Page 12 | AIBU to think it was rude they kept my misdelivered parcel?

FrostedCandyAngel · 2026-04-27T17:33:47+00:00

Was expecting a parcel on Saturday. (Was a small package, in a padded envelope so could easily fit through letterbox, no signature required) Didn’t get delivered. So I checked the tracking details online Sunday evening. Tracking details said it had been delivered at 09:30am Saturday. It had a photo of the delivery person handing it over. All you can see in the photo is the package, someone’s shoes and their driveway. Which had a particular unique pattern of paving. It wasn’t my shoes, or my driveway. I walked up and down my street trying the find the driveway. Found it. About 8 houses down. Knocked on the door and luckily they answered. I said “Oh I’m just wondering if you have a parcel for number 60 please”. They said yes, and gave it me. No “sorry I was going to bring it round/post it through your letter box”. I understand people are busy but they had my parcel for 30+ hours. I would have had no idea they had it unless I went out looking at everyone’s driveways. Was this rude of them?

PansyPapers · 27/04/2026 21:09

MN is such an angry place.

ExhaustedBedfordshire · 27/04/2026 21:08

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 21:06

It wasn’t my neighbours “fault”.

It was the fault of Royal Mail misdelivering.

But thought it was rude of the neighbour not to take 20 seconds out of their day and pop it through my letterbox.

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But it's not 20 seconds for all?

I know in my very average sized house street it would take more than 20 seconds. Wrapping my child up/persuading them to put their shoes on etc. Maybe they were home alone with their child, can't exactly leave it home alone?

PansyPapers · 27/04/2026 21:08

Why so many angry posters?

Whatever posters’ opinions they are speaking so rudely/ disrespectfully to the OP.

moderate · 27/04/2026 21:06

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:59

Surely with common sense you’d think if a courier can post a slip through my letterbox they can also post the actual enveloped package through my letterbox. It didn’t require a signature upon delivery.

Post a slip through my door but leve the envelope 8 houses down.

Can’t believe it’s just me that thinks this is crazy!

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It’s not just you. According to the poll results, 1 out of every 10 MNers are similarly self-entitled.

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FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 21:06

moderate · 27/04/2026 21:00

And this is your neighbour’s fault how?

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It wasn’t my neighbours “fault”.

It was the fault of Royal Mail misdelivering.

But thought it was rude of the neighbour not to take 20 seconds out of their day and pop it through my letterbox.

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bevm72yellow · 27/04/2026 21:03

The attitude of expecting them to run around and look for your house and deliver it promptly asap would deter people from doing you a courtesy in future by looking after it and handing it over. Gratitude for their courteous behaviour can have positive future consequences on occasions.

Upsetbetty · 27/04/2026 21:03

and again I ask….if it would only take 20 seconds…why did YOU take 30 hours!?

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FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:45

Because if a delivery driver handed me a small envelope that fits through a letterbox - intended for a different house, 20 seconds down the road. I would simply walk 20 seconds down the road and post it through the letterbox of the correct house.

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Aren’t you brilliant? How brilliant you are.

Whyherewego · 27/04/2026 21:00

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:45

Because if a delivery driver handed me a small envelope that fits through a letterbox - intended for a different house, 20 seconds down the road. I would simply walk 20 seconds down the road and post it through the letterbox of the correct house.

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But they didnt know if you were away or there was some reason you hadn't picked it up.
They may have been busy. They may have had some bad news to process. They may have simply forgotten. Maybe their cleaner took it in and they didnt realise.
So many possible scenarios. It's just not their fault you didnt get a slip

moderate · 27/04/2026 21:00

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:39

I didn’t get a notification.

I searched up the tracking number I received from the sender on Royal Mail tracking

It stated “delivered” and a photo of the parcel being passed over a random driveway and a pair of shoes.

If they didn’t have the drive way paving in the photo I would have had no idea where the parcel was.

I had to search up my street looking for the driveway which matched the photo on the tracking.

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And this is your neighbour’s fault how?

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FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:59

lornad00m · 27/04/2026 20:53

I imagine they assumed the courier would have left a card saying where they'd delivered the parcel to and that you would eventually collect it.

People have busy lives.

Surely with common sense you’d think if a courier can post a slip through my letterbox they can also post the actual enveloped package through my letterbox. It didn’t require a signature upon delivery.

Post a slip through my door but leve the envelope 8 houses down.

Can’t believe it’s just me that thinks this is crazy!

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LittlePinkWeed · 27/04/2026 20:59

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:45

Because if a delivery driver handed me a small envelope that fits through a letterbox - intended for a different house, 20 seconds down the road. I would simply walk 20 seconds down the road and post it through the letterbox of the correct house.

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Really? If I accepted a tracked delivery for a neighbour I wouldn't put it through their letterbox. A misdirected letter maybe, but not a tracked delivery.

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FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:57

Arlanymor · 27/04/2026 20:32

Would you rather they had refused the delivery and then it would haven taken you well over 30 hours to retrieve it? Back to the depot? That’s better?

I mean I would have rather the Royal Mail driver post it through my letter box.

But to answer your question, yes. I would have much rather the random house 8 houses down refused the delivery. At least then the driver may have double checked the address and brought it round to me.

At least if it went back to the depot, it would be clear on the tracking details. Not a photo of a random driveway that I had to search for.

