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AIBU to think it was rude they kept my misdelivered parcel?

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FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 18:33

Was expecting a parcel on Saturday. (Was a small package, in a padded envelope so could easily fit through letterbox, no signature required)

Didn’t get delivered. So I checked the tracking details online Sunday evening. Tracking details said it had been delivered at 09:30am Saturday. It had a photo of the delivery person handing it over. All you can see in the photo is the package, someone’s shoes and their driveway. Which had a particular unique pattern of paving.

It wasn’t my shoes, or my driveway.

I walked up and down my street trying the find the driveway. Found it. About 8 houses down.

Knocked on the door and luckily they answered. I said “Oh I’m just wondering if you have a parcel for number 60 please”. They said yes, and gave it me. No “sorry I was going to bring it round/post it through your letter box”.

I understand people are busy but they had my parcel for 30+ hours. I would have had no idea they had it unless I went out looking at everyone’s driveways.

Was this rude of them?

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NoCommentingFromNowOn · 27/04/2026 20:42

Everything you are complaining about that should have been done differently should be addressed to the postman. Ask him or his office why it was misdelivered.

Your neighbour presumably has his or her own life, it would have been nice for them to deliver it, it would also be nice if my neighbour gives me all his money, but such is life 🤷‍♀️.

Duckswaddle · 27/04/2026 20:41

Do you always create massive issues out of nothing?

pinkdelight · 27/04/2026 20:40

All of your issues are the fault of the delivery service not the neighbour. People get loads of deliveries these days and would just put it aside until you called to collect it. The fact you didn't know is entirely the courier's fault not the neighbour's fault. Few people go running off to redeliver something these days, as it's fair to assume you were out or there was some other obstruction if they delivered to the neighbour instead. They weren't rude to set it aside and wait for you. It would have been rude to open it or pretend it never arrived. YABU.

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FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:40

SylvanMoon · 27/04/2026 20:38

We have a neighbour with a very similar looking surname to my DH. I took delivery of a parcel that was for her, thinking it was for my DH. When he got home, I gave it to him and he opened it!!! It was only then that we realised everyone's mistake and returned it to our neighbour with profuse apologies for having opened it. Give your neighbour a break. You have no idea what was going on in their life at that time or what was their thinking process. You're treating them as if they were trying to steal from you and then when posters on here are explaining to you how it happens, you say we're all horrible inconsiderate people.

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you say we're all horrible inconsiderate people.

Please direct quote where I have said you are all horrible inconsiderate people.

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FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:39

Uptightmumma · 27/04/2026 20:29

When I take a parcel/delivery in for a neighbour I assume that they get a notification saying where it is. Which you did get by way of a photo and I would expect you to come and collect it and be grateful I have taken it in.

I didn’t get a notification.

I searched up the tracking number I received from the sender on Royal Mail tracking

It stated “delivered” and a photo of the parcel being passed over a random driveway and a pair of shoes.

If they didn’t have the drive way paving in the photo I would have had no idea where the parcel was.

I had to search up my street looking for the driveway which matched the photo on the tracking.

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SylvanMoon · 27/04/2026 20:38

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:00

Imagine Royal Mail delivering my parcel 8 houses down from me. To then post a red slip through my letterbox which the parcel could have fit through 🤣

It doesn’t make sense.

What annoyed me is that I believe the neighbour should have looked at the name and address and then said to the courier “Oh this is the wrong house. They’re further down!” Or they could have just walked 20 seconds to my house to pop it in my letter box.

Just baffling.

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We have a neighbour with a very similar looking surname to my DH. I took delivery of a parcel that was for her, thinking it was for my DH. When he got home, I gave it to him and he opened it!!! It was only then that we realised everyone's mistake and returned it to our neighbour with profuse apologies for having opened it. Give your neighbour a break. You have no idea what was going on in their life at that time or what was their thinking process. You're treating them as if they were trying to steal from you and then when posters on here are explaining to you how it happens, you say we're all horrible inconsiderate people.

BlueMum16 · 27/04/2026 20:35

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:22

Because the parcel fits through a letterbox.

It didn’t require a signature.

There was absolutely no reason or logic why it needed to be delivered 8 houses down.

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But for whatever reason it was.

I would assume you were being rude and not collecting your parcel. I hate when neighbours can't be arsed to come for their stuff and expect me to deliver it.

cannynotsay · 27/04/2026 20:35

so? People have lives!

