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Would you be bothered if your partner called you his ‘lady friend’?

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thinkprint · 26/04/2026 19:02

My partner said to his brother (who I’ve never met) that he’s busy today because his ‘lady friend’ was over. Would this bother you?

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thinkprint · 26/04/2026 19:15

MargotLovesTom · 26/04/2026 19:11

Were you bothered by the fact that he didn't refer to you by your name? Almost like his brother wouldn't know who you were if he just said, 'Sarah's here'....'Eh? Who's Sarah?'

No, his brother knows who I am. I wasn’t bothered, but I told a friend that he’d used such an old fashioned term and she said she’d be insulted.

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MargotLovesTom · 26/04/2026 19:11

Were you bothered by the fact that he didn't refer to you by your name? Almost like his brother wouldn't know who you were if he just said, 'Sarah's here'....'Eh? Who's Sarah?'

ToKittyornottoKitty · 26/04/2026 19:09

thinkprint · 26/04/2026 19:07

No, we’ve known each other for years, had quite a casual relationship for a couple of years which has gradually grown more serious.

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Why’ve you not met his brother then? It’s not an offensive term but it does sound like a casual relationship

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thinkprint · 26/04/2026 19:07

ToKittyornottoKitty · 26/04/2026 19:05

Guessing he’s a fairly new or casual relationship if you’ve not met his brother?

No, we’ve known each other for years, had quite a casual relationship for a couple of years which has gradually grown more serious.

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MyBraveFace · 26/04/2026 19:06

I would assume a casual or platonic relationship from that description.

youalright · 26/04/2026 19:06

thinkprint · 26/04/2026 19:05

We are late 30s.

Then yes 🤣🤣🤣 but id probably just laugh and rip the piss out of him for it

ToKittyornottoKitty · 26/04/2026 19:05

Guessing he’s a fairly new or casual relationship if you’ve not met his brother?

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thinkprint · 26/04/2026 19:05

We are late 30s.

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StonwEd · 26/04/2026 19:04

How old are you both? My dad is 76 and might refer to his partner as his lady friend but any younger it seems very odd unless in jest 🤣