Page 14 | AIBU to think it was rude they kept my misdelivered parcel?

FrostedCandyAngel · 2026-04-27T17:33:47+00:00

Was expecting a parcel on Saturday. (Was a small package, in a padded envelope so could easily fit through letterbox, no signature required) Didn’t get delivered. So I checked the tracking details online Sunday evening. Tracking details said it had been delivered at 09:30am Saturday. It had a photo of the delivery person handing it over. All you can see in the photo is the package, someone’s shoes and their driveway. Which had a particular unique pattern of paving. It wasn’t my shoes, or my driveway. I walked up and down my street trying the find the driveway. Found it. About 8 houses down. Knocked on the door and luckily they answered. I said “Oh I’m just wondering if you have a parcel for number 60 please”. They said yes, and gave it me. No “sorry I was going to bring it round/post it through your letter box”. I understand people are busy but they had my parcel for 30+ hours. I would have had no idea they had it unless I went out looking at everyone’s driveways. Was this rude of them?

Snooks1971 · 27/04/2026 20:06

asdbaybeeee · 27/04/2026 19:55

But the delivery company should have put a note through saying where it was. It’s not the neighbours fault

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Yes. I agree with you.

moderate · 27/04/2026 20:04

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:02

Royal Mail are horrendous in my area. I’ve received another houses letters on 3 separate occasions. And I’ve always popped straight out to post it through the door.

This is the first time it’s happened where my post has gone elsewhere.

But yes this thread has opened my eyes that not everyone would do the same as I.

lesson learnt 🤣

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Was this whole thread just a virtue-signalling opportunity for you?

moderate · 27/04/2026 20:03

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:00

Imagine Royal Mail delivering my parcel 8 houses down from me. To then post a red slip through my letterbox which the parcel could have fit through 🤣

It doesn’t make sense.

What annoyed me is that I believe the neighbour should have looked at the name and address and then said to the courier “Oh this is the wrong house. They’re further down!” Or they could have just walked 20 seconds to my house to pop it in my letter box.

Just baffling.

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I don’t look at the name and address of a parcel until after it’s been delivered, especially if I’m in the middle of something by when the postie knocks.

What’s baffling is why you think this neighbour’s life should revolve around you.

Dexterrr · 27/04/2026 20:03

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:00

Imagine Royal Mail delivering my parcel 8 houses down from me. To then post a red slip through my letterbox which the parcel could have fit through 🤣

It doesn’t make sense.

What annoyed me is that I believe the neighbour should have looked at the name and address and then said to the courier “Oh this is the wrong house. They’re further down!” Or they could have just walked 20 seconds to my house to pop it in my letter box.

Just baffling.

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Maybe the neighbour was in the middle of something in their own life and found the delivery person interrupted them, and didn't look?
Why do you think your item is of any importance to anyone else? This is between you and the delivery company.

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FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:02

Funnywonder · 27/04/2026 20:00

To be fair, I would do the same as you and drop it down. Especially if it fitted through the person’s letterbox. But I wouldn’t necessarily expect other people to do the same for me because everyone has their own idea about the correct protocol. I do find it hilarious that some posters are saying that nobody has time to walk 8 doors and stuff a parcel through a letterbox. It would take a minute or two, provided you’re fit and able of course.

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Royal Mail are horrendous in my area. I’ve received another houses letters on 3 separate occasions. And I’ve always popped straight out to post it through the door.

This is the first time it’s happened where my post has gone elsewhere.

But yes this thread has opened my eyes that not everyone would do the same as I.

lesson learnt 🤣

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FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:00

asdbaybeeee · 27/04/2026 19:55

But the delivery company should have put a note through saying where it was. It’s not the neighbours fault

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Imagine Royal Mail delivering my parcel 8 houses down from me. To then post a red slip through my letterbox which the parcel could have fit through 🤣

It doesn’t make sense.

What annoyed me is that I believe the neighbour should have looked at the name and address and then said to the courier “Oh this is the wrong house. They’re further down!” Or they could have just walked 20 seconds to my house to pop it in my letter box.

