Bloody hell, this thread is infuriating.
OP’s son told her exactly why he wouldn’t let her in. OP has told everyone here the reason, and said that her son has discussed the GFs issues with him before this incident. There’s no reason to disbelieve him (or OP). But some of you just can’t accept that a GF/DiL might be unreasonable or be the one to cause inconvenience, so you turn into Poundshop Poirots’
“Nah, it’s not that. His house is just messy”
”The GF probably insisted he cleaned up before you came but the lazy sod couldn’t be bothered”
”Nah, he’s secretly gay. There’s a man in the house”
”No, he’s growing weed”
”He’s probably a druggy devil worshiper with a sex dungeon”
”Ackshuwally ☝️🤓 I believe I’ve just found proof that OP has shamed her son and now she’s banned from entering his home (he just hasn’t informed her she’s been banished)”
”Yes, that’s it. OP is a filth shamer. He may have seemed happy to have your help cleaning, but deep down you’ve wounded him terribly”
Come on people. How about sometimes…just occasionally.. people actually mean what they say 🤯 not everyone feels the need to make up fake excuses in every single instance.
OP I agree with the poster who said that she’d be concerned for your son. I really do understand why you were upset, it can’t have been nice and must’ve been a shock to have such a basic request shut down when you were in need. I just think you need to talk to your son about it.
It might be that he was worried about the GF reaction and it was easier to upset you (as the more reliable, reasonable person in his life).
I also understand what the other poster means when she said GF may have been mortified that he’d taken her request to that extreme…but it was still her request, and she should never have put him in that position when she had plenty of notice you were coming and her own home to go to. It’s really not all his fault.