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AIBU to think it was rude they kept my misdelivered parcel?

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FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 18:33

Was expecting a parcel on Saturday. (Was a small package, in a padded envelope so could easily fit through letterbox, no signature required)

Didn’t get delivered. So I checked the tracking details online Sunday evening. Tracking details said it had been delivered at 09:30am Saturday. It had a photo of the delivery person handing it over. All you can see in the photo is the package, someone’s shoes and their driveway. Which had a particular unique pattern of paving.

It wasn’t my shoes, or my driveway.

I walked up and down my street trying the find the driveway. Found it. About 8 houses down.

Knocked on the door and luckily they answered. I said “Oh I’m just wondering if you have a parcel for number 60 please”. They said yes, and gave it me. No “sorry I was going to bring it round/post it through your letter box”.

I understand people are busy but they had my parcel for 30+ hours. I would have had no idea they had it unless I went out looking at everyone’s driveways.

Was this rude of them?

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Beautifulhaiku · 27/04/2026 19:17

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 18:33

Was expecting a parcel on Saturday. (Was a small package, in a padded envelope so could easily fit through letterbox, no signature required)

Didn’t get delivered. So I checked the tracking details online Sunday evening. Tracking details said it had been delivered at 09:30am Saturday. It had a photo of the delivery person handing it over. All you can see in the photo is the package, someone’s shoes and their driveway. Which had a particular unique pattern of paving.

It wasn’t my shoes, or my driveway.

I walked up and down my street trying the find the driveway. Found it. About 8 houses down.

Knocked on the door and luckily they answered. I said “Oh I’m just wondering if you have a parcel for number 60 please”. They said yes, and gave it me. No “sorry I was going to bring it round/post it through your letter box”.

I understand people are busy but they had my parcel for 30+ hours. I would have had no idea they had it unless I went out looking at everyone’s driveways.

Was this rude of them?

Nope. They’ve looked after your parcel for free. They did you a favour saying yes. They may well have been busy when they got the knock on the door from the delivery person. Did you give the company you bought from/the courier permission to post at a neighbour’s? If not them it’s them you should be annoyed with. If it was me who received the parcel I wouldn’t mind but would expect you to come and get it. I might get round to bringing it round in a few days otherwise, but wouldn’t be in a big hurry.

Middlechild3 · 27/04/2026 19:15

Nope, they did YOU a favour taking the parcel in. Its up to YOU to get off your arse and collect it from them, not for them to bring it to you.

LastHotel · 27/04/2026 19:12

YABVU.

OttersOnAPlane · 27/04/2026 19:09

I’d have thought the neighbourly thing to do would be to quickly nip down and post it through my letter box.

Perhaps their lives are a little busier than yours.

Had you not picked it up within a few days they might have. Not that it's their responsibility, though.

Villanellesproudmum · 27/04/2026 19:09

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 19:00

Because they live 8 houses down from me.

The parcel was a small envelope that can fit through any letterbox. It had my full correct address on.

I’d have thought the neighbourly thing to do would be to quickly nip down and post it through my letter box.

It’s what I do. If I get posted a letter or something that fits through a letter box in error I will always take it round.

But then again this is Mumsnet where being nice to neighbours doesn’t exist.

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How ironic ….

Villanellesproudmum · 27/04/2026 19:08

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 18:55

I had no idea where it was!

I was left no slip. No text message. Nothing.

I had to search up and down the street looking at peoples driveways that matched the photo on the tracking details.

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That’s not the neighbours fault!

itsmeits · 27/04/2026 19:07

Only person I give parcels to is NDN as I see them most mornings.
The parcels live by the front door.
Anyone else I expect to collect. Not my issue if they didn't card you.

They also didn't keep it they gave it to you when asked. They just didn't try to redeliver.
Keeping was the neighbour at no 73 that told me they hadn't taken the delivery. Then her child was wearing the exact same coat I had ordered and never received!

I love the don't delivery to option with some delivery services 😂

UnhappyHobbit · 27/04/2026 19:06

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 19:00

Because they live 8 houses down from me.

The parcel was a small envelope that can fit through any letterbox. It had my full correct address on.

I’d have thought the neighbourly thing to do would be to quickly nip down and post it through my letter box.

It’s what I do. If I get posted a letter or something that fits through a letter box in error I will always take it round.

But then again this is Mumsnet where being nice to neighbours doesn’t exist.

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Its not a mumsnet issue, it’s your issue with your neighbour 8 doors down.

