AIBU to think it was rude they kept my misdelivered parcel?

@UhOhRatPoo Because the OP has made it abundantly clear that her perception of her neighbours is the only correct one and now that people have disagreed with her, has decided that she is some sort of heroic martyr to the allegedly un-MN quality of neighbourliness. It's quite funny when someone lacks self awareness to that extent.

Why can you not accept that your neighbours did NOT KNOW it had been delivered to them IN ERROR?

So that's their fault too?

Perhaps in future you could use the option whereby you ask one of your neighbours who you like and trust to take in parcels for you, rather than the (clearly untrustworthy) people who did you a favour by kindly agreeing to accept your delivery for you. Then put the acceptable address on your delivery details.

I am sorry, I didn’t realise that, @UhOhRatPoo - thank you for telling me. I apologise, @AnnieLummox.

@AnnieLummox was not responding to OP, she was responding to a story posted by @Forestgreenblue about a parcel being opened.

@Forestgreenblue I agree with @AnnieLummox - it’s very easy to open a parcel without reading the label first, especially if you order a lot of things or are expecting something else. Really surprised that your first thought was malicious intent. Do you always automatically think the worst of people? That’s no way to live

It's like the OP thinks the neighbours will have had the time or inclination to stop and actually consider whether or not a card will have been left, on the basis that it's a small parcel that fits through the letterbox. Who has time to give that much thought to an apparently simple situation? The same goes for her bonkers notion that they should have checked the name and address and mentioned it to the courier before they left

I don’t think @FrostedCandyAngel said the parcel had been opened, @AnnieLummox.

@FrostedCandyAngel - you don’t seem to have taken on board what so many people have tried to tell you - your neighbours had NO way of knowing that the postie hadn’t put a card through your door, so it was entirely reasonable of them to wait for you to come and collect the parcel!

It was NOT their fault that a card wasn’t left, nor was it their fault that you had to search for the right house to retrieve your parcel - yet you have started a thread calling them rude, and implying they were deliberately keeping your parcel. And you still cannot see that you are being unreasonable.

Isn’t it rather more likely they just opened it without looking at the label and then thought, “Oh shit - it’s for next door” and taped it back up?

We had this recently with our neighbour! Next door I will add!

Parcel delivered. We posted on all the local neighbourhood groups if anyone had taken it in. No response.

Worked out the next day it was their door from the delivery photo - they have a very distinct difference to their door surround compared to the rest of the estate

So made us wonder why would you not have dropped it round when we are literally next door!!

Went round to collect and they very sheepishly gave us our package

To our horror they had also opened it and re-taped the box shut!!!

It was a door sign, personalised with our address so of no use at all to them but I did wonder if it had been something else if they may have attempted to claim it

The courier is unlikely to return to a house 8 doors back up to leave a note. The courier has probably gone to the wrong door.
The person accepting it should not have taken it especially if they do not know the op. Depends what the courier said to them.
In this instance I do think the neighbour could have brought it round.

That's the delivery service's fault, not the people stuck with your delivery. There are lots of reasons why someone might not prioritise redelivering your padded envelope.

They probably assumed that you knew where it had been delivered and would therefore go and collect it.
I have no issue with my neighbours parcels being delivered to my home as I am here most the time as I WFH. But I am not going out of my way to take the parcel round to them, it is on them to collect it.

I know youve been inconvenienced but that's not your neighbours fault. I'm ill and can't go out much so definately wouldn't go back and fore trying to give a parcel back to a neighbour, they dont know when you're home also, you don't know their circumstances, if you are that annoyed complain to the courier its their fault nothing to do with anyone else.

Complain to the company that delivered it to the wrong house not to the people who looked after your parcel till you came to collect it

She found it 8 houses down and collected it…

You sound really entitled. Why on earth should they drop what they are doing and immediately pop round with your package?
They could have forgotten about it too. Your package will not be their top priority in life.
They likely assumed you’d had a calling card put through your door and collect it when you could- yes I know you didn’t but how are they to know that?

It sounds like ordering online might not be for you. Or pay extra for special delivery

Erm I think you’re meant to get a card and go pick it up. I’d take it round eventually when I was not busy though, after a few days

They were kind enough to take it in for you, why should they then have to take on delivery of it to you at your address? Most delivery companies will tell you where it is by leaving a card, then it's your responsibility to go and pick it up! You sound very entitled and if I was your neighbour I wouldn't take in a parcel again for you!

@FrostedCandyAngel

What a weird take; to question the neighbour’s niceness.

The fault is with the delivery driver / company who delivered the parcel to the wrong address and didn’t leave you a slip.

I am not sure why you think the neighbour was mean - they are not a delivery company. Of course you should go and look for your own parcel.

Do you work? I take parcels in for next door but I also work 50-60 hours a week with a 90 min commute on office days and have 2 school aged kids - there is no way I am coming home and re-delivering parcels that have nothing to do with me. On a weekend maybe but even then I’d breach your 30 hours rule.

You sound very entitled.

Your issue is with the delivery company not your neighbour.

That is the fault of the delivery company. You need to take it up with them.

Your neighbour under no obligation or contract to deliver anything to you.

Why would the neighbour even bother to check the name and address on the parcel while the courier was still there? I'd have taken it and then, when I'd closed the door, opened it because who checks every single packet or parcel they receive to check it's definitely for them before the courier leaves? It's like you're determined to do some mental gymnastics in order to paint your neighbours as unreasonable.

They’re not responsible for your package and if anything you were rude not to thank them for taking it in. The usual and normal thing to expect is that you’d been left a card. They had no way to know you hadn’t. You have no idea why they didn’t bring it round and 30 hours is no time at all. If anything they were likely annoyed you didn’t show up sooner! You’ve truly got the wrong end of the stick here.

Not necessarily rude - people have very busy lives and 30 hours is not long at all. They were probably themselves pissed off that they'd have to try and find out whose parcel it was, another bloody thing to think about.

Also, they may well have assumed that you'd got a note to say 'your parcel is at number 9' and been annoyed that it had taken you 30 hours to pick it up.

I think this is a really good lesson in looking at things from the other POV

No I’m not chasing my neighbours down for their parcels, they can come to me when they’re home. YABU