To try and get pregnant at 46

My mum had me at 45..... and im ok lol

I’m 43, no kids. When someone asks me if I’d like to have one before it’s too late, I point out that if I had really wanted a child, I’d have had one/tried for one by now.

Sorry OP but I think it’s too old.

Why are you thinking of it now? Opportunity due to a newish relationship where it feels right, or a final flush of hormones trying to turn your head?

Up to you but it can be unpredictable. I was in excellent health until around 50 and it all went South quite quickly and the thought of having a 3 year old to look after would be close to impossible.
If you've a support network, perhaps.

It’s a stupid, selfish idea.

a wanted baby is a happy baby assuming that wanted baby doesn’t have life-long disabilities, the possibility of which is high in which case that baby may sadly not be as wanted when it turns the OP into a carer 24/7.

And if it doesn’t the baby will be without its mother by the time it’s 30 most likely, or at best visiting her in a care home.

And at 65 people will assume that the OP is her child’s granny.

How embarrassing for the child. Assuming again that is that said child doesn’t have significant disabilities.

Menopause is there for a reason.

Yes occasionally people get pregnant late in life, and occasionally things work out. But more often than not they absolutely don’t.

You'll be hitting menopause with a tantrumming toddler.... 😵‍💫

Your child has a higher than normal chance of being disabled, making it even harder as a parent.

It would be completely unreasonable to do so.
You need to accept that children are not for you and move on.

I should say that I am early 40s with three young kids and am loving it!

OP, I'd ask to get this thread moved to a pregnancy board. You are going to get responses here from people who cannot possibly emphasise with you.

Gosh no chance sorry! I’m 45 and woah… no chance. But I do have an acquaintance who has had two babies via donor eggs… at 48 and 49!

I am slightly shocked at the responses when most women I know had their first child very late 30s/early 40s. I feel that is quite normal now. Is 46 really that much older, if biologically it proves possible. Obviously quite a bit depends on that.

Quite. I’m 44 with a 4 year old and a 2 year old and I’m not tired.

YABU. It's too late. Lots of people on MN will tell you otherwise ofc.

Leaving aside the low change of carrying a healthy baby to term, and the impact of that child having such an old mother, please consider your own reproductive organs. You've never given birth, and things down there just won't be as robust as someone in their twenties, thirties or even early 40s. You'll be a kick in the balls off 50 by the time you go through labour, and you'll probably really injure yourself.

You can't possibly know that. You haven't had the suffering of infertility! You weren't in the ops shoes as you were blessed to have a child at 26. Not everyone walks the same walk as you!

I made friends with mums who were in their early 50s when mine were in pre-school and primary. Both also had grown up children/ older teens. They were probably knackered but so was I. One worked part time, the other was wfh and her husband did a lot of the childcare. They were most probably knackered but I think they also loved it. There was definitely no stigma around it.

It is very sad to lose your mum when she was 448, but it is not connected to the OP's situation.

65 with an 18 year old starting university doesn't sound too bad.

Please don't, collecting a kid from primary school in your mid - fiftes? And coping with a teenager when you are mid/late 60's?

Just no

Have you frozen eggs?

My friends are going to start IVF soon at 45(her) and 54. She froze her eggs years ago she was waiting for MrRight.
They will be first time parents so know no different but I personally wouldn’t recommend.
Being a parent is a million times harder than people let on. So much exhaustion, stress and worry goes on behind closed doors.

Go for it. If it works great, if not at least you tried. I’m 52 and no more knackered than I was at 20.

Will this be your first? IVF can be gruesome and lonely and very hard but if you have the money and the energy then why not?

If there a big back story to this?

But that's such a silly way to look at it. Some people's parents die when they're babies. OP could have a baby next year and then live to 115. None of us know how much time we have.

I have always been the strongest believer of our bodies guiding us. If OP manages to conceive and carry, she clearly isn't too old to have a baby, as her body is allowing her to do it.

I knew someone who felll pregnant by accident at 46 (her other kids were late teens) and as a Catholic didn't abort. She was very happy with her 4 year old at 50, but she was a very together person and had done it before. So it depends....

Children do love their parents. Also you can get inheritance much sooner.