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Would you be bothered if your partner called you his ‘lady friend’?

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thinkprint · 26/04/2026 19:02

My partner said to his brother (who I’ve never met) that he’s busy today because his ‘lady friend’ was over. Would this bother you?

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whatwouldlilacerullodo · 26/04/2026 20:03

MargotLovesTom · 26/04/2026 19:20

It just sounds like cheesy banter between brothers. Along the lines of 'gentleman caller'. Wouldn't bother me.

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I would assume the same. It's a joke.

AppleKatie · 26/04/2026 20:03

I’d assume it was said in jest. If not ick

SpiceGirlsNeedAComeBack · 26/04/2026 20:00

how old is he? 80? 😂

thedevilinablackdress · 26/04/2026 19:59

I'd probably just think it was the sort of mildly odd language brothers might use with each other.
That, or is his Dad Alan Partridge?

CurdinHenry · 26/04/2026 19:52

thinkprint · 26/04/2026 19:49

What’s the difference between girlfriend and partner?

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A partner is someone you have legal and practical intersection with (live together usually). A girlfriend is goes out for dinner a couple of times a week, has sex, is standing plus one for parties and events.

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thinkprint · 26/04/2026 19:49

CurdinHenry · 26/04/2026 19:23

I think it means you're a girlfriend rather than a partner as I would understand the term

What’s the difference between girlfriend and partner?

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InterestedDad37 · 26/04/2026 19:49

Almost without exception, men who use that expression are, in my experience, absolute to$$ers and usually complete gammons (age is irrelevant here) 😀

Endofyear · 26/04/2026 19:42

It's an odd turn of phrase but I don't think I'd be insulted. Although he could have just said I'm with (your name) today if your brother knows you're his girlfriend!

mumofoneAloneandwell · 26/04/2026 19:38

That would really bother me

I picture Stephen from MAFSAUS saying that, i'd feel sick 🤢🤢🤢🤢

Leave him x

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 26/04/2026 19:37

Start referring to him as your 'gentleman caller'... 😂

IDontHateRainbows · 26/04/2026 19:36

I'd find it hilarious 😂

Plummagic · 26/04/2026 19:35

I'd think it was funny.

Foodylicious · 26/04/2026 19:34

I'd either feel able to massively take the piss, or get the ick.
Thinking about it, I think I'd be more likely to get the ick.

Bikergran · 26/04/2026 19:33

If he's under 95 years old, frankly it's weird.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 26/04/2026 19:31

Oleoreoleo · 26/04/2026 19:26

What would you prefer he call you?

Presumably partner as that’s what she calls him

Oleoreoleo · 26/04/2026 19:26

What would you prefer he call you?

HamToasties · 26/04/2026 19:25

Maybe I’m really old (40s) but I have heard it said a few times. I actually like it, sounds much better than partner or girlfriend.

AliTheMinx · 26/04/2026 19:25

Yes. I.am not ancient!

CurdinHenry · 26/04/2026 19:23

I think it means you're a girlfriend rather than a partner as I would understand the term

Error404FucksNotFound · 26/04/2026 19:23

Wouldn't bother me .

Maybe he doesnt feel you are partners, maybe he feels he's a bit old for girlfriend / boyfriend.

HelenaWilson · 26/04/2026 19:21

Better than grown adults saying 'boyfriend' and 'girlfriend'.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 26/04/2026 19:20

thinkprint · 26/04/2026 19:15

No, his brother knows who I am. I wasn’t bothered, but I told a friend that he’d used such an old fashioned term and she said she’d be insulted.

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If you aren’t bothered that’s all that matters. Out of context I thought it just sounded casual, like friends with benefits really, but if you aren’t offended then your friend doesn’t need to be insulted on your behalf

MargotLovesTom · 26/04/2026 19:20

thinkprint · 26/04/2026 19:15

No, his brother knows who I am. I wasn’t bothered, but I told a friend that he’d used such an old fashioned term and she said she’d be insulted.

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It just sounds like cheesy banter between brothers. Along the lines of 'gentleman caller'. Wouldn't bother me.

Likeabirdjoyfully · 26/04/2026 19:17

Might be a joke. I wouldn't worry about it.

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thinkprint · 26/04/2026 19:15

ToKittyornottoKitty · 26/04/2026 19:09

Why’ve you not met his brother then? It’s not an offensive term but it does sound like a casual relationship

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We don’t really have a lot to do with each other’s families.

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