AIBU to think it was rude they kept my misdelivered parcel?

It’s not the neighbour’s fault that the delivery company didn’t leave precise details of which neighbour took it in.

The neighbours didn't know that though.

You don't know their routine- they may have been put most of the time themselves, or have been working. They may simply have forgotten about it.

If they are 8 houses down, they may not have known when you were in or not.

That’s between OP and the dodgy delivery company then.

Agreed. Busy life and definitely dont agree to take in anything. Would have no time to act as an ungrateful neighbour's delivery service for free and am amazed at her lack of insight.

The title also had me thinking the neighbour was using/eating/ reading her parcel

Being 8 doors away I would have popped it through your letterbox or knocked on your door if it was too big. I don’t want to have someone else’s post in my house.
My neighbour 5 doors down has a similar house name to mine so post gets muddled, either of us just posts it in the right letter box or knocks.

No, I feel I’ve done my neighbourly deed by accepting the parcel. It’s up to the neighbour to come and collect it.

As others have said, @FrostedCandyAngel, they probably thought the delivery driver had left a card telling you where the parcel was, and were waiting for you to come and collect it.

I don’t think either you or they were at fault, but the delivery driver should have left a card.

This annoys me too OP. When I lived in a flat my parcels would often end up at various other blocks and more often than not I had to go looking. If it’s been misdelivered how on earth am I meant to know where it is!!?

So far as I am concerned if a neighbour agrees to accept your parcel its up to the intended recipient to go and claim it. I dont take in parcels for neighbours because I dont want randoms knocking at my door. The misdelivered package cited upthread was literally left outside my gate by the Evri driver and handed to me by the gardner. I did not notice it was not for me until after he had left. If any more mysterious parcels are left outside my gate they can stay there until someone claims them or they get nicked. Im not a delivery service.

They probably assumed you knew it was there and was waiting for you to collect it. I sometimes take things to a neighbour or they bring something of mine to me but in most cases it is the person whose parcel it is that comes to collect it. They have been nice to you, they took your parcel in. You should be annoyed at the delivery company for not telling you where it was, not the neighbour.

Did you at least thank them OP?

Your neighbours would have assumed that the delivery company had left you a card telling you the address where they had delivered the parcel. I would always go and collect my parcels if delivered to a neighbour. Your thread title implies that they have kept your parcel for themselves. I don't think your neighbours were rude at all.

They did the neighbourly thing by taking it in.
Its your job to collect it from them, its not their responsibility to deliver it to you. The fact that the shitty delivery driver didn't leave you a note is not your neighbours fault or problem. Take your anger and point it at the delivery driver not your neighbours or next time they might refuse to take your parcel and then you wont get it

Not really, no. It was the fault of the courier for not telling you where they left it.

I recently had to track down a parcel based on a photo of what looked like a shop. My main clue was a poster, just visible, on I could just make out the word sale in red letters
Turned out to be the opticians across the road.

IMO it’s the delivery service you should be having a go at, for delivering it to the wrong house when you say it could easily have been pushed through the letterbox at the right one.

The poll response and some of the replies are amazing to me.

Where I live there would be no question the receiver would get the parcel back to OP; they’d either drop it down or post on the neighbourhood WhatsApp group (large estate in Dublin).

However equally I wouldn’t be particularly annoyed with the neighbour but would definitely complain to the courier / delivery company.

This. Whatever next.

This is my expectation too. If they hadn’t collected after a few days I’d start to think maybe they hadn’t been told where it was and go knock.

The trouble is, not all couriers put a card throng the door, and even when they do it may not be clear. I had a card saying my parcel was at number 6 - there are three number sixes on different roads!

Im mobility impaired and can only walk short distances. I had a misdelivered parcel for the other side of the estate and no way of getting it there or letting the owner know I had it. A relative visited me 3 days later and he kindly ofered to go somewhat out of his way and drop it off. The woman who opened the door was quite rude and did not give him a chane to explain. She berated him for not bringing it sooner. Eventually he was able to tell her the package had landed with his disabled aunt who had no way of deliverting it and that he was only visiting. When she did not apologise he told her "You are very ungrateful. My aunt is not a delivery service and nor am I. If this happens again I will throw it in the bin."

And also 30 hours is such a misnomer when you expected it on Saturday but couldn’t be arsed to check until Sunday night! I guess you were busy… like other people can be.

But you found the house so where’s the issue? You had tracking information and a photo which helped you find the house.
It’s not up to the neighbour to fetch you your parcel it’s for you to collect. They didn’t know you’d not received a card.

They probably assumed the postie had left you a slip and you'd collect it when you were in. It's not their responsibility to deliver it. Complain to the post office.

Mumsnet is also the place where entitled people think other people should do stuff for them. 30 hours is laughable - it was a day late. These people have their lives to live too - if you don’t know them then you also don’t know their availability to drop what they are doing in their daily life to either enable or prohibit them from delivering a package to you.

You could be grateful they took it in for you - you’re not. You could be grateful they kept it safe for you - you’re not. You’re moaning about them and putting expectations on them which is really unfair. Choose the right people be cross at if receiving your parcel a little over a day later irks you so much.

Being neighbourly works both ways - gratitude to people who kept your parcel safe for you is one of those ways. They did you a favour you ingrate! When I picked it up I would have apologised for the inconvenience to them… did that even occur to you?!

I would be 90 percent sure that the recipients assumed the courier had popped a card through OP's door.

30 hours is hardly ridiculous - it's the next day. I can well imagine things being so busy here with the kids that it would get to the next day before I noticed OP's car was back in the drive or whatever.