Arlanymor · 27/04/2026 20:32

Would you rather they had refused the delivery and then it would haven taken you well over 30 hours to retrieve it? Back to the depot? That’s better?

CaptainMyCaptain · 27/04/2026 20:31

Nopenott0day · 27/04/2026 18:37

The onus is on you to collect your parcel and thank your neighbour for keeping it safe.

This. I often take in parcels but I don't feel obliged to deliver them.

Uptightmumma · 27/04/2026 20:29

When I take a parcel/delivery in for a neighbour I assume that they get a notification saying where it is. Which you did get by way of a photo and I would expect you to come and collect it and be grateful I have taken it in.

nevernotmaybe · 27/04/2026 20:26

TeenLifeMum · 27/04/2026 18:55

If I take in post for neighbours the onus is on them to collect. If it’s mid delivered then I’m not to blame and I’m busy so either come and get it or I’ll get round to it when it suits me. I’m not a post office.

If you choose to take it in, this is you interrupting the delivery. The delivery has not been legally fulfilled unless the recipient specifically requested it be left somewhere else. So you aren't helping, and then demanding they fix what you didn't help.

Duckiewasthefirstniceguy · 27/04/2026 20:25

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:22

Because the parcel fits through a letterbox.

It didn’t require a signature.

There was absolutely no reason or logic why it needed to be delivered 8 houses down.

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People don’t give things like this that much thought, tbh. I’d have assumed you were unavailable, had a slip and would be along to pick it up at some point.

Upsetbetty · 27/04/2026 20:24

If it had been my mums house for example she would have been at work on Saturday through til Sunday morning (yes a full 24hours!) and then home for 6 hours and back into work. Not everyone is sitting around on the weekend!

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FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:22

Hoardasurass · 27/04/2026 20:20

Why would they assume that it was misdelivered instead of delivered to them because you were unavailable

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Because the parcel fits through a letterbox.

It didn’t require a signature.

There was absolutely no reason or logic why it needed to be delivered 8 houses down.

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Upsetbetty · 27/04/2026 20:21

Why did it take you 30 hours to go get it? What were YOU doing?

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FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:20

Vaxtable · 27/04/2026 20:14

I don’t deliver if I take in parcels. I ask if they have dropped a card or notification to the people then they come and collect.

I go and collect when I am notified

i am not a postman

I wasn’t notified where the parcel was.

I had to search the street looking for a driveway that matched the photo on the tracking details.

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Hoardasurass · 27/04/2026 20:20

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:00

Imagine Royal Mail delivering my parcel 8 houses down from me. To then post a red slip through my letterbox which the parcel could have fit through 🤣

It doesn’t make sense.

What annoyed me is that I believe the neighbour should have looked at the name and address and then said to the courier “Oh this is the wrong house. They’re further down!” Or they could have just walked 20 seconds to my house to pop it in my letter box.

Just baffling.

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Why would they assume that it was misdelivered instead of delivered to them because you were unavailable

Miyagi99 · 27/04/2026 20:18

I’d be apologising that my parcel was delivered to their house!

dannyufcfan · 27/04/2026 20:17

Keeping it for 30 hours is not out of order or weird. They probably thought you had a card to tell you.

They probably would have given it to you in the next few days.

Slightyamusedandsilly · 27/04/2026 20:15

If you want to collect your parcel, go to the house it was left at. If you don't know which house, contact the delivery company. If Evri, accept it's gone and report it missing.

It isn't for the person taking a parcel in for you to deliver it / chase you down. I'd ONLY go out of my way for my direct neighbour. Anyone else needs to collect. I'm not a paid delivery service.

Vaxtable · 27/04/2026 20:14

I don’t deliver if I take in parcels. I ask if they have dropped a card or notification to the people then they come and collect.

I go and collect when I am notified

i am not a postman

CharlieEffie · 27/04/2026 20:11

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 18:55

I had no idea where it was!

I was left no slip. No text message. Nothing.

I had to search up and down the street looking at peoples driveways that matched the photo on the tracking details.

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But thats not their fault, how were they to know

ChampagneLassie · 27/04/2026 20:10

Well complain to the courier company! Honestly, your neighbours did you a favour, they’re not at your beck and call, why on earth should it be their responsibility to deliver your package to you?

PigletJohn · 27/04/2026 20:08

Your complaint is with the delivery company.