Just baffling.

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Funnywonder · 27/04/2026 20:00

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 19:00

Because they live 8 houses down from me.

The parcel was a small envelope that can fit through any letterbox. It had my full correct address on.

I’d have thought the neighbourly thing to do would be to quickly nip down and post it through my letter box.

It’s what I do. If I get posted a letter or something that fits through a letter box in error I will always take it round.

But then again this is Mumsnet where being nice to neighbours doesn’t exist.

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To be fair, I would do the same as you and drop it down. Especially if it fitted through the person’s letterbox. But I wouldn’t necessarily expect other people to do the same for me because everyone has their own idea about the correct protocol. I do find it hilarious that some posters are saying that nobody has time to walk 8 doors and stuff a parcel through a letterbox. It would take a minute or two, provided you’re fit and able of course.

SylvanMoon · 27/04/2026 19:58

asdbaybeeee · 27/04/2026 19:55

But the delivery company should have put a note through saying where it was. It’s not the neighbours fault

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It was an error on the part of the delivery company: they thought they'd delivered it to the correct address. The OP only discovered where it had been delivered to because the delivery person had posted a photo of it being delivered (which must be happening more and more since they all now take photos to prove the delivery was made).

moderate · 27/04/2026 19:57

The poll response [is] amazing to me.

I wouldn’t be particularly annoyed with the neighbour

The poll was about whether she was reasonable to be annoyed with the neighbour.

asdbaybeeee · 27/04/2026 19:55

Snooks1971 · 27/04/2026 18:38

Eh? It wasn’t a neighbour and the OP had no idea where it had been delivered!

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But the delivery company should have put a note through saying where it was. It’s not the neighbours fault

Crunchymum · 27/04/2026 19:54

I WFH so often take in packages for neighbours.

I've always (correctly it seems) assumed the delivery company let the parcel owner know who took the parcel in and it's always been collected.

Same on the odd occasion a neighbour has taken a parcel in for me. I go and collect.

Size is irrelevant, I'm happy to help by saving a delivery being taken back to the depot but it wouldn't cross my mind to then post it into neighbour, especially if it's not a direct neighbour.

Imagine if it then goes missing / neighbours doesn't recieve it? Who becomes liable for it then?

TwelvePinkDolphins · 27/04/2026 19:54

I also don’t think it’s that usual for parcels to be delivered to a neighbour anymore?? Maybe I’m in the minority but I’ve never had one go to a neighbour in the almost 3 years I’ve lived here - they get taken back or left by my back door or in the shed. I’ve never been asked to take any parcels either. And I work from home so I’m in literally all day every day, I’d be a prime parcel taker 🤣

Branleuse · 27/04/2026 19:54

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 19:00

Because they live 8 houses down from me.

The parcel was a small envelope that can fit through any letterbox. It had my full correct address on.

I’d have thought the neighbourly thing to do would be to quickly nip down and post it through my letter box.

It’s what I do. If I get posted a letter or something that fits through a letter box in error I will always take it round.

But then again this is Mumsnet where being nice to neighbours doesn’t exist.

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It's been a day. You don't know what they have got going on in their lives to decide that they aren't nice to their neighbours.
Why do you want to think the worst of them?

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FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 19:53

Giraffeandthedog · 27/04/2026 19:37

Did you at least thank them OP?

Of course I did!

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LeopardPrintIsNeutral · 27/04/2026 19:51

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 19:00

Because they live 8 houses down from me.

The parcel was a small envelope that can fit through any letterbox. It had my full correct address on.

I’d have thought the neighbourly thing to do would be to quickly nip down and post it through my letter box.

It’s what I do. If I get posted a letter or something that fits through a letter box in error I will always take it round.

But then again this is Mumsnet where being nice to neighbours doesn’t exist.

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Taking the parcel in is nice! They don’t know you didn’t get a slip!