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ExhaustedBedfordshire · 27/04/2026 20:57

30 hours is nothing. If I was home alone with my child I wouldn't be wrapping them up and tracking you down how do you know they wasn't busy? And why should they anyway?

springtome · 27/04/2026 20:57

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:00

Imagine Royal Mail delivering my parcel 8 houses down from me. To then post a red slip through my letterbox which the parcel could have fit through 🤣

It doesn’t make sense.

What annoyed me is that I believe the neighbour should have looked at the name and address and then said to the courier “Oh this is the wrong house. They’re further down!” Or they could have just walked 20 seconds to my house to pop it in my letter box.

Just baffling.

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We get parcels all the time, even the kids now order things. I don’t usually look at who it’s for until I’m in the house and about to put the parcel down.

Butchyrestingface · 27/04/2026 20:55

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 18:55

I had no idea where it was!

I was left no slip. No text message. Nothing.

I had to search up and down the street looking at peoples driveways that matched the photo on the tracking details.

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They won't have known you had no slip and didn't know where it was.

lornad00m · 27/04/2026 20:53

I imagine they assumed the courier would have left a card saying where they'd delivered the parcel to and that you would eventually collect it.

People have busy lives.

kombuchabucha · 27/04/2026 20:52

Sorry OP, I think you're being very unreasonable! It's your parcel, your neighbour did you a favour accepting it. Would you have rather driven to the local sorting office or wherever it goes back to to collect it?

This happened to me recently (as in someone else's parcel got delivered to my house) and I would have had to walk out of sight of my house to a. Check if they were in later on and b. deliver it to the intended recipient if they were in. I wouldn't leave my young children alone in the house to do this, so I waited for them to come and collect it when it was convenient to them.

TBF I assumed they were notified of where the package had been delivered, so would know where to come to find it - pretty crap of the delivery company if they don't do this!

Lookholiday · 27/04/2026 20:52

I dont even look at my own parcels for a couple of days sometimes. If I get a delivery while im working i just take it and put it to the side. I have a busy life and dont get chance to sort out my own post let alone become a next day delivery service for someone else.

Nothingl3ft · 27/04/2026 20:52

I get mail for 2 different addresses that aren't mine, regularly, and I work shifts, depending on what I've worked and what time it is, I don't deliver it to the 'correct' address as soon as I get home & see it's there, sometimes I'm home at 1 in the morning, sometimes I'm desperate for a wee and chuck it on the table and then forget, sometimes I've been in bed when it's delivered because I've been on nights and have no intentions of getting dressed and am certainly not schlepping around the street in my dressing gown with my eyes half open - in short their mail isn't my priority, it gets done when I get chance and I expect the same from my neighbours too, I'm not employed by RM to correct their delivery mistakes.
I've also opened things belonging to neighbours because I have been expecting something and been on autopilot. I'm a human being who isn't perfect, have a life of my own and I'm not employed by RM to correct their mistakes, and if my neighbours took the attitude with me you are with your neighbour, because I don't deliver fast enough for their liking, then I'd think they had a bloody cheek and it would be going back in the post box next time I passed with "Delivered to wrong address" on it.

Uptightmumma · 27/04/2026 20:51

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:39

I didn’t get a notification.

I searched up the tracking number I received from the sender on Royal Mail tracking

It stated “delivered” and a photo of the parcel being passed over a random driveway and a pair of shoes.

If they didn’t have the drive way paving in the photo I would have had no idea where the parcel was.

I had to search up my street looking for the driveway which matched the photo on the tracking.

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That’s still not the person who took the delivery’s fault. They taken a parcel in good faith and the onus is not on them to deliver it

Arlanymor · 27/04/2026 20:49

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:45

Because if a delivery driver handed me a small envelope that fits through a letterbox - intended for a different house, 20 seconds down the road. I would simply walk 20 seconds down the road and post it through the letterbox of the correct house.

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Because there was nothing else going in their life at that time? They should drop everything and deliver to you, your majesty?

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FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:45

Branleuse · 27/04/2026 19:54

It's been a day. You don't know what they have got going on in their lives to decide that they aren't nice to their neighbours.
Why do you want to think the worst of them?

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Because if a delivery driver handed me a small envelope that fits through a letterbox - intended for a different house, 20 seconds down the road. I would simply walk 20 seconds down the road and post it through the letterbox of the correct house.

🤷🏼‍♀️

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SylvanMoon · 27/04/2026 20:45

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:40

you say we're all horrible inconsiderate people.

Please direct quote where I have said you are all horrible inconsiderate people.

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Correction: You didn't say the exact words that we are "horrible inconsiderate people". You insinuated it, and placed yourself in a much more kind neighbourly position while doing so:

I’ve always popped straight out to post it through the door.
This is the first time it’s happened where my post has gone elsewhere.
But yes this thread has opened my eyes that not everyone would do the same as I.
lesson learnt 🤣

pinkdelight · 27/04/2026 20:42

I got an Amazon notification the other day that my parcel had been delivered, but I was delivered a parcel for 6 houses away and they'd been delivered mine. When I took theirs around, they hadn't even noticed the parcel they took in wasn't for them. With all the WFH and all the myriad deliveries, people just take things in, put them aside and get on with their day. I only noticed as it was clearly a bottle of booze that got delivered to mine whereas I'd ordered a boring book. I should've been really rude and kept theirs really!