Page 11 | AIBU to think it was rude they kept my misdelivered parcel?

FrostedCandyAngel · 2026-04-27T17:33:47+00:00

Was expecting a parcel on Saturday. (Was a small package, in a padded envelope so could easily fit through letterbox, no signature required) Didn’t get delivered. So I checked the tracking details online Sunday evening. Tracking details said it had been delivered at 09:30am Saturday. It had a photo of the delivery person handing it over. All you can see in the photo is the package, someone’s shoes and their driveway. Which had a particular unique pattern of paving. It wasn’t my shoes, or my driveway. I walked up and down my street trying the find the driveway. Found it. About 8 houses down. Knocked on the door and luckily they answered. I said “Oh I’m just wondering if you have a parcel for number 60 please”. They said yes, and gave it me. No “sorry I was going to bring it round/post it through your letter box”. I understand people are busy but they had my parcel for 30+ hours. I would have had no idea they had it unless I went out looking at everyone’s driveways. Was this rude of them?

Arlanymor · 27/04/2026 21:31

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 21:13

Thank you so much. This is exactly my point. Common sense prevails 👏🏻👏🏻🤣

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Exactly your point?

Did you miss this bit: A letter for a neighbour might not get noticed for days! I take it round when I can.

You’re complaining about 30 hours… how does that align with your ‘could have just delivered it 20 seconds after they received it’ narrative?

Upsetbetty · 27/04/2026 21:29

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 21:25

Yes you’re right. I should have gone round within 24 hours. Not 30. What was I thinking Betty?🤣

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Well you’re the one complaining that they kept it for 30hours….if you wanted the parcel then it’s your job to keep an eye on it and track it…not your neighbours!!

onpills4godsake · 27/04/2026 21:29

If it was me and I delivered it to you it would be at 5am, it’s not my responsibility to sort your delivery

PepsiBook · 27/04/2026 21:28

They don't know that you had no idea where it went.
20 hours is nothing. You have no idea what they've been doing in that time, if they were even home.
Maybe the had a PJs day.
Maybe they were ill.
Maybe they just forgot all about it.
Why are you so bothered by it that you felt you needed to start a thread?

MatronPomfrey · 27/04/2026 21:27

I would expect someone to collect their parcel from me because I’d expect the delivery company to tell them where it was delivered to. Your neighbour isn’t to know the delivery company didn’t do that. Your contract is with the company you purchased the item from. You complain to them about the delivery service, they can then complain to the company they used.

LittlePinkWeed · 27/04/2026 21:27

I've had two envelope-sized tracked deliveries by Royal Mail, where they took photos of the envelopes being posted through the letterbox as proof of delivery. Unfortunately it wasn't my front door they were posted through. I tracked down whose front door it was but never got them back from the owner.

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FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 21:25

Upsetbetty · 27/04/2026 21:23

Yes you should.

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Yes you’re right. I should have gone round within 24 hours. Not 30. What was I thinking Betty?🤣

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RawBloomers · 27/04/2026 21:25

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 19:00

Because they live 8 houses down from me.

The parcel was a small envelope that can fit through any letterbox. It had my full correct address on.

I’d have thought the neighbourly thing to do would be to quickly nip down and post it through my letter box.

It’s what I do. If I get posted a letter or something that fits through a letter box in error I will always take it round.

But then again this is Mumsnet where being nice to neighbours doesn’t exist.

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It's the neighbourly thing to do, but it doesn't mean it's rude not to. There's a lot of neutral ground between neighbourly and rude.

Upsetbetty · 27/04/2026 21:23

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 21:19

Sorry Betty. I’ll try and not be as lax next time.

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Yes you should.

moderate · 27/04/2026 21:21

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 21:19

Sorry Betty. I’ll try and not be as lax next time.

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Irony upon irony upon irony.

moderate · 27/04/2026 21:20

PuggyPuggyPuggy · 27/04/2026 21:10

Am I the only one wondering what the hell everyone is on about with the neighbours "doing OP a favour"? It was an envelope that fits through a letterbox. If it's ended up 8 houses down the street, it's because the postie has made a mistake and delivered it to the wrong address - it's not a "will you take this parcel for your neighbour" job.