SylvanMoon · 27/04/2026 19:49

We live on a street with a name that's similar to 3 other streets nearby. We frequently get our deliveries misdelivered or occasionally get someone else's. We usually bring them round to the correct address, but once we were too busy and put the parcel to one side to deal with the next day. But life intervened, and it got forgotten, until about a month later. We could see that it was a fancy house number from Amazon, which, given the time that had elapsed had most likely been reported as not delivered and replaced or refunded. Embarrassed to have held onto it for so long, we were reluctant to show up with it. So we drove past the house and saw that indeed it had been replaced, so we binned it. You don't know what your neighbour's situation was and whether they had the time or capacity to bring you your parcel before you'd collected it.

Namechangerage · 27/04/2026 19:49

moderate · 27/04/2026 19:47

But then again this is Mumsnet where being nice to neighbours doesn’t exist.

Your lack of self-awareness is astounding.

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Man character syndrome for sure!

LeopardPrintIsNeutral · 27/04/2026 19:48

Nopenott0day · 27/04/2026 18:37

The onus is on you to collect your parcel and thank your neighbour for keeping it safe.

This with bells on. They didn’t have to take your parcel

moderate · 27/04/2026 19:47

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 19:00

Because they live 8 houses down from me.

The parcel was a small envelope that can fit through any letterbox. It had my full correct address on.

I’d have thought the neighbourly thing to do would be to quickly nip down and post it through my letter box.

It’s what I do. If I get posted a letter or something that fits through a letter box in error I will always take it round.

But then again this is Mumsnet where being nice to neighbours doesn’t exist.

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But then again this is Mumsnet where being nice to neighbours doesn’t exist.

Your lack of self-awareness is astounding.

Namechangerage · 27/04/2026 19:47

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 19:00

Because they live 8 houses down from me.

The parcel was a small envelope that can fit through any letterbox. It had my full correct address on.

I’d have thought the neighbourly thing to do would be to quickly nip down and post it through my letter box.

It’s what I do. If I get posted a letter or something that fits through a letter box in error I will always take it round.

But then again this is Mumsnet where being nice to neighbours doesn’t exist.

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But it’s quite usual to get deliveries for other people nowadays. So how were they to know you didn’t get a slip and didn’t know where it was?!

sunflower85 · 27/04/2026 19:46

Have you really got this little going on in your life that you felt the need to make a Mumsnet postabout this?? Good God!

Catza · 27/04/2026 19:46

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 18:55

I had no idea where it was!

I was left no slip. No text message. Nothing.

I had to search up and down the street looking at peoples driveways that matched the photo on the tracking details.

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But they were not to know that!
I once had a parcel sitting for a week in my house. I got it, realised the address was wrong and contacted the delivery company. They promised to collect. A week later an aggrieved woman showed up on my doorstep with all sorts of accusations. Wish I tossed it in a bin to be honest. I am not a delivery person and, as far as I was concerned, I dealt with the matter by alerting the delivery company of their mistake.

CombatBarbie · 27/04/2026 19:46

Snooks1971 · 27/04/2026 18:45

Ok! Not a NDN then! 8 houses down or up your road, over the road or on your side means checking with a lot of neighbours when you don’t know where it’s been delivered…being pedantic then that’s up to 32 houses (neighbours) to knock and check.

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Or in my case, 13 miles away 🤣

Op its on you to keep tabs on your parcels..thank youself lucky they took it or else it would have been returned to.sender

moderate · 27/04/2026 19:45

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 18:55

I had no idea where it was!

I was left no slip. No text message. Nothing.

I had to search up and down the street looking at peoples driveways that matched the photo on the tracking details.

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And somehow this is the fault of your neighbour rather than the delivery company?

How did you get to be this self-entitled?

igelkott2026 · 27/04/2026 19:44

Nopenott0day · 27/04/2026 18:37

The onus is on you to collect your parcel and thank your neighbour for keeping it safe.

This. I took in a parcel for my neighbour last week and 24 hours later they hadn't been round to collect it so I assumed they'd not had a card or email to say I had it and took it round. But the onus is very much on the recipient to go and get it in my view.