AIBU to think it was rude they kept my misdelivered parcel?

Bloody hell what other jobs do you think people should donate their time and effort to unpaid? The only person being paid to get the parcel to its destination is the original courier. No one else has any obligation to move a muscle. The neighbour owes OP nothing.

Then your argument is with the delivery firm who should have left you a card saying where it was.

It sort of is a neighbour or a local person if you want to split hairs.There may not have been answers from the other houses so that may have been the only option.I don’t expect someone to take my parcel in and then bring it to my house,like so many are saying they probably assumed OP had a note from delivery driver.

Wow
It was posted through some random door
The delivery person is completely at fault unless it was incorrectly addressed . How the flying F was the lady supposed to know which door it had gone through without the delivery person informing her .
No card because it was shoved through the wrong letterbox . Had this done to me several times . We have a messenger with many neighbours linked so we do ask on there when things go wrong .
I am sorry people haven't bothered to read your post I would have been pissed but not at the people where it was delivered. Not sure they even gave a thought about it being shoved through their door. It just didn't occur to them you had no idea where it went . Glad you found it
One delivery photo I had was a gap through fingers and green light showing through. You couldn't see anything . Never did find that one

You’re assuming they had the capacity to do this though.
when I worked from home, and took in what felt like every parcel on my street. I was working 13 hour NHS bed management and patient flow shifts. Raising my children, studying for my degree course - and I’m disabled.
it’s not as simple as just walking 20 seconds down the road for some people.
i couldn’t leave my computer during the work day to drop off
i suffwr with a cognitive impairment that means on my non working days i would forget entirely
It would take me days to recover from working, as it didn’t work with my disability
I was out of work long hours to study
if i waited until after my toddler was in bed or I’d finished work it felt inconveniently late to drop off parcels and if I did it on my way out in the morning it felt prohibitively early.
I did go round to all the houses at first, but to be honest I’d do it half a dozen times and no one would be in I waited for people to collect at their convenience

They were probably waiting for you to come and get it. Normally you would get a note saying where they had left it. Complain to whoever delivered it, not the people who took it in for you.

I had a parcel delivered to a neighbour I'd had a massive row with, he was a vile drunk. His wife took the parcel who he'd left at home with dementia while he went to the local pub all afternoon. I knew from the photo where it was so went round when he was out. It was 2 really big heavy bags of cat food that were still in their porch. No way would he have told me or brought it round. She was a lovely lady he was one of the reasons I sold up and moved. But I felt it was up to me to go get it not them bring it.

Yes but that wasn’t their fault. The onus is always be on you to get it. Not their job!

F no of course it’s not rude ,
People have busy Lives and anyway it’s really not their responsibility to check the parcels handed to them which they may be expecting other parcels. It’s a responsibility of the delivery company for the love of God. Please don’t blame them.
This is the world gone mad in the last week I’ve had four parcels go to various people in my village it’s not their bloody problem.
It’s my problem because I ordered the goods and my problem is with a delivery company.
everything got much worse after Covid nobody gives a shit anymore and the drivers are paid so Little for their days work a couple of weeks ago someone working for me a woman as it happens in her van doing some repairs had a problem starting her van at the end of the day, Amazon driver turns up running down the driveway and he said oh what’s going on and we said oh got a flat battery these cables have just burst into flames and he went no no no I’ve got some bigger ones. Let me do this chatting to him in a day. He was doing 195 deliveries. This is not an an urban environment this is in the countryside. Completely impossible.
No wonder these drivers without a conscience throw parcels just wherever because they are stressed overworked underpaid and freaked out
The world‘s gone fucking mad we all need to change. It’s all bonkers.

But how did the neighbour know this? If I take a parcel in for someone I assume the other person has been left a card telling them where the parcel was delivered to. I frequently get a card saying left at number 6 or left behind the gate etc. standard practice. How would the neighbour know that hadn’t happened.

Which is probably exactly what the neighbours were thinking. They weren’t to know OP didn’t know where it was.

I am at home most of the time, so take parcels for basically all the surrounding houses, as the couriers know by now. I do that to be helpful and kind. If nobody collects within 48 hours or so I will try to drop it over, but I otherwise assume that they have a note and will ask for it. And 90% of the time that's what they do - with a smile and a thank-you.

Your courier let you down by failing to leave a card. Your neighbour was doing you a favour, as couriers always ask if you can take a parcel for house X, and they could just have refused. They do not owe you hand-delivery on top.

The rude one here is you.

I wait a couple of days before taking parcels to the neighbours now, I’m not the postman and it’s not far for them to come. After two days I get annoyed and take them round. But after trying to give something to a neighbour I didn’t know about 5 times across a week when I saw his car on the drive, and then him not even saying thank you, I don’t rush round and I don’t accept parcels for random people unless the driver has just thrown it and run away

Christ, what a lot of drama over nothing. From your thread title I thought they’d actually stolen it. As for the ridiculously OTT “They had my parcel for 30+ hours”, Kiefer Sutherland made less fuss about a ticking clock in 24.

Surely it’s a bit strange to leave a card through the correct houses door, but then leave the envelope 8 houses down. An envelope that did not require a signature and can fit in the same letterbox that the card was posted through.

You keep banging this drum. But you have massively overestimated your neighbour’s level of interest. They’re not sitting there trying to analyse your delivery man’s logic. Nobody is but you. They don’t care about your parcel.

Just be glad you found it and dial down the dramatics.

Personally, I wouldn’t accept a parcel for another address unless it had been arranged for me to take do so in the event they weren’t at home.

Maybe they assumed you'd been left a card by the postie/courier, as that is what usually happens. As far as your neighbours knew, you weren't home!

The person who delivered it should have put it through your letterbox.
Since they did not they should have told you it had been delivered to a neighbour, with the address.
It's not the neighbour's fault that neither of these things happened.

Why? It's 8 doors down.
Unless they are literally housebound I'd say that was rude,.

My chinchilla cage was delivered to a neighbour and when I checked the tracking and found the house when I knocked on the door my cage had been built but because it was huge they put it in their muddy garden where the dog goes to do his business :( and it was rained on , they said they thought it was a gift!

How would they know that though? They will have thought you were left a card or email.

Take round some flowers and be kind to someone who kept your parcel safe.

And set up a neighbourhood WhatsApp group, we have one and it’s good for these types of issues.

Yes and no. Yes because you had no idea and it could have been urgent or a medical need or birthday present. No because its not their fault it was incorrectly delivered and we dont know what's going on in their world. They might have been ill, might be a carer and couldn't leave house etc or any variety of reasons they couldn't get it to you and correct a situation someone else caused. In order to respond one way or another given the limited info you have provided would mean making assumptions. I would say its the delivery company who were rude and incompetent and left two people in annoying set of circumstances.

Not very neighbourly. I would certainly have popped it through your letterbox without a second thought. Mrs Do As You Would Be Done By, that’s me,

Completely baffling responses and poll result. Yep you'd expect a neighbour to do the decent thing and drop it over. Strange choice by the courier to hand deliver it several doors down. Hopefully it doesn't happen again OP.

They did you a favour by taking it in and were extremely likely just waiting for you collect it. They were probably thinking you were rude and lazy for not collecting it sooner.