As for the AIBU - I sometimes accept a wodge of post from the postie or pick it up off the doormat, and then chuck it on the side without looking at it. A letter for a neighbour might not get noticed for days! I take it round when I can, because they obviously have no idea that I've got one of their letters. I wouldn't kill myself to get an envelope to another house if I was busy, and I wouldn't be apologising for the delivery guys mistake.

( And if I ever get another parcel for the neighbour who has the same first name as me, and lives in a house with the second digit of the number the same as mine, I might not bother... her other half was arsey when we tried to take her parcel round 😐)

If it's ended up 8 houses down the street, it's because the postie has made a mistake and delivered it to the wrong address - it's not a "will you take this parcel for your neighbour" job

Then why did the postie take a photo of the delivery, it rather than just posting it through the wrong letterbox?

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FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 21:19

Upsetbetty · 27/04/2026 21:15

I still can’t see why it’s your neighbour who has the problem tbh
if I was waiting on a package on Saturday I would have checked way before Sunday eve also…so now I think YABU for being so lax and then blaming your neighbour..

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Sorry Betty. I’ll try and not be as lax next time.

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FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 21:18

winnieanddaisy · 27/04/2026 21:10

I think that the neighbour probably thought that the postman had put a card through your door saying where the parcel was.
With this in mind they probably thought that you would be along to collect your parcel soon . They wouldn’t know that he hadn’t put a card through door .

Surely it’s a bit strange to leave a card through the correct houses door, but then leave the envelope 8 houses down. An envelope that did not require a signature and can fit in the same letterbox that the card was posted through.

Yeah, okay everyone, guilty!!! Maybe it’s just me. Happy to be unreasonable here.

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ButterYellowHair · 27/04/2026 21:17

Snooks1971 · 27/04/2026 18:38

Eh? It wasn’t a neighbour and the OP had no idea where it had been delivered!

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That’s on the courier

TeenLifeMum · 27/04/2026 21:16

nevernotmaybe · 27/04/2026 20:26

If you choose to take it in, this is you interrupting the delivery. The delivery has not been legally fulfilled unless the recipient specifically requested it be left somewhere else. So you aren't helping, and then demanding they fix what you didn't help.

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If someone delivers to my door I assume the neighbour was out and I’m helping. I’m already inconvenienced once the onus is on the neighbour. Thankfully my neighbours are great.

we had a delivery and I had to track the parcel from the post photo - it’s annoying but it was my responsibility not the kind neighbour who took it in.

Upsetbetty · 27/04/2026 21:15

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 21:11

Ah apologies Betty that I couldn’t get round to answering your first question.

I spent Saturday assuming the delivery was delayed. As it can be with Royal Mail. They’ve been shocking recently. Nothing out of the ordinary in my area.

Anyway, I was bored Sunday evening and thought I’d double check the tracking, perhaps it’s still in transit and will be delivered tomorrow (Monday).

That’s when I saw it had been deliver at 09:30am Saturday with just a photo of the postie handing it over a driveway that wasn’t mine. No house number.

Is MY explanation okay now? Or do you need a full play-by-play of my whole weekend?

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I still can’t see why it’s your neighbour who has the problem tbh
if I was waiting on a package on Saturday I would have checked way before Sunday eve also…so now I think YABU for being so lax and then blaming your neighbour..

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FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 21:13

PuggyPuggyPuggy · 27/04/2026 21:10

Am I the only one wondering what the hell everyone is on about with the neighbours "doing OP a favour"? It was an envelope that fits through a letterbox. If it's ended up 8 houses down the street, it's because the postie has made a mistake and delivered it to the wrong address - it's not a "will you take this parcel for your neighbour" job.

