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AIBU to resent my parents for helping my brother financially?

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Palpna · 26/04/2026 23:46

Ive discovered that my parents gifted my brother a significant amount of money ( from our grand parents inheritence) when he bought his first home in london , 20 years later , he is now able to retire early , as house value increased.
Ive not been gifted a penny ever, even when my husband lost his job in 2008 recession , we had two children aged 2 and 1 I had to work fulltime as a result . My resentment is off the scale. We cant retire as still have debt What would you do

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Nofeckingway · 26/04/2026 23:52

Not a lot you can do really. How did you find out ? Any idea why they would give it to him and why they would hide it ? At the time they might have been able to afford it but not in 2008 . I had similar in that my parents gave my brother a big deposit but it didn't bother me as I was glad for him . If it is really upsetting you I think you should have a talk with them to get an explanation. Maybe they have provided for you in their will instead.

Newmumatlast · 26/04/2026 23:49

Palpna · 26/04/2026 23:46

Ive discovered that my parents gifted my brother a significant amount of money ( from our grand parents inheritence) when he bought his first home in london , 20 years later , he is now able to retire early , as house value increased.
Ive not been gifted a penny ever, even when my husband lost his job in 2008 recession , we had two children aged 2 and 1 I had to work fulltime as a result . My resentment is off the scale. We cant retire as still have debt What would you do

Wow. Unless there is some other back story I.e. its a half brother and the inheritance is from the bio parent side who isnt your parent, then this for me would be no contact territory

ToKittyornottoKitty · 26/04/2026 23:49

YANBU to feel how you do. But what can you do about it? It’s their money and it’s up to them

Lougle · 26/04/2026 23:48

What can you do? Your parents have made a choice. Nothing they say will change what happened, and I doubt anything they say by way of explanation will make you feel better.