I don’t expect much of neighbours anymore and you shouldn’t either. They probably presumed you’d call for it, just be grateful they didn’t lie.

TreesinthePark · 27/04/2026 19:03

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 18:55

I had no idea where it was!

I was left no slip. No text message. Nothing.

I had to search up and down the street looking at peoples driveways that matched the photo on the tracking details.

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How is that the neighbours fault? They would have reasonably expected the courier had left you a card.

Ginnnny · 27/04/2026 19:03

Absolutely your responsibility to pick up a parcel delivered to a neighbour. Rude to expect them to bring it unless you’re pals

oncemoreuntothebeachdearfriends · 27/04/2026 19:02

You say it fits through any letterbox, so why not yours ?
I'd complain to the delivery company.
I often take in parcels for neighbours, but I expect them to collect.

SALaw · 27/04/2026 19:02

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 18:55

I had no idea where it was!

I was left no slip. No text message. Nothing.

I had to search up and down the street looking at peoples driveways that matched the photo on the tracking details.

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How would they know that though?!

Viviennemary · 27/04/2026 19:02

No I don't think it's that bad.

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FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 19:00

anotheranonanon · 27/04/2026 18:57

Why would you think they would have time to do this.

Because they live 8 houses down from me.

The parcel was a small envelope that can fit through any letterbox. It had my full correct address on.

I’d have thought the neighbourly thing to do would be to quickly nip down and post it through my letter box.

It’s what I do. If I get posted a letter or something that fits through a letter box in error I will always take it round.

But then again this is Mumsnet where being nice to neighbours doesn’t exist.

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Gustavo1 · 27/04/2026 18:59

Unless your neighbours work for the delivery company, you are being hugely unreasonable.

Them mistakenly ending up with your mail wasn’t an emergency for them. Maybe they were ill, tired, watching a movie, still in pyjamas or just waiting for you to collect the package. They may not have known you didn’t know where it was.

Its really not worth another thought.

Tulipvase · 27/04/2026 18:59

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 18:55

I had no idea where it was!

I was left no slip. No text message. Nothing.

I had to search up and down the street looking at peoples driveways that matched the photo on the tracking details.

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The neighbour isn’t to know that though. It is perfectly reasonable for them to have expected you (as you did) to go and collect the parcel.

Maized · 27/04/2026 18:57

Your parcel is not your neighbours responsibility. That sits with you, the company you ordered from and the delivery company. If my parcel is misdelivered I report it, see if I can fetch it and if not tell the company so I can get another sent or a refund. The company will then have to claim the money back from the delivery company they used.

anotheranonanon · 27/04/2026 18:57

Why would you think they would have time to do this.

Growlybear83 · 27/04/2026 18:56

Im happy to take in parcels for everyone but I would always expect that a card had been left to say it had been left with me. It wouldn’t occur to me to deliver it to the recipient, and I wouldn’t accept someone’s parcel on thst basis

LittlePinkWeed · 27/04/2026 18:55

I thought you were going to say they had pretended not to have received it and kept it for themselves.

No, it wasn't rude of them to keep it safe until you came to collect it.

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FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 18:55

Nopenott0day · 27/04/2026 18:37

The onus is on you to collect your parcel and thank your neighbour for keeping it safe.

I had no idea where it was!

I was left no slip. No text message. Nothing.

I had to search up and down the street looking at peoples driveways that matched the photo on the tracking details.

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TeenLifeMum · 27/04/2026 18:55

If I take in post for neighbours the onus is on them to collect. If it’s mid delivered then I’m not to blame and I’m busy so either come and get it or I’ll get round to it when it suits me. I’m not a post office.

OttersOnAPlane · 27/04/2026 18:52

I've had neighbours parcels for 4 days before now. They come fetch it when they can. I'm not a a delivery service and I'm not a storage facility.

It's not up to the people a few doors down to get your stuff to you. It is the courier who is at fault.

Bitzee · 27/04/2026 18:52

I thought the usual etiquette is that you collect your parcel and that they aren’t obliged to deliver it for you.
The delivery company should have pushed it through the letter box if no signature required and it would fit, and failing that they should left a card and/or updated the tracking info to tell you where they left it. The neighbour isn’t rude just because they’re incompetent. If anything I’d be grateful they took it in.

Gizlotsmum · 27/04/2026 18:49

So they got it on Saturday and you collected Sunday? Not unreasonable of them to think you knew where it was and were waiting to collect at a convenient time to you. They might have been out sat and sun so waiting till today to drop off.