As for the AIBU - I sometimes accept a wodge of post from the postie or pick it up off the doormat, and then chuck it on the side without looking at it. A letter for a neighbour might not get noticed for days! I take it round when I can, because they obviously have no idea that I've got one of their letters. I wouldn't kill myself to get an envelope to another house if I was busy, and I wouldn't be apologising for the delivery guys mistake.

( And if I ever get another parcel for the neighbour who has the same first name as me, and lives in a house with the second digit of the number the same as mine, I might not bother... her other half was arsey when we tried to take her parcel round 😐)

Thank you so much. This is exactly my point. Common sense prevails 👏🏻👏🏻🤣

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pinkdelight · 27/04/2026 21:12

Can’t believe it’s just me that thinks this is crazy!

Can't believe you think anyone else thinks so much about an envelope they get delivered for someone else! They didn't have all these thoughts you're having. They took it in and put it aside for you to come and collect. Which you did. Why you find that so difficult to process is the only thing that's crazy!

Twinkylightsg · 27/04/2026 21:12

No sorry. I am no one's delivery person. Come get your parcel 🤷‍♀️

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FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 21:11

Upsetbetty · 27/04/2026 21:03

and again I ask….if it would only take 20 seconds…why did YOU take 30 hours!?

Ah apologies Betty that I couldn’t get round to answering your first question.

I spent Saturday assuming the delivery was delayed. As it can be with Royal Mail. They’ve been shocking recently. Nothing out of the ordinary in my area.

Anyway, I was bored Sunday evening and thought I’d double check the tracking, perhaps it’s still in transit and will be delivered tomorrow (Monday).

That’s when I saw it had been deliver at 09:30am Saturday with just a photo of the postie handing it over a driveway that wasn’t mine. No house number.

Is MY explanation okay now? Or do you need a full play-by-play of my whole weekend?

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PuggyPuggyPuggy · 27/04/2026 21:10

Am I the only one wondering what the hell everyone is on about with the neighbours "doing OP a favour"? It was an envelope that fits through a letterbox. If it's ended up 8 houses down the street, it's because the postie has made a mistake and delivered it to the wrong address - it's not a "will you take this parcel for your neighbour" job.

As for the AIBU - I sometimes accept a wodge of post from the postie or pick it up off the doormat, and then chuck it on the side without looking at it. A letter for a neighbour might not get noticed for days! I take it round when I can, because they obviously have no idea that I've got one of their letters. I wouldn't kill myself to get an envelope to another house if I was busy, and I wouldn't be apologising for the delivery guys mistake.

( And if I ever get another parcel for the neighbour who has the same first name as me, and lives in a house with the second digit of the number the same as mine, I might not bother... her other half was arsey when we tried to take her parcel round 😐)

hopyou · 27/04/2026 21:10

Stop it now. You’re being ridiculous

winnieanddaisy · 27/04/2026 21:10

I think that the neighbour probably thought that the postman had put a card through your door saying where the parcel was.
With this in mind they probably thought that you would be along to collect your parcel soon . They wouldn’t know that he hadn’t put a card through door .

Arlanymor · 27/04/2026 21:09

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:57

I mean I would have rather the Royal Mail driver post it through my letter box.

But to answer your question, yes. I would have much rather the random house 8 houses down refused the delivery. At least then the driver may have double checked the address and brought it round to me.

At least if it went back to the depot, it would be clear on the tracking details. Not a photo of a random driveway that I had to search for.

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Hope you told them that when you collected it then? To refuse the next time?

lornad00m · 27/04/2026 21:09

FrostedCandyAngel · 27/04/2026 20:59

Surely with common sense you’d think if a courier can post a slip through my letterbox they can also post the actual enveloped package through my letterbox. It didn’t require a signature upon delivery.

Post a slip through my door but leve the envelope 8 houses down.

Can’t believe it’s just me that thinks this is crazy!

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So your problem should be with the courier. Who didn't leave a card. Or could have in fact fit the parcel through the letterbox. Unless he needed a photo of an open door to show proof of delivery.

Your issue shouldn't be with your neighbour.