkeyboard

Which age/subject do you teach, OP?

I assume that you would look for a suitable post and then plan around that.

Primary

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TheSquareMile · 27/04/2026 23:16

Typingonkeyboard · 27/04/2026 22:24

I’m a teacher and have worked with homeschooling families, my only issue is how to make it work financially and how large the community would be. However, i’m happy to put Dd in a good, small school…if there are any…! I’m being put off Cornwall by this thread 😂

@Typingonkeyboard

Which age/subject do you teach, OP?

I assume that you would look for a suitable post and then plan around that.

Zov · 27/04/2026 23:15

Flamingojune · 27/04/2026 23:09

In general, children love beaches and don't hate tourists

They don't hate tourists.

They will by the time they've spent a few years in Cornwall!

PigletJohn · 27/04/2026 23:14

We can all dream.

Typingonkeyboard · 27/04/2026 23:13

PigletJohn · 27/04/2026 23:10

When Claudia Schiffer agrees to marry me I'll do the same.

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PigletJohn · 27/04/2026 23:10

Typingonkeyboard · 27/04/2026 20:15

Or find a lovely little village school and spend our days living a slow, traditional life

It’s my dream

Has anyone got this, am I being realistic?

When Claudia Schiffer agrees to marry me I'll do the same.

Flamingojune · 27/04/2026 23:09

JLou08 · 27/04/2026 23:04

What makes you think life will be slower and more traditional? I live in a village near the coast. I still have the same childcare and work responsibilities I'd have anywhere. It is lovely to have a walk on the beach in the autumn and winter. It's not as fun in the summer when it's packed with tourists.

In general, children love beaches and don't hate tourists

Typingonkeyboard · 27/04/2026 23:09

Really appreciating the feedback from people living there-good and bad

My three biggest worries are/were lower pay/less jobs, housing and the cold winters. I did visit once at Christmas and the wind was so cold I couldn’t go out (only one winter, others were ok)

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Flamingojune · 27/04/2026 23:07

Zov · 27/04/2026 22:52

Why Cornwall? Couldn't think of many other places I would least like to live! Grim winters with nowhere open, summers with 1000s of tourists wrecking the place, and miles and miles from anywhere. Probably no work there, apart from seasonal (in the summer.)

I do love village life though. You do need to adapt and 'fit in' though. Don't expect people in any village to change for you.

What a lot of negativity.

Typingonkeyboard · 27/04/2026 23:06

JLou08 · 27/04/2026 23:04

What makes you think life will be slower and more traditional? I live in a village near the coast. I still have the same childcare and work responsibilities I'd have anywhere. It is lovely to have a walk on the beach in the autumn and winter. It's not as fun in the summer when it's packed with tourists.

Cornwall is slower and more traditional than Manchester, it just is

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Typingonkeyboard · 27/04/2026 23:05

hamsterchump · 27/04/2026 23:04

Newquay.

So it is ok/nice to live there? Not too rough or touristy?

How do you make it work financially, is it better to rent or buy? Sorry for all the questions…!
Do you have kids & what age?

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JLou08 · 27/04/2026 23:04

What makes you think life will be slower and more traditional? I live in a village near the coast. I still have the same childcare and work responsibilities I'd have anywhere. It is lovely to have a walk on the beach in the autumn and winter. It's not as fun in the summer when it's packed with tourists.

hamsterchump · 27/04/2026 23:04

Typingonkeyboard · 27/04/2026 22:39

Which area are you please to be walking distance to so many beaches?

Newquay.

MsAmerica · 27/04/2026 23:02

How can we know if it's realistic without more information?

Typingonkeyboard · 27/04/2026 22:59

Cherryicecreamx · 27/04/2026 22:41

Totally realistic. My friend lives in Cornwall and her children do flexi schooling (never heard of it until she enlightened me!). They live in the country, she part home schools them and part go to school in the community. I think it's a nice balance actually.

Which area?

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